Gender Roles and Stereotypes Explored in Judy Mann's The The Difference: Growing Up Female in America and Bernard Lefkowitz's Our Guys
Gender stereotypes are common in the United States today, even though many men and women have been working hard to defeat it. The task is made difficult however, when society in general implants the idea of gender roles into the mind of a child. Two authors, Judy Mann of The Difference and Bernard Lefkowitz of Our Guys face the issue of gender roles and stereotypes, and how they affect our lives today.
Our Guys focuses on the way that young boys are brought up by society by telling the true story of a group of Glen Ridge, New Jersey teenage boys who sexually assaulted a young retarded girl.
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The fact that the ‘guys’ were brought up to be domineering and sports oriented made them a perfect match for Glen Ridge and a terror for society. They lived for sports and for the power it brought them, for as Lefkowitz points out, "Glen Ridge was football" (72). If one didn’t like or didn’t play the game, he or she was a nobody (72). For the parents of Glen Ridge teenagers, it was a fate worse than death to have a son uninterested in football or sports in general (73). It was this obsession over football and the boys’ ability to play it that granted them so many liberties. "Jocks get drunk at parties. Jocks acted boorishly on occasion. Sometimes jocks were a little more aggressive with girls than good manners permitted" (73). All of these actions were overlooked however because they were "being boys" and it was thought that they would grow out of it. This is the underlying base of Lefkowitz’s book, that the behavior of "the guys" was assumed to be stereotypical, and therefore all right. What kind of justice is that for the girl who were the victims of such aggression? Assuming that they would grow out of such behavior is ludicrous, yet it remained the solution to the problem of jock behavior; let them grow up, no harm done (73). But irreversible damage had already been done to the teens involved in the case, not to mention their peers. The boys had lived rooted in aggression. A characteristic that strong and
(Including stereotypes), to evaluate complicated situations that called for judgments about both the inclusion of someone and the exclusion. That included information about the children 's past experiences. Other studies have stated that the parents also have a huge impact on children’s gender role stereotype. From having an absent father to having parents argue about money or their children, could have effect on how children see their own or the opposite gender. This paper will review the current literature on how the gender role stereotypes effect people.
The book “Our Guys” is more of a cultural and sociological study than just a mere crime book. Bernard provides detailed information about the story of a young girl known as Leslie who was raped by the Jocks in a town known as Glen ridge in New Jersey. The story reports that the Jocks had been in trouble since their middle years in school. However they were considered the star athletes, golden boys in a town that valued competition and athleticism. The behavior of one of the young men was so inexplicable and revolting; however, he was never charged or punished for his actions. As Bernard puts it, you would walk in a high school with a cabinet full of trophies, game balls and other accoutrements, but surprisingly, you would not be able to find the honor roll list (Lefkowitz, 1997).
In the riveting documentary Audrie & Daisy, husband and wife director team Bonnie Cohen and Jon Shenk retrace the events leading up to the harrowing sexual assaults of three teenage girls; Audrie Pott, Daisy Coleman, and Paige Parkhurst, and expose the agonizing after effects and exploitation of the assaults. Subsequent interviews with family members, friends and law enforcement officials give important details about the aftermath of the events, and introduce viewers to possibly the biggest villain of all, Sherriff Darren White of Maryville, Missouri. Throughout the documentary White appears smug when he states that “as County Sheriff, “the buck stops here” (Darren White), and when asked about the crimes committed by Maryville’s football star, he rebuts with “was there a crime?” (Darren White). As the film moves through the twists and turns of the cases, the settings, conflicts, and tragedies are enhanced by the use of montage, long and subjective shots, close-ups and personal sketches that submerge the audience into the victim’s point of view. At the conclusion of the film, the viewer is left to decide what constitutes sexual assault and rape, and if society and law enforcement are to blame for today’s ‘rape culture’ acceptance and the continued victimization of young girls. It also reveals how much can be hidden from parents, and how disconnected they can become from their children in a social media world.
In her powerful, realistic play, “Good Kids”, Naomi Iizuka wrote the play with intentions of bringing a horrendous real-life situation of sexual assault to people’s attention and revealing the dramatic impact that social influence has on the situation. With high aspirations, Iizuka intended to not only educate people, but to also encourage people to take the proper precautions in an effort to prevent sexual assault from transpiring to themselves, friends, and others. Within this theatrical performance, a teenager named Chloe is raped by a high school jock named Connor and his friends whom all play the game of football together. Iizuka utilizes Chloe’s friend and cousin to reveal how Chloe’s sexual assault could have been prevented. If Chloe’s friend would have not let Chloe out of her sight, and if Chloe’s cousin would have given her a safe ride home, then Chloe would have not been drugged and raped by the football players. Furthermore, Iizuka intended to reveal how Chloe and Connor were not the only ones affected by the sexual assault, but friends, family, classmates, and parents were also dramatically affected too.
The novel Our Guys, written by Bernard Lefkowitz, is a very dynamic story about the heinous actions of a dozen middle-class athletes, from a small New York suburb, against a defenseless mentally handicapped girl. Lefkowitz describes a brutal gang rape involving a baseball bat and broomhandle, which took place in this unsuspecting town, by these upstanding young group of boys, as the town would describe them. Lefkowitz looks at the incident which took place and then examines the “jock clique” sub-culture that allowed such atrocities to happen, and spawned the scandal to cover it up.
In the riveting documentary Audrie & Daisy, husband and wife director team Bonnie Cohen and Jon Shenk retrace the events leading up to the harrowing sexual assaults of three teenaged girls; Audrie Pott, Daisy Coleman, and Paige Parkhurst, and expose the agonizing after effects and exploitation of the assaults. Subsequent interviews with family members, friends and law enforcement officials give important details about the aftermath of the events, and introduce viewers to possibly the biggest villain of all, Sherriff Darren White of Maryville, Missouri. Throughout the documentary White appears smug while he states that “as County Sheriff, “the buck stops here” (Darren White), and when asked about the crimes committed by Maryville’s football star, he rebuts with “was there a crime?” (Darren White) As the film moves through the twists and turns of the cases, the settings, conflicts, and tragedies are enhanced by the use of montage, long and subjective shots, close-ups and personal sketches that submerge the audience into the victim’s point of view. At the conclusion of the film, the viewer is left to decide what constitutes sexual assault and rape, and if society and law enforcement are to blame for the today’s ‘rape culture’ acceptance and the continued victimization of young girls. It also reveals how much can be hidden from parents, and how disconnected parents become from their children in a social media world.
Quotes from those who feel they have been personally victimized cause the reader to feel angry towards the school administration or officials who are enforcing such a strict dress code. When Bates gives account after account of the dress codes in schools being unfairly carried out or too strict all together, the reader begins to feel sorry for the girls who fall victim to their administrators’ discrimination. Bates says “I can’t help feeling there is a powerful irony in accusing a girl of being ‘provocative’ – in projecting that societal assumption onto her adolescent body – before she is even old enough to have learned how to correctly spell the word.” By stating this, she is arguing that high school girls are too young to already be faced with sexual assault or discrimination from a culture that tells women to cover up because boys can not control themselves. The personal accounts in Bates’ article give the reader an emotional connection to the victims mentioned, thus building
Raw, visceral, and an unflinching story, Some Boys takes of mere days after the rape of our protagonist, Grace, has occurred. Grace is suffering from harassment from her peers, all of them and not just the boy who raped her. This book relies heavily on the “he said, she said” trope of rape books. Grace’s friends know that she liked Zac before the party, that she flirted with him – and they believe her cries of rape to be fake. The whole town, not just the students in her school, wants absolutely nothing to do with her but want everything to do with her downfall and making her feel as if she is worthless. Zac, the accused rapist, is the towns golden boy. He is the star lacrosse player and the boy who gets away with whatever he wants because
The murder of Skylar Neese was a case that shocked the entire nation. It was a case of betrayal and heartbreak that once solved brought about more questions than it did answers and left a cloak of fear over the town and citizens of Sky City, West Virginia. July 6, 2012 was a night no one in the town would have ever imagined possible or could ever forget. Skylar Neese was just an average sixteen-year-old girl who believed she was going out for a night of fun; that quickly turned south as she was attacked and stabbed to death by her two best friends, Sheila and Rachel. They were also sixteen-year-old girls whom defied all gender norms as they crossed the line from innocent female high school students to murderers. This paper will analyze the
By juxtaposing ‘unwanted attention’, representing innocence within females and graphical language such as ‘callously manipulated, deceived and assaulted’, Szego fights against victim blaming in an effort to inform and guilt bystanders. This could pressure many in society to stand up for sexual harassment against teenage schools girls and in particular compel fathers to reflect upon their reluctance and atone for their tortious actions. She then tries to appeal to the reader’s family values by mentioning ‘mothers’ rancid memories’ and reminds fathers and sons how they too have a female family member. This contextualisation of the issue may cause teenage boys to feel disgusted about their
Raw, real, important and an unflinching story, Some Boys starts after the rape occurs. It's actually been a bit since the rape - in days, not months or something. Grace is suffering from the harassment of her peers - and not just Zac, the boy who raped her. Her friends all think she was flirting with Zac at the party, that she was totally into Zac, and that her cries of rape are fake. The whole town, it seems, wants nothing to do with her, but wants everything to do with her downfall. It's not enough for them to ignore her - no, they need to provoke and bully her. Zac is the golden boy, the star lacrosse player, the guy who gets away with everything. And Ian, his best friend and teammate, goes along with everything Zac does. Even though Ian is the one that found Grace that night, bleeding and unconscious.
An Annotated Bibliography for The Main Cause In Negative Gender Stereotypes and Traditional Gender Roles:
Gender stereotypes are mostly taken for granted at a young age: girls are told to play with dolls and boys are told to play with trucks. But as children grow older they find themselves in a world where the reality of gender roles and stereotypes aren’t acknowledged, and the illusion of gender neutrality is commended. If gender roles are becoming more neutral, then it would follow that gender role stereotypes are also becoming more lax. However, in actuality this is not true.
Throughout history, humans have always been expected to act a certain way depending on their sex. These societal expectations are called gender roles. (Rathus, 2010, p.447). These roles begin to develop even before a child is even out of the womb. A mother may decorate their nursery pink if they are having a daughter because “girls like pink,” and “boys like blue.” Gender roles should not be confused with gender stereotypes. A gender stereotype is a narrow way of thinking about how men and woman are obligated to behave. For example, men have always been considered to be the breadwinners of the family. Females, on the other hand, are seen more as the gentle homemakers that stay home to clean and take care of the children. (Rathus, 2010, p.447). These types of stereotypes have caused certain out-of-the-home jobs to be mainly categorized for either women or men, causing an even more distinct line between the genders.
At a young age, we are taught to adhere to norms and are restricted to conform to society’s given rules. We are taught that straying away from stereotypes is anything but good and encouraged to build our lives upon only these social rules. Recently, stereotypes based on genders have been put into the limelight and have become of high interest to a generation that is infamously known for deviating from the established way of life. Millennials have put gender roles under fire, deeming it a form of segregation and discrimination by gender. Researchers have followed suit. Mimicking millennial interests, numerous studies have been published that detail the relationship between gender, stereotypes, and the effects of the relationship between the two. Furthermore, gender roles have been used as a lens to study socialization; tremendous amounts of interest have prompted studies on the inheritance and dissemination of norms, culture, and ideologies based on the stereotypes that cloud gender. For sociologists, determining the extent of the impact of gender stereotypes on socializing our population has become a paramount discussion. Amidst many articles, the work of Karniol, Freeman, and Adler & Kless were standouts and between the three pieces, childhood served as a common thread; more specifically, these researchers studied how gender roles impact socialization from such a young age.