Every parent has had to face the question: how do I punish my child when they misbehave? Since parenting does not come with a guidebook or set of rules, it is ultimately up to the parent to see that bad behavior in their children is dealt with accordingly. For centuries, spanking has been the ultimate choice of child punishment. However, there are many arguments against it today. Some say corporal punishment of children can affect their personalities later on in life. Some people view physical punishment child abuse. Where does the line lay between abuse and punishment? Other arguments say that physical punishment of a child has no effect at all to the child; it teaches them neither right nor wrong. Spanking is seen as a form of punishment …show more content…
Parents are worried that spanking could negatively affect their children. According to CNN.com, children who are spanked tend to have less grey matter within the brain. This means a child’s IQ can be effected, and they are at more risk of drug addiction that children who were not spanked. Other negative effects derive from issues in the parent-child relationship. Arguments against spanking say that physical punishment leads to an approval of violence in the child, and can cause them to be aggressive or abusive in adulthood. Some studies have shown that when parents stop using physical punishment, their child’s behavior actually improved (Walton). So now parents have to decide what ways are best to deal with insubordinate children. Parents that do not use spanking as a form of punishment use methods like time-outs and taking away privileges; supposedly, these methods are more useful because it gives the child more time to draw a connection between being out of line and being …show more content…
Spanking is okay, in moderation, and only when done in a loving matter. Spanking must be done only for a means of discipline, not abuse because, “discipline is instilled to have self-control,… whereas abuse is acting without any control in behavior”(Prabhat). Now, to ensure that spanking is done effectively and not to excess, people must be in control of their own emotions and not caught up in a bout of anger. The point of spanking is to teach, not let off steam. According to an article in Focus on the Family, The most effective approach to spanking children is using these seven steps: Give the child a clear warning beforehand, make evident the child’s responsibility for his/her misbehavior, avoid embarrassing the child at all costs, let the child know your disappointment as a parent, only swat with a flick of the wrist to avoid too much force (Ingram). All of this can be accomplished with a healthy parent-child relationship where authority is established in a healthy manner. Incorporating different forms of punishment can also be useful in developing that parent-child relationship. Also, the punishment must be proportionate to the wrong doings of the child; less naughty offenses should come with lighter consequences, while more unruly behavior should come with harsher
The main reason that parents use spanking as a discipline technique is because it is what they received when they were children. However, in many cases spanking has nothing to do with helping the child. It is used as a quick solution to stop negative behavior with no real regard for the long-term outcome. Parents often spank their children because they themselves are angry. These parents simply cannot handle a situation and take it out on their child. Spanking might be more accepted if it was the only, or the most successful, form of discipline, but it is not. Spanking is simply a short-term fix of a child 's discipline problems. Two of the widely used alternatives to spanking are the time-out and restriction punishments. Time-out is most effective when administered to children under ten years of age, and a restriction mostly benefits children over ten years old. Both of these methods, while effective, also have a positive influence on the child, they teach the child discipline without the use of force, help the child
“It’s down to seven seconds. You see the time…Whittenburg…. Oh it’s a long ways, Oh he’s there! They won it…on a dunk!” Billy Packer said this when covering the historical run by the NC State Wolfpack to win the Division 1 NCAA tournament in a dramatic fashion. A team with no chance of making the tournament, let alone winning the championship, does the impossible and wins the NCAA Division 1 championship. Despite NC State being a smaller school compared to the big basketball powerhouses like Virginia, UNC, Houston and many others, they had players work and will their way to the finish line. If players were paid, you wouldn’t see players like Michael Jordan, Hakeem Olajuwon, or Ralph Sampson on different teams. It would be the college with the most money, could pay the best student-athletes, the most money and Cinderella stories for the most part would disappear. Dynasties of college sports would be made. Money would ruin college sports more than it already has. It has already stripped championships, ruined players images and futures, and tarnished reputations of colleges. The Fab 5, the near “3-Pete” for Oklahoma University, and the USC Trojans football team scandal, are just a few instances where college sports were affected wrongly by the idea of “play for pay.” Colleges and Universities should not pay students to participate in college sports because of all the benefits the athletes receive, the fact that the colleges wouldn’t be able to pay for other
Pericles started the rebuild programme of the acropolis to celebrate the victory over the Persians and also because it was in ruins from the number of wars it had suffered. At the time Athens was slowly becoming a dominant city in Greece and Pericles wanted to showcase Athens in that way. Pericles realised that the city was never properly rebuilt after the last Persian war, every grand temple was still burnt to the ground and as a soon to be popular city , this was no way for an empire to look. Pericles did not want his city to be resembled as ruined. He also built a new meeting hall for the assembly along with other public buildings. As Pericles had a great passion for the arts, he also incorporated sculptures to make the city look even more
Spanking: Right or Wrong form of physical punishment? Physical punishment has been a common form of discipline that parents use to punish their children. Spanking is the act of striking the buttocks of children with hand,belt,paddle,swithch,and other house hold tools to cause temporary pain without physical injury for discipline. In recent years, there has been a heated debate on whether parents should or should not spank their children. Experts and many others agree that spanking can cause many negative effects for later on in life.
The experts that are against spanking say that it is a violent act and teaches children that hitting is okay. Pro spanking advocate, Dr. James Dobson, reprinted a very informative article by Dr. Den Trumbull M.D. and Dr. S. DuBose Ravenel M.D. entitled To Spank or Not to Spank: A look at an age-old question that baffles many physicians. It states, "There is no evidence in the medical literature that a mild spank to the buttocks of a disobedient child by a loving parent teaches the child aggressive behavior" (Dobson, 2004, p. 127). Dr. Dobson also cited the doctors whose article said that it is impractical to suppose that a child wouldn't show violent behavior if parents used other forms of discipline rather than spanking. Most toddlers, who have yet to be spanked because of their age, commonly strike out against others in aggravation. This is true of any toddler, seen out in public, who throws a temper tantrum over not getting his way. Countless parents, frustrated themselves, simply remove the child from making an undesirable scene. The only thing to do for a child of that age is to remove temptation and distract the child with a toy or juice cup. As the toddler grows, distraction is more difficult and the disciplining methods increase intensity. Some experts against spanking also argue that
Many see spanking as a form of parental rights and that the parent has the right to raise their child the way they consider most appropriate. Those in favor of spanking, also hold there is little evidence that moderate spanking is harmful. Further, many believe that discipline problems among children have recently increased, and partially attribute the boost to the decline of both parental authority and the use of spanking.
Many people believe that "a quick swat" from them to their child sends a clear message and is effectual discipline when included with loving remarks and in consistent fashion. I believe this view is the best way to help us understand the question: "is it ever appropriate to spank a child?" I believe that the answer that most definitely does not solve this question is that disciplining a child with spanking is alright when nothing else will work, or when the parent has "had enough." This could lead to abuse and/or psychosocially damaging discipline sessions. The context is that all-important factor that defines whether the discipline is appropriate or not. Unfortunately, many parents may have inherited foolish discipline
While this review of literature on spanking children is limited in finding evidence in supporting spanking, the research available that opposes spanking is rather compelling. The findings from the reviewed articles provide advice to parents, both new and long-time, on how to discipline their children if they want their children to have the best outcomes. The studies that have been reviewed are only a small amount of what has been published regarding the negative impacts that spanking can have on children. Additionally, this research may be a start for a move in society to begin viewing spanking as a negative child-rearing practice. While there is a lot more research that could be reviewed on this topic, high levels of aggression, behavioral problems, and
Child abuse is a very serious issue here in the United States. Child abuse is defined as the physical, mental, sexual abuse or exploitation, negligent treatment, or maltreatment of a child who is under the age 18 (Pro Quest Staff). Many of the children get abused by the person in charge of the child's care. This includes loved ones of the child, people who the child once could trust. In the all U.S. states allow parents to hit/spank their children in the manner of discipline.
Even after years of research, the issue of whether spanking is an adequate discipline strategy or damaging to children remains a controversial topic. According to Kazdin and Benjet (2003) the definition of spanking is “. . . hitting a child with an open hand on the buttocks or extremities with the intent to discipline without leaving a bruise or causing physical harm (p. 100). In addition, according to Maguire-Jack, Gromoske and Berger (2012) only a few studies propose that spanking is an effective form of discipline. On the other hand, there is more evidence to show that spanking is an unsuccessful form of discipline that can led to unwanted consequences (p. 1960). I personally do not take a stance in this topic because I can see valid points from both parties. Although, I believe that the way the punishment is presented to the child is extremely important. For example, I feel that the child should know why he or she is punished and what is expected of them thereafter.
Spanking has become an arguably debatable form of discipline. According to a study at the University of Texas, the more children are spanked, the more likely they are to defy their parents (“Spanking: Pros and Cons”). There is a connection between spanking during the childhood and mental health diagnoses later in life. There are other options of discipling your child than spanking them, especially because all children can take spanking differently. Parents should not spank their child because it showers that being “stronger” is right, demonstrates that older people have a right to hit younger people, and gives the examples that violence solves all problems.
A recent study shows 70 percent of parents believe it is right to discipline a child through physical means. Most commonly, parents will spank their children but being hit with things like belts or other objects happens as well. Parenting methods haven’t changed much with time and discipline in similar no matter the country. With more studies out to find the most effective method of parenting and discipline it’s coming to attention whether or not physical harm is the best way to teach children. Parents want what is best for their children, so it is important to constantly bring up and question methods commonly accepted in the past. One method that is becoming more controversial is spanking children. Though it is still considered normal to do, it is gaining more traction and more studies are being done to find the problems it causes. Checking on parenting methods can be difficult as everyone is raised differently. It is also difficult to test which forms of punishment lead to certain outcomes. However, there is a trend of negative effects from hitting. Gershoff acknowledges, “several national professional organizations have called on parents to abandon spanking as a child rearing practice and for professionals to recommend disciplinary alternatives to spanking.” Spanking children is a terrible discipline method as it has negative effects.
Many studies on cases of adults who have tendency to perpetuate abuses, either as a victim or as an abuser, are traced in the pattern of violence experienced at home, and many are reportedly experience being physically violated by spanking during their childhood. Despite the information and advocacy available in almost all media these days, there are still parents who thought that spanking their children to emphasize discipline is still beneficial. The benefits cited by those supporting spanking as acceptable method of discipline varied across culture and race. Generally, there are three views or positions about spanking as a form of discipline (Benject C. & Kazdin A, 2003) : Pro-corporal punishment, anti-corporal punishment, and conditional corporal punishment.
The second reason why spanking should not be done to children is the fact that it is a form of child abuse. At the moment, countries are divided as to legalize corporal punishment or create a law saying it is illegal. In the book written by Abela (2007) for the Council of Europe, she notes that “spanking of children less than two years old increases the risk of severe physical injury and the child is unlikely to understand the connection between behavior and punishment.” Most parents tend to go overboard when disciplining their children, especially when they are very angry and have not subdued their anger. This then makes the child their venting medium to get rid of that anger and sometimes, they do not apologize and even forget why they have done the deed. Other parents tend to make this a habit and even if the child did nothing wrong, they would still continue spanking the child. Eventually, the parents may slowly abuse the child through pain and totally make the child’s life a complete hell. As a result, child becomes frail and suffers psychological problems. Some countries, especially social services, use this as grounds to get the child away from the family and file cases of child abuse and physical injury that can lead to jail time if proven guilty. Spanking may also cause scarring and may be with the child
Most immigrants in the United States can either be part of the middle class or live in poverty. Based on the results from Ruark and Graham, low-skilled immigrants are more likely to live poverty and lack of health insurance. In their research, immigrants and their children made up about 32% of those who lives in America who does not have health insurance (Ruark and Graham “Immigration, Poverty and Low-Wage Earners”) Without statistic data, one could easily draw out a conclusion: since immigrants cannot obtain a health insurance, they cannot go to the doctor whenever they’re ill. Without proper treatment for critical diseases such as cancer, the immigrants would suffer more than they should have. Besides the lack of health insurance, there are numerous of cases of deportation of illegal immigrants. Luis H. Zayas and Mollie H. Bradlee’s article “Exiling Children, Creating Orphans: When Immigration Policies Hurt Citizens” explores the impact of deportation on the immigrant’s families and their children. According to the article, in 2012, the government had deported about 409,849 illegal immigrants back to their country. If the deportation only involved the entire family then the issue is not very serious, but it is serious when the illegal immigrant have a child with an American citizen, thus making the child an American citizen. At this point, the child’s family have to decide whether to leave the child in the United States or bring the child with them. If the parents choose