My Problem With Her Anger By Hope Edelman Analysis

Bartels explains that wives often let out their stress induced, pent up anger on their husbands. He uses his own life and instances he has experienced with his wife to support himself. He describes his wife as tired, angry, and wanting to take that out on him (Bartels 58). Bartels has experienced this spousal anger firsthand, giving him credibility to write about it. He understands how the cycle of spousal anger works. However, his lack of other means of support makes his article fall short in some areas. Whereas telling a personal story may appeal to one reader, it may not appeal to the next. Bartels lacks a balance of logical and emotional appeal. The emotional appeal that Bartels uses is successful, though. He says that at times his wife is so negative that is “threatens to grind [his] spirit to dust” (Bartels 59). This use of emotional language is well executed because any reader will either be able to relate to him or feel sorry for the situation he is in. However, some women may sympathize with him less as they take the side of the wife in his story. His stance is flawed because he comes at this argument at an obviously subjective position. Bartels overlooks the idea that many women will not feel sorry for him if they disagree with what he has to say.

Her life with her son and teaching is her new dream. She realizes that, “she began teaching as a kind of self-sacrifice, subverting her own desires and ambitions for the ambitions of her students” (336). Debra knows that what she gave up, as in her career, made someone else's life better, not only her students life but also her sons. Although it was hard at first, she learned that, “true sacrifice is painless” (336)

The family dynamics of the TV show “Married with Children” depicts a dysfunctional, but yet understanding between each family member. Their daily interaction with each other would suggest lack of communication that is taken seriously in the family unit. The husband (Al- Bundy) and wife (Peggy Bundy) presented a disconnection between the two of them steaming from the dysfunction in their marriage. Al Bundy attitude towards his wife appeared to be one with lack of an intimate and emotional connection. Peggy Bundy appeared to have an unconditional love for her husband, but seems to be missing the love that she wants from her husband. Their relationship seemed to be functionally dysfunctional as they move through their

With her long days at trial, Marcia faces the repercussion of less time at home, which she is criticized for from her husband. At the end of a day of trial, Marcia states to the court, “I cannot go late tonight.” As the judge asks why she cannot go late, she explains, “I have to take care of my kids.” The idea that the woman has to be the parent who takes care of the children comes into play, as her ex husband becomes frustrated at times when he has to take care of the kids because his wife is working. Women are told to be the parent that stays home with the child, and when they don't they are criticised. Clark’s ex husband publicly criticises her for the lack of time she spends with her kids, which appears much worse for a woman than it would for a man. Because she did not fit into the perfect female-mother mold, she is condemned. This brings the traditional double standard; men are supposed to work, and women stay at home with the

“My Problem with Her Anger” is an article written by Eric Bartels. Bartels is a writer with the Portland Tribune in Portland, Oregon. The author's purpose for writing this article is to describe what his situation is like, living with a wife that has anger issues. One main focus of the article is how his wife does not recognize his accomplishments around the household. This feature can, and will lead to problems in their marriage. It would seem this article is about what it’s like to be on the receiving end of your spouse's anger; however, it’s really about how women and society expect many things from men.

Eric Bartels has experienced the struggles and difficulties of marriage and describes them in his article entitled “My Problem with Her Anger.” Bartels’ article includes the struggles that he endures as a victim to his wife’s fury and the ways in which he feels his wife’s outlook should be repaired. The author establishes the anger present in the relationship, and then concludes with how her anger problem needs to be fixed.

    In their book, Boundaries in Marriage, the authors, Cloud and Townsend, present a theoretical model for maintaining healthy relationships, specifically marriage relationships. This examination of Cloud and Townsend’s approach to maintaining healthy relationships summarizes both the theoretical and theological orientation of their proposed model, compares their approach to the model proposed by Sandra Wilson in her book, Hurt people hurt people, and considers the model in the context of Dr. Hawkins concentric circle theory of personality, and parents a critique with regard to some’ of the perceived strengths and

In Eric Bartels “My Problem with Her Anger” (57-63), the author describes the problem he has with how his wife treats him and how woman are different than men. In his memoir type of article, Bartels talks about his personal experiences with his wife’s anger driven outrages that he had to deal with. He explains that even when he was helping out, he always wasn’t doing something right. Also, Bartels talks about how his wife needs to change how she reacts to not only him but to the children. However, the author does not always connect to the reader effectively. Through his use of emotionally driven language, Bartels hurts his argument with some readers, especially female, through the disconnect he creates.

The historical accounts by Stephen Coontz are something of importance that has brought us to where we are today. He mentioned how recognition of marriage was left to the church (Coontz, 2007). Based on additional rulings by our own Supreme Court such recognition is no longer viable based on separation or church and state cases. Additionally, because of the financial gain our government receives based on taxation of couples, I cannot for see them going back to the 16th Century standard as you had mentioned. The most interesting thing to me is that such a definition of marriage is within the power of the states to decide, not the federal government.

The divorce rate in the United States is higher than fifty percent today. The divorce rate continues to increase in America due to many reasons, one of them being that society today is a disposable society. Back in the day, when someone had a broken shoe he or she would fix it, and if there was a problem with a couple’s marriage, the two would work through it. But today, it is easier to ignore the problem, throw away what we do not like anymore and move on to the next, which is not the right way to live. In Lorrie Moore’s “A Kid’s Guide to Divorce”, Moore writes about a child and his or her mother. The two are sitting in their living room watching TV as they

Leving and Sacks argue against the negative image of the male role in a marriage in the article “Women Don’t Want Men? Ha!” In this article, the authors point out how much effort a man puts into the relationship, and how often it is unappreciated. Women are sometimes over critical of their partners, and they often are too harsh on them. Although I am a woman, they effectively argued their point and I believe that one cannot be happy alone.

In the 19th century the idea of “True Woman” came busting out onto the scene. “True Woman” was the idea of a perfect woman. A “True Woman” was obedient, quiet in her opinions, selfless, and a good homemaker. “The Cult of Domesticity”; as it is called today, made women feel inferior to their male counterparts because women were not the breadwinners of the family. In The Yellow Wallpaper and Other Stories, Charlotte Perkins Gilman subverts the ideas and values of “True Woman”.

While Bartels does a poor job at owning up to any of the tension in the marriage, he does understand where his wife is coming from with her anger. He understands the hardships of marriage by saying “I think it’s fairly well established by now that marriage is a challenge, a creaky, old institution that may not have fully adapted itself to modern life, one that now fails in this country more often than not. Put children in the picture and you have an

“Divorce isn’t such a tragedy. A tragedy’s staying in an unhappy marriage, teaching your children the wrong things about love. Nobody ever died of divorce,” states Jennifer Weiner, a New York Times Bestselling author, in her novel, Fly Away Home. Although Weiner has a point in voicing that a dispirited and forlorn relationship can corrupt the innocent mentality of children, it is vital that she also considers the darker, more sinister side of divorce. To put the term ‘divorce’ simply, it “is what husband and wife do together when they no longer wish to do anything together“ (Yantiss). If for any reason one may feel as if their current marriage isn’t right, isn’t working out, for them, one way to solve that problem would be divorce: the

The interviews were coded and some of the themes that were identified were the degree of husband involvement, the degree of communication, responsibility, degree of support, and type of