I now understand how listening effectively is important in my everyday activities. The foundation of listening is simple; however, when you think about it listening is far from simple. Listening is both physical and psychological. There is a whole process that goes with listening and it includes: receiving, interpreting, recalling, evaluating, and responding. Before I read about the listening process I never thought about how there is actually a system that goes with listening. Being a good listener can help you at school, at work, and other activities in your life. Being a is knowing how and when to respond.
I decided to write about the responding part of the listening process. Before you are able to respond to someone you must first be able to evaluate what is being discussed, and then you can give an appropriate response. According to Dr. John A. Kline and his book Listening Effectively he said, “Many times a nonverbal response is all that is needed; indeed, it may even be prefeed type of response. The knowing nod of the head, an understanding smile, or thumbs up.” (Ch.3 process of listening)
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Sometimes when someone is discussing something that I don’t have interest in in or I don’t know particularly what is being discussed, I do not pay attention or basically tune them out. In order for me to be a great wife, mother, student, and friend I need to be able to listen to everything someone is talking about, so that I can give my best response to them. Doing my research on the listening process has given me a lot of insight on things I need to work on and things that I am already great at ways to
Most people think they have good listening skills, but this rational is far from the truth. Why? Because according to Petersen (2007), “We must understand ourselves, how we think and feel, to fully engage in effective communication” (p. 65). However, often we do not understand ourselves and as a result, we tend to get ourselves in misunderstandings and even painful circumstances in life for lack of good listening skills. Dr. Petersen provides a clear guide to improving the interaction we have with others and also provided an answer to the question inscribed in the book title.
In regards to responding to others, Beebe & Mottet (2016) suggest that if a person is serious about listening, they need to be serious about turning off messages that may compete for attention and selection, which are typically the first two stages of the listening process. Furthermore, when an individual commits to listening, they should be become other-oriented instead of self-centered, as listening is about the other person (Beebe & Mottet,
As Sole describes in her book, Making Connections: Understanding Interpersonal Communication, ” Listening involves hearing, but it is much more than just the physiological act of your ears perceiving a sound and transmitting the auditory sensation to your brain. Listening is a complex psychological process that can be defined as the process of physically hearing, interpreting that sound, and understanding the significance of it. (Sole,K. 2011)
Listening to a conversation with person always maintains your personal relationship, professional work related and some other activities. In this article ’The Art of Listening’ what I really liked and found important was, the author
Listening is a profession setting allows us to form relationships with other coworkers, understand the needs and wants of others, properly understand the tasks at hand, and be able to differentiate between the levels of communication other have. Listening enables us to be able to perform better in a job and understand what others expect of you. Some significant barriers that are apparent in a communication setting would be noise, the inability to function as an active listener, and the failure to limit distractions. Many times we are given the chance to properly react to these barriers. By doing so, we allow ourselves to be much more effective in the work environment and allow others to be effective as
Firstly listening involves actively, and attentively taking in information. The other main aspect of active listening is to give nonverbal cues to the speaker so that they can understand if you are receiving the information. Dianne Schilling from Forbes.com breaks down listening into 10 steps. One example of how listening can be used at work is in a business meeting. Listening actively and attentively can increase your understanding of the information be presenting in a meeting, as well as provide the speaker with queues to know where to take the
I work from home so I had my husband take the assessment and I took the assessment and then averaged the two to come up the scores. I scored 25% for level one, 35.7% for level two, and 39.9% for level three.
Listening styles. Not something most people think about on a daily basis; well at least I never had. Undoubtedly, listening is one of the most important links in communication, but who knew there were different types of listening styles? I did not; at least not until completing this assignment. This was the main reason I was enthused about completing the listening style assessment. The listening assessment showed me that I have two listener preferences: people oriented and action oriented. I scored a four in both of these categories. I was initially surprised by my low score in the time oriented listening category, but upon further investigation I realized why I scored so low. I do not allocate time for listening and I do not feel comfortable cutting people off mid-conversation; even if I am feeling pressed for time. These traits are not consistent with time oriented listeners. Completing a listener profile allows one to purposefully use their strengths and weaknesses to work towards becoming a more efficient and effective listener.
Listening is more complex, and it encourages one to analyze and think about an idea, rather than to simply accept it (or “hear” it). Hearing is a skill that is beneficial for every aspect of life. As long as we have our ability to hear, we will always perceive different sounds, music, and voices. Listening, however, is beneficial to us in specific instances. It is important for us to attain good listening skills in education, the work force, and in our relationships with others in order to succeed. Good listening in education will bring about confident participation in class discussions; good listening in the workplace will lead to cooperation and good teamwork among colleagues; good listening in relationships is healthy and positive, for it is important to hear what an individual has to say in order to know how they feel.
A good listener understands that in order to increase the ability to tune in on another’s emotional message, the right environment must be set up to assist in focusing on what is being said. In order to do this, I must be completely free from distractions, and with that, separate myself from any possibility of interruption. Therefore, a good listener recognizes that there should be a time and a place set aside for this to happen. Again, take a few moments and consider the environment of a therapist, counselor, or minister when he or she listens to clients.
The ability to listen well is an important tool for understanding others. Sadly, very few people know how to listen well. In fact, most people can think of only one or two good listeners in their lives. Listening is not simply agreeing - it is much more. Good listeners are able to better understand and respond to others, complete assignments accurately, settle disagreements before they escalate, and establish rapport with difficult people.
The first reaction of most people when they consider listening as a possible method for dealing with human beings is that listening cannot be sufficient in itself, Because it is passive, they feel, listening does not communicate anything to the speaker. Actually, nothing could be farther from the truth.
Listening is a vital element of communication and it is very much different from hearing sense of human. A meaningful communication requires both a good listener and a speaker. However, the effect of a listening style may vary depending on the occasions and situations a listener is in. Sometimes, speaker exhibit ineffective style such as defensiveness, ambushing, pseudo-listening, stage hogging and selective listening in their communication tracks.
Listening is more than just hearing. The process of listening involves receiving and constructing meaning, and responding to verbal and/or nonverbal messages. In other words, listening is not always easy and being a good listener is all about developing listening skills. To receive messages appropriately we have to listen actively. Active listening can be broken down into three important skills; first of all you have to reflect the feelings that the person is communicating, secondly reflect the content that they are communicating and finally ask good, meaningful questions.
In this class, I’m learning quite a bit about listening. I’m learning how to listen and communicate better with people, especially when the things I’m listening to and talking about are more on the sensitive side of topics. I’ve always been a very closed off person, even from friends and family. I️ would have a hard time expressing my thoughts and emotions verbally and would get upset with people when they would try to pry. Friends and family would get angry with me when I️ wouldn’t talk or wouldn’t listen to them when all they were really doing was trying to help me. Very frequently when out in public it’s easy to observe this same kind of people or behavior. There are many more people out in the world with poor listening and communicating skills than you may think. For instance, those who get flustered when discussing certain topics whether it’s at the store or a coffee shop. If you like people watching, then you know what I’m talking about.