How did events during your childhood influence your family experiences?
When I was eight years old my parents separated, and they got officially divorced when I was twelve. After my parents separated, my mother took on being a single-parent. My father gave up all his rights to my sister and I. Prior to my parents separating, my family was considered upper-middle class. My dad worked as a computer engineer, and my mom was a stay at home mother. After my parents split, my sister and I went from having everything to nothing in a day. My mom had to move back in with her parents until she could find a full-time job and a place for us to live. Because I have seen my mother struggle as a single-mother, I matured a lot faster than most children my age. Even though we struggled with money growing up, my mother always made it a point to go on vacation yearly with my sister and I; I have been to over 30 states because my mom loves to road trip. Additionally, it has always been a family tradition of ours to go to the state fair every year. Because of my family experience growing up, I am very independent. I also learned to appreciate the little things in life. My mom always taught my sister and I that time spent with family is far more valuable than materialistic things. My mother and I are very close to this day, and I will forever be grateful for everything she has done for my sister and me.
How does this influence your thinking about parenting?
These influences made me realize
I grew up watching my mother strive to give me a better life and become a better person. Amongst great difficulty, she decided to finish school and attend university. Her hard work and determination have marked and defined my life. Every day she had to work, then go to university and later take care of me. She excelled in every aspect of her life, teaching me that the impossible is overcome through hard work and
For me to discuss a single event that transitioned me from childhood to adulthood would be impossible. As people grow, they experience many events and those experiences are what shape us into the people we are today. Starting from my origins, I was born in a dense city called Reading. Throughout the city there are people roaming the streets from different ethnicities. Growing up was tough, it didn’t matter who you were because you were always surrounded. You did one wrong move and someone would look at you differently. Hearing stories about my young childhood, made me a little sad. My dad was never around, and my mom was either at work, or inside trying to take care of the house. At first it was only me and my older brother. We got along fine, but as your average pair of street kids, we would get in trouble from time to time. Since we didn’t have too much money, our family tried to get by with what we got. We couldn’t buy all the toys that we wanted, and even if we did, there was a good chance
By the grace of god, I was given a wonderful mom that actually cared about me and wanted me to succeed and live a good life other than the one I was living in back in the day. She heavily supported me throughout my elementary and intermediate years of school and she still gives me that same support. She gave me hope for a better future. My mentality frame in middle school was to get my mom out from the poverty lifestyle and later in life purchase her a house
When I was born my mother was 16 and my father was 17 my father had just joined the military and was getting ready to be deployed to Iraq for three years. He left when my mom was eight months pregnant with me. She was alone when she gave birth and she little to no support from the people around her. But she never let that faze her. She continued high school while working and still making time to raise
Growing up, I've had many experiences that have made me who I am today, from how I was raised, to activities in church and school, and my dedication to academics. All of them, however, have been and continue to be influenced by my mother. She is a single parent and has had double the responsibility of most two-parent families, but she has always shown me that everything can be done if you put your mind to it. My mom worked a full time as well as a part-time job so both my sister and I could attend a local private school, Oakhill Day School, from age 2 through 15.
When I was just 6 months old, my parents left me with my grandparents in India to pursue the "Indian" American dream. I soon realized I would need to "grow up" quicker since my grandparents were old and couldn't expend all of their energy taking care of me. When I was 11, I was fortunate enough to reunite with my parents. Although I was grateful for this, I wasn't able to fully embrace them. My parents quickly found out I wasn't excited with ordinary kid activities, so they started taking me with them to our gas station in the summers. By going to the gas station with my mom in the morning at 5 AM in the struggling town of Crenshaw, MS, I was able to kindle a strong relationship with my mom and learn valuable life lessons in the process. The first year, I learned how to greet people when they were ready to check out; I noticed there
Being the first born to a teenage mother, the chances of me getting to where I am now were uncertain. However, our family received government assistance, which allowed my mother the opportunity to pursue a college career, a Bachelor’s Degree in Social Work. This enabled her to not only provide us with the necessities, but instilled in myself the importance of furthering my education and being a productive member of society. I have some very good personal traits that make me different than everyone else. I was raised with high values and good morals.
Watching my mother live from pay check to pay check when I was young was difficult. It was always hard for my mom to keep up with other parents but, she still somehow managed to get me everything I wanted, and more. Even though I was too young to understand, I could feel the stress, and the struggles my mom faced every day. She was only 20 years old when I was born and, because of that she had no choice but to grow up fast. At such a young age, I saw the effects of being a single parent, and the ways it changed my mom. She not only had to be a young mother but, she had to find a way to replace the void of a father, or a father figure in my life. My mom was strong, independent and courageous. Growing up watching her live her dreams under all the circumstances she faced, made me want to strive for a better life for myself. Seeing how hard is was to live and to have enough
We are interested in learning more about you and the context in which you have grown up, formed your aspirations, and accomplished your academic successes. Please describe the factors and challenges that have most shaped your personal life and aspirations. How have these factors helped you to grow? (800)
Growing up as a single child is not easy. Even though you get spoiled a lot by your parents, you also have this obligation to be thankful for everything they do. My father was a very hard working man. My mother was at home part of the time. The other part she would spend running her mouth, talking good and bad about
I Never got a childhood, I never celebrated my birthday with my father for eight years. Ever since I was as young as eight, I was taking care of my little brother.Embracing the role of mother at such a young age causes you to mature fast. I stayed positive though although it was hard to see the one person I look up to the most; My mother try to put on a strong face for me and my brother despite the fact that we never had money growing up. I feel eternally grateful to my mother for always putting food on the table, never saying no when I pointed out the fact that I needed yet another pair
Growing up ten years older than my little sister, caused me to mature fast. I was the one who she was going to look up to for the rest of her life. Often times I have been responsible for her. I have had to drop her off at piano, get her ready for cheer practice, and take her to church. The list is never ending. When she was born, I became very motherly and acted like a second mom to her. Having her in my life made me want to be a role model to not only children, but people in general.
Third, my parents’ parenting style influenced strongly what I am now. They had democratic parenting style. Therefore, I could discuss with my parents even something which they did not want me to do. Also, they set some reasonable rules which I should follow, and whenever they made rules they explained me why they made such rules. They advised me when I was depressed; however, they have never forced me what to do. Throughout my experience with my parents, I could understand the importance of independence and taking responsibility of my choice. Also, because they did not force their opinions, I could develop my own identity without many conflicts.
A time when I faced a challenge was when my mother and father separated. I was around seven years old,so I don’t remember exactly when they broke up. Unfortunately,my mother never told me the reason why she left my father. After that my mother and father and mother set up visitation days. I would go to my father’s house, which was his mother’s house, on Tuesdays, Thursdays, every other Friday and weekend. I would would be with my mom on Monday, Wednesday, and the Fridays when I was with her on the weekend. Being the naive little child I was, I thought that it was normal for children’s parents to have separate houses. I started to realize how wrong my thoughts were around the age of 10. I would see my friend’s parents together and wonder why my mother and father weren’t like that. My suspicions were confirmed when I interrogated my mother about it. She told me they weren’t talking to each other anymore.
Before I migrated to the U.S. I had a lot of friends and family. I used to live in the Philippines with my grandparents, my grandpa is 62 years young, he is a retired policeman, my grandma is a housewife. I lived with them when my parents were abroad. Moving into a foreign country can be difficult, I didn’t know much English. I had to get my grades up so that I can enter middle school in the U.S. I was a troublemaker in elementary and I needed to redeem myself so I can go to school in the U.S. We had a whole summer to get our visa, but before that we had to say our goodbyes to my relatives and friends. We had a party before we went to Manila. I felt sad when I said my goodbyes, I also was happy at the same time.