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Lucille Clifton's Forgiving My Father

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Feelings for Our Fathers Children are dependent on their parents for every need that is required to grow up in a safe and healthy home environment. There is physical health, mental health, and emotional health. Parents are responsible to fulfill the required needs of providing, protecting, and nurturing their children in all three of the areas outlined above. These responsibilities cannot be carried out by absent or irresponsible parents. Factors that play into the parents not being able to care for their children are multifaceted and many. A father or mother may be selfish, self-centered, distracted, uncaring or struggling with their own issues that prevent good parenting. Either parent may not possess the emotional capacity …show more content…

The physical connection between mother and child naturally promotes this emotional connectivity that is necessary for the child. The father’s emotional connectivity and support is different for this reason. Emotional connectivity is important to children as this connectivity allows children to feel worthy. Validation and acceptance are key elements in a child’s life to promote self-esteem, self-confidence, and self-discipline. In Lucille Clifton’s “Forgiving My Father” (p. 270) the author depicts a person who visits their parent’s gravesite every week. “It is Friday, we have come to the paying of the bills” (line 1-2). One could interpret this as a way to cope in order to continue redemption and closure on the death of one’s parents. In Theodore Roethke’s “My Papa’s Waltz” (p. 273) the author of this poem begins with bringing attention to the reader the issue of alcoholism. “The whiskey on your breath” (line 1) is the defining line of this poem. This poem continues with many verses pertaining to the struggles of a child with an alcoholic parent. Tolerance is in inserted into this poem with “but I hung on like death: Such waltzing was not easy” (3-4). One could argue this child tolerated this dysfunctional behavior for the love of his

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