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Umbreit's Humanistic Mediation: A Transformative Journey Of Peacemaking

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After we have spent the first week of January together for our Transcending Conflict class, we leave the session wondering what type of qualities and characteristics it takes to be a successful mediator and peacemaker during these modern times. It is known that our Western culture is extremely “settlement driven” in terms of the mediation and dispute resolution process. We focus on the substantive issue of a conflict, and we hope to reach a mutually beneficial agreement that is “easy” and “quick.” As Americans, we usually do not get much credit, if any at all, about our ability to focus on other people through “compassion, strength, and common humanity.” In fact, the opposite perception probably dominates most people opinions of how we operate on the Western side of the globe. The rest of the world …show more content…

Authentic connection with others, first requires looking inward as a mediator. In the essay, Humanistic Mediation: A Transformative Journey of Peacemaking, author Mark Umbreit outlines for key questions we should be asking ourselves to achieve emotional honesty (Umbreit, 1997, 208). These four questions were developed from family therapists Virginia Satir and highlight what it means to “present” as a family therapists, but these questions can be applied on multiple levels, including the art of being an effective mediator. These four questions include: 1. How do I feel about myself? (self-esteem) 2. How do I get my meaning across to others? (communication) 3. How do I treat my feelings? (rules) • Do I own them or put them on someone else? • Do I act as though I have feelings that 1 do not or as though I don't have feelings that 1 really do? 4. How do I react to doing things that are new and different? (taking

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