Practical Book Review Petersen Text 201440 Fall 2014 HSCO 508-D35 LUO Zakiya N Walters Practical Book Review Why Don’t We Listen Better? Summarize Why Don’t We Listen Better? is a book that I initially did not think I would enjoy reading or learn from. Contrarily, I have learned more about myself than I could have ever imagined. To begin, to summarize the book was a bit difficult because there were so many interesting and important aspects. It was not an easy task to decide what to add and what to omit. James Petersen sought out to explore and dissect communication and understanding within different types and levels of relationships. Petersen described the Flat Brain Theory of Emotions as a theory that describes …show more content…
What I realized from this book was that emotions and communication go hand in hand. Another issue that I will mention would be controlling my emotions in a conversation. If I feel a certain way about a conversation, it is very obvious. I have a hard time with hiding my emotions. Many say that I wear my emotions on my sleeve. However on the other hand emotions can also be an asset to communication as it helps to show others your passion and true interest in a subject matter that you are well versed on. Another aspect of communication that many do not recognize as a barrier to communication is judgment. If you think about it, a person is standing there, engaging you in a conversation and all you can think about are the ways that the person lives their life. That could also be considered as internal noise. Your thoughts and judgmental feelings can hinder you from listening. I do believe that a person’s lifestyle dictates the way he or she behaves and makes decisions. However, that is not an excuse to have a biased opinion and let your thoughts of this person cloud the message or information that he or she is trying to relay. I will be honest, I have been in that position. I was in a church service and I could not focus and did not hear the word because of what the Pastor had said previously. I repeatedly asked God to forgive me. The problem was that in one the services, the pastor began to
Dr. Petersen has called The Flat Brain Theory of Emotions. “It explains how our emotions, thinking and relating abilities work and how what goes inside us comes out in the ways we communicated and act.” (Petersen, 2007, p. 8) And without doubt that this is precisely the basis not only for a great communication, but is also related to a great listening.
James Petersen (2007) uses five parts to describe the talking and listening to help us process a better way of communicating and understanding each other. They are provided to help us connect in our relationships with others. According to Petersen, most of us think we listen well, but we don’t. Not
James C. Petersen sets out on a mission to aim, teach, improve listening, and talking skills. This improves relationships with others, both professionally and personally. Similar to other communication books he begins with a brief overview of communication and what to expect. The book is based on five section explores communication options. His book is based off of the Flat-Brain Theory of Emotions. Petersen (2007) he suggests that individuals become confused between the difference of a feeling and a thought and their relation. Different body parts and areas suggest various thoughts and feelings that affect each other. The Flat-Brain Theory, which purports a triadic formula of self that includes the stomach, heart, and head (Petersen 2007, p. 11). This leads to the Flat-Brain Syndrome which is detrimental to our communication with self and others.
The Goal was an interesting book to read about the production plant. Alex Rogo is the production manager, who is trying to save his plant, at least need to show some improvements within 90 days to keep it open. Alex's primary problem is that his plant cannot consistently get a quality product out of the plant on time at the cost that can beat the competition. His plant is losing money and if he cannot make it profitable, the management eventually will decide to close the plant. In his fight to save his plant, a physician, Jonah, helps him in achieving his objectives. Giving three month to turn the plant around, the plant manager turn to a manufacturing leader who has unique
The book is about how unwed fathers are seen as a leading social problem, but goes on to explain the flaws that occur after pregnancy that lead to the end of the couple’s romance. The book looks at the bond between the father and child rather than that between the parents. The book also goes through how changes economically and culturally for the urban poor as well as the obstacles they must overcome has changed fatherhood.
As Hough says, “When we don’t listen to people, we fail to make any real emotional connection with them.” (2012, p.40)
Petersen, J. C. (2007). Why don't we listen better? Communicating and connecting in relationships. Lincoln City, Oregon: Petersen Publications.
The reading on emotions is was a good reminder to “read each other”. Having a conversation with two parties that are able to do this is ideal and leads to quicker resolutions and the ability to be creative in solutions. Sounds so easy, but any times this is not the case as one of the parties in the conversation can’t or don’t read the other emotions. From our perspective, we can help lead the conversations by knowing how we can be involved in bringing awareness to this need. And how we can ensure we are reflecting on what is being said and the feelings that are being brought into the conflict or conversation. Being able to bring a relationship into a difficult conversations, stating why the other persons has an impact and how their decisions and actions, will relate can help in opening up the other party to share in the
Visible Learning: A Synthesis of over 800 Meta-Analyses Relating to Achievement shares insight into the influences on achievement of students. The overall message of the book is that teaching and learning should be visible. Hattie provides evidence based research on high-yield strategies that improve learning. Utilizing a common measure such as effect size, Hattie distinguishes between highly effective, effective, and ineffectiveness of strategies presented within the research. An effect size of 0.40 is the hinge point where the effects of a strategy begin to influence student achievement.
Reminds me of a chapter I read recently about communication and the various barriers of communication. One such barrier is emotion sometimes a person may not like a person therefore they do not hear what the person is saying although the person is speaking clearly.
Know yourself, this is a common theme in many articles on communication and it is a central point in this piece. Much of how emotions work into communication is unconscious, they seem to evolve without our own control. Just as we felt for the characters in the examples the author provided, in retrospect we can see our own missteps and may wish we could have handled it differently. Holly Weeks wants us to take a step back and observe that given one type of emotional situation we probably make the same type of mistakes every time. The author has a good word for it, tactics, though unlike the tactics deployed consciously when running a war or wining a race, these tactics are ones the subconscious uses to
A thesis can be defined as something an author tries to prove to their audience. A History of the World in Six Glasses by Tom Standage provides a very brilliant thesis. Tom Standage’s thesis is to inform the audience reading the book about the six vital drinks that helped make up history. He explains this by showing how the drink influenced major events around the globe. He begins with beer which the oldest from the six drinks and ends with the youngest drink Coca-Cola.
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