Helicopter Parents

Being too strict to a child can result in distant relationship between a parent and a child, and being uninvolved can also have the same effect or worse. Having a healthy relationship with the child asks parents to develop an amiable nature and an open mind when it comes to parenting. Get involved with children’s lives enough to help and guide when needed. Helicopter parenting would benefit in ample ways, in a child’s upbringing, perspective, outlook, social behavior, and it will help developing a healthy and friendly relationship between the parents and the child. It is better for children to run to their parents every time they need a piece of advice rather than going to a stranger looking for help, because no matter what, parents will always want the best for their children and would guide them appropriately. Even though some believe that helicopter parenting is detrimental, it has proven to be

Helicopter parents hyper-involved in their children's life negatively affect them. A concerned mother’s letter explains why she disagreed with the new parent involvement policy of her son’s middle school. However, I oppose her position because, constant supervision results in hindered independence of children . Most importantly, preventing children from learning to manage their conflicts or learn from mistakes means they lack the skill to deal with them. Hovering parents disrupts the classroom, despite the appreciation of parent volunteers on the campus.

Helicopter parents often send the unintentional message to their child saying that they are incompetent of doing things on their own - like the things they attempt to accomplish independently are wrong. Instead of letting their children experience a sense of autonomy by allowing them to accomplish things on their own, an overprotective parent would step in and take control; again promoting dependency. A lot of times, such dependency carries on into adulthood (Sade 1). Instead of being a mature, responsible adult and taking things into their own hands; they call on their parents whenever things get strenuous in their lives. Likewise, adults who still depend on their parents for everything do not mature mentally and sometimes do not have the skills needed to become successful on their own.

As we all know mother does know best, yet in some cases mother can do more harm than good. There is a big debate on how people are raising the newest generations and whether or not they are properly being introduced into the realities of our society. Are children being spoiled too much or not enough? This topic is thoroughly discussed by Alfie Kohn in his essay, “ The One-sided Culture War against Children” and by Nick Gillespie within his essay, “The Current State of Childhood: Is “Helicopter Parenting” or “Free-Range Childhood” Better for Kids?”. Although Kohn offers valid explanations, Gillespie does surpass Kohn’s explanations; parents need to be less overbearing and stop pampering their children.

In the 1980’s women in the workforce became much more the “norm” than the exception. With the choice to enter the workforce, mothers also made the conscience choice to allow their children less parental attention, but also proving that their parenting skills were just as effective. The now independent woman, has begun to helicopter the children. Validation by the “stay at home mothers” to prove that the benefits to the children of a full time stay at home mother, out-weighed the need for self-fulfillment, with both parenting styles, and the helicopter parent was born. The description of an overprotective parent as a “Helicopter Parent” appeared in the best-selling book “Between Parent & Teenager” by Dr. Haim Ginott, staying

Parents that take an over productive or excessive interest in the life of their children is a helicopter parent. These parents want to be part of every part of their children’s life. Helicopter parents are a really interesting topic. I topic that I have never really considered. Helicopter parents want the best for their children, but are they really helping them? Research shows that helicopter parents can be detrimental to a child’s growth, independence, self-confidence, and overall well-being.

The over involvement of parents can make the child develop psychological issues. They are shown to have a higher risk of depression, anxiety, lack self-confidence, and have low self-esteem (“Helicopter Parents” Stir Up Anxiety, Depression). It is shown that no matter what parenting technique is being used, every parents goal is to build their child’s self-esteem (Rutherford). Sadly, helicopter parenting does the exact opposite. Equally important, the persons lack of self- confidence comes from the over involvement of their parents in his/her childhood activities and academics. They never experienced failure or loss because the parents were always there to step in, so they never achieved anything to build their confidence (“Helicopter Parents” Stir Up Anxiety, Depression). It is common for a child with helicopter parents to develop depression when moving from their home to

Parenting is far more difficult than people make it out to be. According to Carol Gioia, a Senior Community Advisor for Helium Network, “Being a parent is potentially one of the most rewarding life experiences a person can have. It might also be the most difficult, for parenting is a round-the-clock endeavor filled with demands and obligations”. Gioia makes a point that not everyone will live up to be “good parents” because no parent is perfect, but they can be good by enforcing a never-ending supply of unconditional love. In the article “What Makes a Good Parent” Robert Epstein provides that some parenting skills have been proven to conduct better out comes in children’s happiness, health, and behavior. In the memoir The Glass Castle, the

There are many different types of parents with diverse parenting styles in the world. Some are efficient in their ways, while others struggle to wonder why their child did not turn out to be everything they hoped. The controversial topic of whether the parent knows what is best for their child hangs over the reader’s head in Amy Chua’s article.

In the late 1960’s, Diana Baumrind, a psychologist, administered a set of experiments to help understand and recognize the dissimilar reactions parents had to their own children. Through Baumrind’s observation and examination, four principle styles of parenting were presented, including neglectful parenting (Miller 2). Kendra Cherry defines neglectful parenting as the failure of the parents to provide for their children’s necessities. Some people believe labeling a parent as neglectful depends on their actions or behavior, whereas others believe it

I now know what I am capable of in life. Using my own eyes allowed me to see the world and live it. Moving out of my parents’ house at the age of 18 was the biggest and best decision I ever made.

This literary review looks at the long term effects of helicopter parenting. While parental involvement is clearly linked to positive traits in children, can over parenting produce negative outcomes? Issues that have been related to helicopter parenting include a lack of autonomy and satisfaction with life, increased stress, anxiety and depression and overall poor coping skills (Schiffrin et al., 2013). Perhaps if a link between the issues listed above and helicopter parenting can be proven, then a way to correct or reverse the issue can also be identified.

Helicopter parenting, first introduced by Cline and Fay in their 1990 parenting book series, refers to overly protective and involved parents, who overly involve themselves in their children’s lives with behaviours including constant communication, intervention into children’s affairs, taking control of decision making, personally investing themselves in their children’s goals and the removal of any obstacles that their children may encounter. Studies have shown that this parenting style is most prevalent amongst the millennial generation, with approximately 60-70% of college students reporting that their parents exhibit at least some of the hovering tendencies (Odenweller, Booth-Butterfield & Weber, 2014).

The recent studies being done have shown that students who have helicopter parents are shown to have a lower sense of self-confidence and capability, while also being more likely to suffer from anxiety and depression. Colleges campuses across the nation are reporting the relationships they have with helicopter parent's bothersome interference with their kid's lives. Everyone is calling for a stop to helicopter parenting since it’s proving to show negative long-term effects. This generation of young adults is not alone when they say they’re scared to imagine a life without the aid of their parents meanwhile, everyone else is just as scared to live in a world with uncappable adults.

Helicopter parenting is one of the severest parenting styles. Helicopter parenting was first mentioned in Cline and Fay’s parenting book at 1990 (as cited in Odenweller, Booth-Butterfield, & Weber, 2014, p. 408) ,which means this problem has occurred over decades, but not many scholars pay attention or research on this topic. Today, according to LeMoyne and Buchanan’s study, they found more and more population of children reported that their parents have helicopter parenting behavior and children increase the usage of prescription drugs(as cited in Schiffrin et al.,2014,p.554) , this draw scholars’ attention. Helicopter parenting become a serious problem that influenced children’s life, and we should find a way to avoid helicopter