Letter for Couples who get Engage
Joseph D. Plante
COM 200
Jennifer Williams
November 25, 2013
Letter for Couples who get Engage
I. Introduction
A. Thesis Statement
Have you ever just looked and seen the love of your life? You stop and realize that this is the one for me. That the journey is over, I can stop looking. And then you stop and realize…Is this the one? Well I have only one question to ask you, how are the communication skills the you relay to each other, and are we good listeners?
II. Body paragraph#1-Topic Sentence #1
We think that relationships often should fall in place, or not have to work
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2011) Explanation
We as humans must understand that not all the time our communicating skills are the same, as the ones we are trying to communicate with.
IV. Body paragraph#3-Topic Sentence #3 Now that you get a warm and fuzzy feeling ont some of the steps to start a better way to communicate with each other we next must look at developing strategies for an active, critical, and empathic listening skills.
A Supporting Evidence
As Sole describes in her book, Making Connections: Understanding Interpersonal Communication, ” Listening involves hearing, but it is much more than just the physiological act of your ears perceiving a sound and transmitting the auditory sensation to your brain. Listening is a complex psychological process that can be defined as the process of physically hearing, interpreting that sound, and understanding the significance of it. (Sole,K. 2011)
B Explanation
When someone speaks we need to listen. That means pay attention to what the other is saying and truly understand what is being spoken. If we are not good listeners, than we are not able to have that cclose realationship with the other person.
V. Body paragraph#4-Topic Sentence #4 Ok moving right along and utilizing these steps we are of to a better start to a good relationship. The next thing you must work on as newly engaged, couples you must recognize how words have the power to create and affect attitudes, behaviours, and perception of one another.
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relate to one another”. And I believe the purpose of him always being the topic is to let us know
One day as my boyfriend and I were driving to dinner, a conversation came up about what other people would think about our relationship. “People just won’t assume we are together, that’s all.” “But why?” I asked. “Because that’s just how things are I guess,” was his response. The conversation paused as I began to thinking over his last statement- that this is how things are.
For this reason, true communication is impossible. No matter how clearly an individual attempts to portray an idea, some of the meaning will be lost. It’s like having a conversation in a noisy room; you pick up the gist of what the other person is saying, but you’ll miss some of the words — some of the nuances. It’s enough to get by … until it isn’t, and you end up saying entirely the wrong thing.
Lerner (2002) describe that “listening well is at the heart of intimacy and connection. When we are able to listen to another person with attention and care, that person feels validated and enhanced”.
Communication is important in relationships as it allows us to share our interest, concerns, support each other; organize our lives and make decisions; and it allows us to work together. Effective communication is based on the way we talk and listen, how we respond and our body language. We can all learn how to improve the way we communicate.
Determine the talker's needs during the interaction. At the beginning of a conversation, the talker may be tentative and not say what he or she means. Whether he or she continues often depends on the listener's initial response. Stay neutral and try to listen objectively. Direct, clear communication rarely occurs when information flows one way. Listening blocks are obstacles that interfere with our listening they
Good listening skills are essential to good communication in any relationship, weather its work, marriage, school, or even talking to an acquaintance. Being a good listener is a key to communication, it builds good relationships, learn new things, and it shows maturity and respect to who you are communication with. Many people believe that good listening skills came naturally and that everyone has them, however neither of those are true. Being a good listener actually includes a wide variety of skills, and like any other skill they take practice to develop and can always be improved upon. While I don’t think my listening skills are terrible, I know that there are definitely areas that they could use improvement. In this essay I am going to evaluate my listening skills by comparing my ratings on the listening evaluation to the ratings my boyfriend Aaron gave me.
A vital aspect of interpersonal communication is the style in which one listens. While every individual possesses their own preferred method of listening in communication, it can be enlightening to analyze our own strengths and weaknesses so as to maximize effectual communication. Within the confines of four main listening style categories, I have chosen those which best describe my own personal listening style.
About a year into the relationship we moved in together and 6 months later I got pregnant and we decided to get married. At the begging communication seem to be wonderful as with most of the relationships at their early stages. We were polite, respectful and loving when we talked to each other. It was easy to express our needs and concerns. We did everything to show that we care about the other and that we were committed to the relationship.
In conclusion, Communication can go a long way on both ends. Every individual will have their own perception of what is being discussed. Say what’s on your mind. If you’re unsure about something, ask questions to get a better understanding. No one is a mind reader and just because someone is close to you doesn’t mean they know what you mean every time you speak.
Communication is always a two-way street. Just because our lips are moving doesn’t necessarily mean we’re communicating. If you’ve ever been distracted by the television, your smart phone, or the newspaper while your spouse was trying to talk to you then you know exactly what I mean. For genuine communication to occur you need at least one person speaking in a way the listener can understand, encouraging the listener to be engaged. You also need a listener who’s motivated to receive, analyze and respond to whatever they’re hearing.
Listening is one of the key skills that a person should be possessing. It’s a beautiful combination of hearing what the other person has to say while at the same time being able to involve oneself into their thought. Listening is considered as a language skill but moreover overlaps itself into the space of a soft skill.
Communication is not about talking and sharing your thoughts and stories with others. Effective communication involves active listening skills that help you understand what others say with an open mind. In order to become a better speaker, you first need to become a better listener. Good listening skills help you understand what others say, increase others trust in you and build a pleasing personality.
Interpersonal listening: is the power to interpret things and to make healthy communication. A person that listens properly can transfer the accurate message to the specified person or to any receiver. If we listen properly we can effectively accomplish our assigned activities. Listening can prevent unnecessary mistakes. That is why people say, before you talk, think twice. If we listen to our family we can avoid some of the problems easily. If we listen to our friends, we canform good relationships. If we can listen to our groups, teams, and communities, we will be good leaders. When someone listens carefully until the speaker finishes, it helps the listener to get the whole message in order to answer any needed questions.There should be no worries of what to say after the speaker finished his /her speech. Sometimes being quiet is preferable. A good listener will make a good judgment.Listening skills also interoperates with verbal and non verbal communications which helps to receive messages sent by other people.
Communication is one of the most important life skills. In Habit 5 Covey tells us that listening is the most important part of communication. Covey also describes empathic listening, listening with intent to understand the other person’s frame of reference and feelings. After understanding come being understood the key to being understood courage. It is important that