Parenting Producing Helicopter Parents And Tiger Moms

A parent’s parenting styles are as diverse as the world we live in today. Nowadays, parents only want what is best for their children and their parenting styles plays a crucial role in the development of children which will in the long run, not only effect the child’s childhood years, but later prolong into their adult life as well.

It’s true that different parents have distinct parenting styles. Each child must be disparate from another due to cultural background and upbringing. Three major parenting styles that have been around are tiger, helicopter, and free range parenting. In tiger parenting, parents are strict, while in free range it is just the opposite, parents let loose and let their children be who they are and allow them to take risks. The article “I am a helicopter parent, and I don’t apologize” by Elizabeth Fairfield Strokes is an epitome of helicopter parenting and what goes on in a mind of helicopter parent. Helicopter parenting refers to "a style of parents who are over focused on their children," says Carolyn Daitch, Ph.D., director of the Center for the Treatment of Anxiety Disorders near Detroit and author of Anxiety Disorders: The Go-To Guide. "They typically take too much responsibility

Parents usually have the best intentions – like protecting their children from life's hardships and preparing them for adulthood. However as with many other aspects of parenting, the results do not always match the intentions. Overprotective parents generally want to protect their children from harm, hurt, pain, failure, unhappiness, bad experiences, rejection, and disappointment (Lindsey 1). However, parents must realize that overprotective parenting has certain side effects. Parents believe that they are doing a favor for their children by keeping them safe without realizing that this parenting style can have severe effects on children such as robbing children of the essential life skills that they need in order to have a healthy

Children do not come with guidelines or instructions. What they do come with is a crucial set of physical and emotional needs that need to be met. To raise children properly, parents duties are not limited to just food, shelter and protection. Parents are largely responsible for their children’s success in life. Parents are required to teach and educate children. They have to shape knowledge and character into their children to prepare them to face the real world. To be successful with this, parents must provide self esteem needs, teach moral and values and provide discipline that is both effective and appropriate. As the generations have changed, many parenting styles have evolved, as well.

When regarding helicopter parenting, most of the time there is a misconception of what this type of parenting is really about. In which, I was included in this misconception, as before reading an excerpt from Alfie Kohn’s book, The Myth of the Spoiled Child: Challenging the Conventional Wisdom about Children and Parenting, I thought every aspect of helicopter parenting was bad for children. However, Kohn’s excerpt from his book has changed my point of view on excessive parenting. As before reading this excerpt I thought helicopter parents were overbearing with their children, but now I see them just as parents trying to carry out what is best for their children. Except I agree with Kohn to a certain extent, since not all helicopter parenting

As we all know mother does know best, yet in some cases mother can do more harm than good. There is a big debate on how people are raising the newest generations and whether or not they are properly being introduced into the realities of our society. Are children being spoiled too much or not enough? This topic is thoroughly discussed by Alfie Kohn in his essay, “ The One-sided Culture War against Children” and by Nick Gillespie within his essay, “The Current State of Childhood: Is “Helicopter Parenting” or “Free-Range Childhood” Better for Kids?”. Although Kohn offers valid explanations, Gillespie does surpass Kohn’s explanations; parents need to be less overbearing and stop pampering their children.

How does a person grow up to be who they are? Most people say it is determined by the way their parents raise them. The parents that hover close and the parents that give their children space will have children with complete opposite characteristics. Parents that hover close are referred to as “Helicopter Parents,” and children that are given a lot of space are called “Free- Range Kids” (Rutherford). Although these styles of parenting are vastly different, both kinds of parents are trying to do what is best for their child. Of the two parenting types, helicopter parenting is looked at as a worse method for parenting. There are more negative aspects of it then there are positive. Not only do helicopter parents

With over three hundred million Americans and over six billion people worldwide parenting skills are essential to maintain a healthy society. Parenting involves many aspects and requires many skills. It is a time to nurture, instruct, and correct to develop fundamental skills children will need to be mature, responsible, and contributing adults to a society. There are four commonly identified parenting styles; authoritarian, authoritative, permissive, and uninvolved parenting. Of the four parenting styles, two remain on opposite ends of the parenting spectrum. These two styles; authoritarian, and permissive both have deleterious results that are often visible throughout different developmental stages, such as rebellious behavior. As well

There are many different types of parents with diverse parenting styles in the world. Some are efficient in their ways, while others struggle to wonder why their child did not turn out to be everything they hoped. The controversial topic of whether the parent knows what is best for their child hangs over the reader’s head in Amy Chua’s article.

The article Tiger Moms: Is Tough Parenting Really the Answer? by Annie Murphy Paul tells the story of one self-proclaimed “tiger mom,” Amy Chua, and her endeavors in raising her two daughters. She has much more stringent policies than most Western parents, to the point where many Americans have voiced their contempt and disgust at her methods for the lack of love and nurturing for her children, but Chua insists that her methods are far superior. She says that Chinese parenting techniques prepare children for the world, while American parenting makes children soft and entitled. Parents in America allow their children far too much free time on the computer, internet, TV, and other useless activities, Chua claims, while not focusing on discipline

As they grow up, it is common for the parent to enroll their child in extracurricular activities such as karate, music classes, sports, book clubs, etc. Research has acknowledged that the first child is the one that parents have the most expectations for. In this case, there is only one child. Therefore, the parents will go through high-pressure parenting. “Parent pressure is when a parent puts too much strain on their child to force them to exceed” (My Baby & Me). This puts the child under a great deal of anxiety when it comes to growing up. There is already a level of excellence that is drawn out for them to maintain. Some parents are successful with this method, and then some aren’t. There is no such thing as a perfect parent in this world, but there are some parents that are better than others and some that are just average parents. All parents have different methods when it comes to raising their children. Some are strict, or understanding and caring, or neglectful. Parents are categorized by the way they raise their children. This is called parenting style. Diana Baumrind identified four distinctive parenting styles, Authoritarian, Authoritative, Permissive, and Uninvolved. Michael Popkin (1987) found that the greatest control parents have over children is their style of parenting; this factor could significantly influence a child’s destiny, the way a child turns out to be in the future (p. 35). Authoritarian

It is beneficial for people in high authority to have high expectations for teens because the teens will want to achieve those expectations and it will make them more stable and emotionally ready for adult life. In the article “Tiger Moms: Is Tough Parenting Really The Answer?” Hara Estroff Marano who is the author of A Nation Of Wimps and the editor-at-large of Psychology Today magazine speaks about the benefits of raising children with strict parenting. Marano states, “ Children who have never had to test their abilities, says Marano, form into “emotionally brittle” young adults who are more vulnerable to anxiety and depression.” (Paul 4). This quote shows that high expectations is beneficial because kids who grew up with lower expectations

The belief that the family structure and parenting practices have morally declined can be traced back to the early 1940’s in America. In an interview with C. Moran, LCSW-C (personal communication, April 8, 2004), she described a time where families lived very close to, if not on the same street as their extended family. Aunts, uncles, cousins and grandparents would all participate in the raising of the children, “it takes a village to raise a child” (C Moran, April 8, 2004). In some cases, the grandparents would teach the parents how to parent. As time moved on into the “freeness” of the 1960’s and 1970’s, parenting became more passive. Children at a young age were allowed to make decisions that ten years ago would have been made by their parents. The belief was to allow the child to make their own mistakes and they would receive the repercussions from society. As a result, more freedom of choice would be given to the child. Now, with the children of the sixties and seventies having offspring of their own, the “millennial generation”, and extended families spread out globally, active and involved parenting is becoming a thing of the past.

Most parents take an interest in their child’s life from birth until they become an adult by picking and choosing what is best for them as much as they possibly can. Parents want to help their children to be as perfect as they can make them. Typically hovering parents spend a lot of money, time, and effort filling schedules things like with dance classes, baseball, and tutoring in order to have a ‘perfect’ child. As well as coming to their aid when they are in need, or their defense when they are in trouble. Help in making important, life changing decisions, like where to go to college at, or which career to pursue. When does helping become hovering? The generation of “Helicopter Parents” is becoming more and more prevalent in families. A

For quite some time now, the question on how to correctly raise children has been debated intensely. The two most popular parenting styles are extremely opposite, so controversy is bound to rise. These two styles are known as “Western” and “Chinese”, and each one has significant supports saying their respective style is superior. The Chinese style is seen as a no nonsense approach and has even been dubbed the “tiger” style due to its strict and harsh nature. On the other hand, the Western style offers a free-flowing environment where parents are more relaxed with the handling of their children. Both parenting styles are distinct and share extremely opposing views. Amy Chua is a significant supporter for the chinese parenting style as she has even wrote a book titled Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother along with an article named “Why Chinese Mothers are Superior”. Chua has experience with the chinese parenting style as she was raised by it and now she is raising her own children through it. One opposer of Amy Chua is Hannah Rosin, an editor for the Atlantic and the standard for western parenting style. Rosin writes an article named “Mother Inferior”, which is a response to Chua’s work. Although Amy Chua’s parenting style may seem to provide better results for the parents, Hanna Rosin parenting style is more beneficial for all parties involved for a couple of reasons. One being the fact that children often struggle handling pressure at such a young age. The other is the belief