Holly's Search For Meaning

Some people may even say that bullying can often be seen as a good thing in a child’s development and not just as a gateway to self-harm. The act of bullying, despite leading towards many negative repercussions, can introduce children to rather early, but harsh, lessons that not everybody in life is going to treat them as nice as they think. David Derbyshire’s article, “Why it’s not bad to be bullied,” states that that the mutual detestation of two individuals can actually help students in developing things such as healthy social and emotional skills, as well as sometimes having an even bigger impact on their development towards making friendships.”(Derbyshire, “Why it’s not bad to be bullied”). Even though the study did not suggest that it was healthy to be the victim of bullying, it also found that negative experiences, such as bullying, could teach children about conflict

For a very long time, bullying has been a problem. Many wonder, are these people born that way, or were they turned into a bully from the factors outside of them? This centers around anything from a school shooting to calling fellow peers names and even to a group of firefighters getting into an all-out brawl. The article, “A Bully’s Future, From Hard Life to Hard Time”, written by Jane E. Brody and the novel, Lord of the Flies, written by William Golding, prove that bullies are not born, yet they are made. Children are frequently forced into acting certain ways and dressing in certain ways so they can “fit in”. Many kids can feel alone and turn to bullying because they do not want to do what people expect of them. “In a videotape, the young gunmen attributed their acts to retaliation for years of taunting that they said friends and relatives had

According to Kelly Clarkson, “What Doesn’t Kill You Makes You Stronger”. This quote represents that every trial and tribulations happens for a reason and it makes others stronger in time. Bullying can be a hard situation to go through but there is always light at the end of the tunnel. In my personal experience, I was bullied throughout elementary school and middle school. In 2008 I was eight years old walking into Grayson Elementary in Grayson, Georgia. It was muggy afternoon it looked like it was the set of a cheesy yet predictable horror movie even worse “Friday the Thirteenth”, but in real life. Bullying is definitely a negative situation but at the end it gets better; therefore, if it’s not a blessing then it’s a lesson.

Bullies may grow up and lead a life of ultimate rebellion or crime. These students start off with bullying and advance into acts of vandalism, theft, and alcohol and possible drug abuse. Left unchallenged, the bully will never understand that their behavior is inappropriate. The bully will grow up, victimize, and start a family of budding, pint-sized oppressors. Bullying is a learned behavior. Whereas, the victim may live a life of depression and anxiety. The victim may never reach their full potential because of fear and uncertainty. The victim has a difficult time making and keeping friends, and seeks to stay clear of confrontation. The victim loses his/her control or voice and lives in the shadow of the aggressor. Over time, the victim may begin to miss class, fake illnesses, and believe that he or she deserves bad treatment. In the end,

People live for one thing and that is happiness, but how can someone go through day-by-day with being bullied that’s the biggest issue we are facing in the school systems these days. The studies and evidence is proved with videos, post on social media or even being a part of it is another thing. Overall, bullying is sometimes viewed as a perspective of how kids act when they feel the need that they are neglected, jealous and are emotionally distressed in a certain situation. This problem can also arise with the top person wanting to act as the overall top dominator to show that they are better and everyone should follow their lead, but we see these days as another problem that a lot of bystanders. People are feared to tell what they have seen

In the article, “Why our approach to bullying is bad for kids” by Susan Portor talks about how our culture reacts to bullying in the school system. Bullying has been a worldwide epidemic in our school system. The children that are being bullied end up having emotional distress that can lead to depression, maybe bullying others to gain back some control, even hurting themselves and the extreme of committing suicide.

She describes that confronting the bully, by fightback, sharing with friend and family for intervention, are different strategies used by victims. In some case the victim is unable to equalize this power over the bully. Which can prolong, ongoing humiliation dealing with issues, such as divorce in the family, drastic learning disabilities, as well as chronic illness potently can cause a breaking point. Having low self-esteem, depression, and suicidal and homicidal ideations. Some victims carry the hurt of bullying into adulthood. More or less victims tend to lose faith in other people for comfort and support. She contends “the adverse social and emotional consequences of bullying victimization do not support the idea that bullying builds character. Victimization may build character for a tiny proportion of the population.” (Kuykendall 2012). Bullying for the most part can be traumatic and painful should not be silently approved. Bullies hold social power than the victims. However attacks arise from frustration. Provocative victims are typically sincerely sorry and very apologetic after an attack, a reflection of genuine or low self-esteem. True bullies consume high self-esteem.

Bullying is a problem that is on the rise in society; however, many individuals have a distorted view of what bullying entails. Usually when someone thinks of bullying, they assume that it is a standard part of a child’s life. This view, on the contrary, is erroneous. Bullying is actually abnormal behavior, many times, leaving victims with a dismantled self identity. Since some people do not understand the consequences of bullying, the actions of the bully often go unnoticed and are perceived as “kids being kids”. The issue of bullying goes deeper than that nevertheless. Despite the erroneous views that many individuals hold towards bullying, it is still a distortion of normal behavior in children.

In the book wonder by R.J Palacio, the effects of bullying can cause horrible and hurtful things. It can cause the victim to hurt themselves or others around them. They can easily lose their confidence and think they have no self worth. People do nothing to stop the bullying they see. If we do not try we will not succeed and then it will continue to happen.

The everyday acts of bullying in schools is often the result of peer pressure. Peer pressure is exerted when an individual feels they must join in the behaviors of a particular social group in order to fit in. The most common types of bullying in middle and high schools include the sending of meanly worded notes and name calling. On the more extreme side of the spectrum people might casually ruin another person's relationship with gossip, lies and rumors. Many people give into peer pressure in order to be liked or to fit in. Even the sweetest and kindest kids will give into peer pressure as a form of self preservation. Those people who are able to muster the courage to go against the grain and not give in, will most certainly be happier for it in the long run. Instead of complying and buckling under peer pressure, they are free to be

People have a huge impact on your life, you make decisions based on what you think they’ll appreciate the most. Before a child is bullied, they might be happy and very nice, and they might be one of the best people you know. After bullying or neglect or being put down, they no longer have those qualities. Consequently, they’ve changed from that “good” person to that “evil” person because of their life experiences. People change people, everyone is born good, but they can become the evil villain we see in movies. The bullied can become the bullies, because they just want others to feel the same way they

Imagine a world full of hate and unkind words. Imagine a world of violence and scares. Imagine a world full of depression and acrimony. Imagine a world full of fear and pain. This it what the world is like for some people who deal with bullying everyday.

To begin this essay, it is essential to define some key terms. The Nature-Nurture debate argues whether our behaviour is as a result of our biology (such as our genes or neurochemistry), or if our behaviour arises from learning from others. For the purpose of this essay, a bully is defined as “a person who uses their strength or power to hurt or frighten people who are weaker” (Oxford Student’s dictionary, 2007). It is essential to investigate why bullying occurs and how to prevent it as bullies as well as their victims are likely to develop mental health problems. Children and adolescents who bully often develop increased levels of negative mental health outcomes in adulthood, as shown in Copeland, Wolk & Angold et al’s (2013) study; 9.4%

Bullying has the obscured need of an individual to feel like they have the power as compared to others in a social setting. When the bully carries an ego at school, the victim of the bullying may suffer both physical and emotional abuse. Bullying can also extend to sexual and verbal abuse. In some schools, a majority of the popular students tend to pick on the less popular students for the sake of fun and attention from other school mates. The main structural causes of bullying are mostly psychosomatic problems. In most of the times, a bully can also get rid of their own problems by passing it on to others person. In rare cases of young people, teenagers often release their anger out because of their violent backgrounds or negative influences that they come across as they grew up in life. As an outcome, they end up exhibiting these feelings through

Many people do not realize how serious bullying has become. If you look at statistics suicides due to bullying have increased over just a few short years. This has become a very big problem for not only the victim but the bully as well as it affect both of them. School bullying is mentally destructive to not only the victims, but bullies because of the harmful words, harassment, and physical violence involved as well as the consequences for the bully.