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Step-Fatherhood Research Paper

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The woman I plan to wed is smart, gorgeous, funny, hardworking, and sweeter than her favorite Splenda. She also has a four-year-old son, who is a great kid. He is smart, well-adjusted, and precocious. But it's obvious that I need to keep some New Year's resolutions in mind as I prepare for step-fatherhood in 2012. 1.) Become more comfortable with assertive fathering. As the non-parent, it is easy to sit back and let the parent step in when the kid gets out of line. Certainly, and especially as a male, I do not want to be seen yelling at a tyke in public, lest people worry that I am some sort of child-abusing criminal. I often stand by, mute, as my fiance chastises her scowling son for whatever misbehavior or tantrum he has just committed. …show more content…

What is acceptable to the mother, and what is acceptable in the public eye? Be sure to talk to the mother so expectations are synced. 2.) Become less squeamish. Four-year-olds are masters at unwanted and unexpected bodily functions. Let's just say that one day, when the going got tough, I froze and let the kid's mother handle it. I realized that I should be more proactive about cleaning up kiddie messes because, when she and I have our own kids, I'll want some experience under my belt instead of being hit unawares. We should all buck up a little, because kids can be gross. Fact of life. 3.) Budget better. Kids are expensive, so I'm maximizing my pre-wedding bank account by cutting back on inefficient spending. To help pay for child care services (my new wife and I will both be working full-time) I have dutifully cut out my energy drink fix (Red Bull costs a pretty penny!), limited my use of bottled water, and am planning to cut out …show more content…

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