A mother is a friend, disciplinarian, and loving caretaker who chooses to put her child's wants and needs before her own. This is a job not everyone can take on, but as a mother to my daughter I plan to do everything in my power to be the best caretaker imaginable. A 15 year old child is definitely a difficult task to take on when it comes to parenting. If my teen, Cecilia, is just like me these parental guidelines are the best ways to parent her. Parenting includes disciplinary actions on rules along with consequences, dating under parental guidance, educational involvement between the both of us, and planning for what the future holds.
When it comes to discipline for my daughter I will be strict over ground rules yet understanding because
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Not only will a age be set when she is allowed to date but also an age limit for how much older the person whom she is dating can be. She can not date until she is at least 16 years old. In the article “Six Rules for Teen Dating” it states “Teenage girls tend to have their first sexual experience with male partners who are three or more years older”. Therefore Cecilia is restricted from seeing anyone older than her by 2 years to avoid heartbreak and STDs. When the time comes and a relationship forms I expect to meet him before letting her go out with him. The reason being I can't have someone who is a bad influence dating my daughter and if he is I want to make sure he isn't dragging her down with him. Also Rosen from the article “Setting House Rules About Datings” says “A date who respects your child will have the courtesy to come to the door and say hello to you.” I strongly believe in this because it takes a lot for someone to introduce themselves to a parent and it is a trait I respect. The rule of not being able to hang out behind closed doors and having to hang out in groups is going to be established when he comes over and when he wants to take her out regardless whether I like him or not. Supervision will be enforced as much as possible until she is independent and able to make decisions for herself. While dating can be a distraction it shouldn't interfere with school work unless she wants to end the
Discipline used in the home is being grounded until they feel like he should be taken off being grounded.
It is vitally important for your children to witness the display of appropriate behaviors in the way you act, as well as other adults that are prominent in their lives. Children most often learn by example. They need structure in their lives including clear expectations for behaviors-theirs as well as others. It is important for parents to make rules and to stick to them. This
There are soccer moms, stay-at-home moms, working moms, “cool” moms, and many other types that are at war with each other on how to raise children. Along with the many types of moms, there are hundreds of different types of kids. There is no reason for one parent to tell another on how to raise their child, because each kid is unique. On the finish line, I don’t think it matters how many soccer games the mom went to or if the child was sent to daycare. The quality time that mothers and children from 0-18 has an impact on the child’s life. However, the amount of time that they spend together does not have much of an influence for the future.
For instance, if your child comes at around two in the night that can give them an idea that they can come home at whatever time they desire, they wouldn’t care if it’s late at night, but if you set them boundaries it is a perfect opportunity to tell them that you want them at this time and they will obey you no matter what, because you set them a limit and that limit is the key in knowing what time they would be heading home. Setting them boundaries on what time they should come can teach them that you just want them to be safe and they will understand in what you are coming from. For instance, Samatha’s mother, Sheryl, would talk to her for a little bit and tell her what her plans are, where she was going, what she was going to do, and when she will be back. Samantha knows from her perspective that the reasons her mother is asking her a variety of questions, is because she wants her daughter to be safe and to understand there’s many dangers once she sets foot outside her home. In addition, texting or having phone conversations is okay, but as long as that parent or both parents have access to it and might as well have the kids know that they are being watched on every step
Parents, usually when their children are young, will decide for their kids who is and is not a good influence and who their children spend time with. In a way this can be a good happening because that means the parents are being protective and looking out for their children.
“Fortunately, children do not need “perfect” parents. They do need mothers and fathers who will think on their feet and who will be thoughtful about what they have done. They do need parents who can be flexible, and who can use a variety of approaches to discipline.” - James L. Hymes, Jr. this quote, I can say, is physically
In the articles that has been researched, the objective of the articles was about sex, dating, marriage, and family.
Modern day parenting is far from easy, today’s parents face many obstacles and sometimes can be way too hard on the child. Parents work to protect the children and help them succeed in life whether that is at work or at school. The endless worrisome thoughts about one’s child can cause the parents to crack down on the child which ultimately pushes them away. Teenagers are known to be distant and “stuck in a different world” most of the time due to hormone changes, and outside influences such as friends. Parents struggle to hold a relationship with teenage children because the teen tends to want to be alone more and sees the parent as “over protective”.
Many psychologists throughout history have indulged in studies related to parenting behavior and how children are affected from such behavior. The work of Diana Baumrind, which is considered to be one of the most influential and well-studied theories of parenting behavior, was the first to identify three styles of parenting (Sclafani 44). These styles of parenting are called authoritative, authoritarian, and permissive. This paper will further explain descriptions of these styles and the typical behaviors of children as a result of each style. This paper will also provide insight on the parenting style I was raised on along with my thoughts on types of discipline I might use in the
Discipline was handed out by my father I have not conceived it as cruelty on his side and have it also never considered as a negative experience as I grew into adolescence. In those days I was a rascal and was aware that I “enjoyed” stretching the boundaries laid out
“For parents who are having great difficulty sharing parenting responsibilities without becoming embroiled in conflict, legal and mental health professionals may help to create detailed parenting plans that limit parents’ interactions with each other and structure transitions with their children at a neutral site.”
Is there a right way to raise your child? There are really no set rules on how to raise your child, as we can see throughout the articles written by Amy Chua, a self-described “Chinese Tiger Mom” and Hanna Rosin, a “Western Mother,” in The Wall Street Journal in January 2011. These articles show that the two authors have completely different parenting styles. On one hand, Amy Chua believes kids should not go to sleepovers, be in school plays, and get anything less than A's in school except for gym. Meanwhile, Hannah Rosin believes that children need some freedom to express themselves. There are many
The parent allows the child to regulate his or herself as much as possible and if expectations are not met punishments rarely follow. Also the little rules and regulation as well as everything else is thoroughly explained and discussed with the child. Overall if the child disagrees, he/she is often accommodated and given what they want (Dewar, 2014). Located roughly in the middle of these two styles lies authoritative parenting. Authoritative parenting is an even balance of authoritarian and permissive. Authoritative styles have many rules and regulations and overall expectations of the child. Typically, the rules are discussed with the child and if believed to be fair, are negotiable. If expectations have not been met, the child will be spoken to and have the situation explained on how to improve for future events (Gwen Dewar, 2014). Punishments do exist in this style but rather than making the child fear them, they are given punishments to “remember and learn”. As opposed to authoritarians’ the child will be allowed to state his opinion and is given the opportunity to question things.
This was a really good post. The type of parenting I think would work the best is Authortative parenting. And I think this is probaly the most common type of parenting we use today. I feel like this is the perfect balance between being a parent and being your friend. But I also believe that it depends on the child as well. Because a child can react to different parenting methods. For instance the type of parenting my dad used on me was uninvolved parenting. Even though thats how I was brought up I never got in trouble at school I stayed out of trouble outside of school and I'm in college so I feel it is entirely on the attitude of the child. I think it depends entirely on the child or children you are trying to raise but from a general standpoint
All parents have different views on how they should raise their children and different parenting methods. While having children may be "doing what comes naturally", being a good parent is much