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Spanking As A Form Of Punishment

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Every parent has had to face the question: how do I punish my child when they misbehave? Since parenting does not come with a guidebook or set of rules, it is ultimately up to the parent to see that bad behavior in their children is dealt with accordingly. For centuries, spanking has been the ultimate choice of child punishment. However, there are many arguments against it today. Some say corporal punishment of children can affect their personalities later on in life. Some people view physical punishment child abuse. Where does the line lay between abuse and punishment? Other arguments say that physical punishment of a child has no effect at all to the child; it teaches them neither right nor wrong. Spanking is seen as a form of punishment …show more content…

Parents are worried that spanking could negatively affect their children. According to CNN.com, children who are spanked tend to have less grey matter within the brain. This means a child’s IQ can be effected, and they are at more risk of drug addiction that children who were not spanked. Other negative effects derive from issues in the parent-child relationship. Arguments against spanking say that physical punishment leads to an approval of violence in the child, and can cause them to be aggressive or abusive in adulthood. Some studies have shown that when parents stop using physical punishment, their child’s behavior actually improved (Walton). So now parents have to decide what ways are best to deal with insubordinate children. Parents that do not use spanking as a form of punishment use methods like time-outs and taking away privileges; supposedly, these methods are more useful because it gives the child more time to draw a connection between being out of line and being …show more content…

Spanking is okay, in moderation, and only when done in a loving matter. Spanking must be done only for a means of discipline, not abuse because, “discipline is instilled to have self-control,… whereas abuse is acting without any control in behavior”(Prabhat). Now, to ensure that spanking is done effectively and not to excess, people must be in control of their own emotions and not caught up in a bout of anger. The point of spanking is to teach, not let off steam. According to an article in Focus on the Family, The most effective approach to spanking children is using these seven steps: Give the child a clear warning beforehand, make evident the child’s responsibility for his/her misbehavior, avoid embarrassing the child at all costs, let the child know your disappointment as a parent, only swat with a flick of the wrist to avoid too much force (Ingram). All of this can be accomplished with a healthy parent-child relationship where authority is established in a healthy manner. Incorporating different forms of punishment can also be useful in developing that parent-child relationship. Also, the punishment must be proportionate to the wrong doings of the child; less naughty offenses should come with lighter consequences, while more unruly behavior should come with harsher

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