After the grandparents have began taking care of their grandchildren, there are many different worries that may occur. Some of the biggest worries the grandparents may have include; securing a future for the children, raising teenagers in a society they aren't used too, and what would happen to the children if something happened to them and they could no longer care for the children. The grandparents may also begin to realize that they are lacking a bit in both physical and emotional health. Due to the amount of time they are spending with the children, they may come to the conclusion that they don't have enough time and energy to continue working. This can cause them to cut back on the amount of hours that they are working or to give up employment all together. Giving up employment can be a …show more content…
The first is to accept the reality of their loss. This is a critical step for both the grandparents and the children. The grandparents are loosing their freedom and personal space, as well as, their hopes, dreams, and goals for retirement. The children are loosing their parents and the home environment that they have grow accustomed too. The second step is to work through the pain and grief. Grief is defined as an emotional response to loss that includes a complex mixture of painful affects including sadness, anger, helplessness, guilt, and despair. It is important for both parties to work through these emotions appropriately and not take them out on each other. Adjusting to a new environment without the parents is the third step. This is especially important for the children as they will now have different people to provide parental responsibilities to them. The fourth step is to emotionally relocate the person or people that they lost and move one. This can help the grandparents and children have a better
Growing up with your grandparents has its benefits. I remember waking up to freshly baked biscuits and fried sliced ham on Saturday mornings just before cartoons. Riding to the pharmacy with my grandfather to pick up his medicine was one of my favorite trips. We would always stop for ice cream before we returned home. Soaking in the knowledge that streamed from the lips of your elders can go unappreciated until you are an adult. Watching people age gives you an understanding of what is important to seniors as they transition to retirement and lonIg-term care. Seniors value the ability to live and enjoy a life that includes independence, family, and home. In today's economy, there is a shortage of health care professionals. Home healthcare services are vital due to the aging US population and need for increased continuum of care.
Grandparents influence their grandchildren both directly, through face-to-face interaction, and indirectly, by providing emotional support (Doucette-Dudman 98). When a grandchild confronts a problem and knows that her grandparents are there to support her, she is indirectly influenced by their emotional support.
While my grandfather, Frank Smith, and my great-grandmother, Jeannette Smith, were alive they resided in my home. I never met my grandmother, Georgie Smith, as she passed away when my mother was seven.
Most people know who their relatives are. They know their aunts and uncles, their cousins and their grandparents. Some relatives live far away and we rarely see them or in some instances, never meet them at all. Others die before we ever get to know them. I’m lucky because I have two sets of grandparents that live close by. My favorite grandpa is Charles Brainard and he is a remarkable and distinguished gentleman.
The last step is reorganization and restoration. This phase does not occur quickly. Here people begin to sort out suspicions and attempt to identify what was lost. There is a sense of release, renewed energy, more socialization, better judgments and more stable eating and sleeping habits. Readaptation to the loss does not mean forgetting. Adults can begin to restore emotional well being by acknowledging feelings, asking for support, reestablishing routines and reaching out to others. They can care for the needs of children by listening to their feelings and fears, providing information to clarify what occurred and whether it can affect their lives and by reestablishing routines that will comfort and reassure. There are many factors that influence the reaction of a child when death is announced to them. Factors include, the way the news is
I had the opportunity to interview a family very close to me whom I have been blessed to know since I was three years old. The mother Heidi, who is 59, remarried at the age of 31 to Paul, who is 57, and they have been married for 28 years now. Heidi had her first son Markie, who is now 38, with her previous husband who is no longer in the picture. Paul and Heidi have a son named Travis who is 26 and a daughter named Tina who is 24. Paul used to work as a carpenter but retired when he was 52. He then began working at a grocery store and eventually retired from there as well. Heidi also worked at a grocery and just recently retired. Paul loved what he did as a carpenter and still continues to build things for the family such as cabinets and furniture.
Carole B. Cox explains the importance of focus to the needs and concerns of these grandparents that are increasingly growing and becoming more known and the lack of services that address this group’s unique strengths and abilities to cope with any and all problems that they may face while caring for their grandchildren such as: their own physical health, increase of depression and insomnia, economic costs, low incomes, discrimination already present due to history, communication within the family, behavioral problems, and legal and entitlement issues. A study was conducted to see if a program that focused on providing these grandparents with a way to become more empowered in their role as custodial parents in strengthening their parenting skills,
Abuse in today’s society can be broken down into numerous sections and types, those in which, people around the world experience it. Such forms include, but are not limited to, drug abuse, discrimination, physical and verbal abuse, and sexual abuse. Many of the aforementioned changes people’s outlook on life; however, personally, I have observed my friend’s sexual abuse, changing my view of perfect families. When all's said and done, individuals can only move forward in life, trusting that there will be a better day even after relationships have been torn apart.
When Granddaddy and I were staying in Kisumu in western Kenya, we were close to the shoreline of huge Lake Victoria. One Sunday, we rode in a cab to Kiboko Bay, where our driver convinced a local fisherman to take us birding out on the lake. The man’s boat was wooden with a tin roof and peeling paint. Also, it had a pitiful, stinky, noisy outboard motor that surely drove some birds away. The fumes from the motor almost made me sick, but I’m glad we didn’t go right back. As we glided along the rocky shoreline, we saw people bathing and doing their laundry in the lake, pulling up water hyacinths to find fish they could eat, and watching us go by. We waved and some of them waved back. While we saw many interesting birds (ask Grandddaddy about
My Grandmother goes by the name of babunya, and baba for short, this means grandma in Ukrainian. She lived in Ukraine for most of her life, and she is almost 90 years old now. She’s been through a lot in her years, thus her appearance has changed. For every wrinkle she has there’s a story to match. She has had every color hair: blonde, red, brown, and black. Now her hair is a short gray color. She keeps it short because it stays out of the way, even though she hates it short. She has always had long her until now. She has also progressively become shorter over the years due to a very bad back; she now stands just under five feet. Since she spends most of her days in the garden her usual outfit
In a few brief moments, I will be leaving the my family in order to fight for the kingdom of Heaven and the glory of Christ. My father would expect me to fight for the Holy Kingdom. He had fought gloriously as well, and at this moment, he is smiling at me from the heavenly skies.The king himself had given the a nobility title for his heroic deeds in battles. Unlike others, he did not simply buy the title, which is why he is my inspiration [Nobility of the Sword]. I say farewell to my wife, Alice, and four children. I give advice to Alice and tell her what she should do in order to support herself and the children. I told her that I expect her to continue raising the kids, teaching them about the passion
My Birthfather's name is Stephon Salisbury. My Birthmother's name is Tammy Lynn Hall or Tammy Lynn Key after she got married. Tammy and Stephon were dating, but broke up. Tammy got remarried to a man named Tyrone or Ty for short. I have a brother named Damion and a sister named Shannon. Tammy's mother died in a car accident when Tammy was fifteen. Tammy lived with her Grandma and Grandpa. Grandma is Grandpa's second wife. They called her Grandma boo. Tammy was divorced and Damion lives with his father. Stephon has a brother who they call the steak man. Stephon's father was a dentist in the army. Tammy and Stephon are both tall and thin. Stephon said he was a fast
Considering that most adults in the U.S. retire in their early to mid 60’s, one can devise that most caregivers are still holding full time jobs amongst other personal responsibilities. It is probable that psychological emotions may be running particularly high with this demographic group as they prepare for their own retirement and life planning while dealing with losing elder family members and friends.
“I had an amazing life. I had wonderful husband I loved more than anything else is the world. I had six beautiful children, who gave me nine grandchildren, and the strength I needed throughout my life. I have regrets; but everyone does. I believe my life was wonderful because everyday I pray for my family and thank God for what he has given me throughout the years. The good times, and the difficult ones – everything was a blessing.” Winnie, now 75 years old, believes she has been blessed everyday of her life. It sounded surprising after I interviewed her to hear how religious and optimistic she is about her life. You see, I knew her as my quirky grandmother – who used to crotchet dolls on top of soda bottles, or kiss a penny that
Throughout the years, we look up to the values and stories our grandparents have shared with us. As, we grow older; we know our grandparents are growing older. We seem to realize that they are becoming fragile and having more health issues, which usually result in constantly watching over them to make sure they do not hurt themselves. According to Seccombe (2015), “As we age, our health is likely to decline in a number of ways” (p.430). Also, many individuals feel obligated to care for their older generation like elder mothers, fathers, and grandparents. However, taking care of your family at home and your elders, while balancing a job can be extremely stressful. Although we would like time away, we know we have