I walked out of the lesson full of thoughts. The case with the student who stole from his friends made me think about my feelings. It is so hard not to take the blame on yourself that you did not educate him enough or maybe you was not strict enough. I am a person who usually takes the blame on herself, which can be very troublesome. However, from the lesson, I got to the understanding that I cannot live like that. It can be too much sometimes. I have to understand that I cannot expect my students to be perfect since after thinking about it, it seems as the only possibility for me to not feel guilty all the time. However, at the same time, I am still debating on what I should do in this kind of a situation.
In addition, I also found out that I do not accept failure, which can be a good thing but also a bad thing. Nevertheless, I also found out that I have to stop thinking of things as a success or a failure, there is not a third option in my way of thinking sometimes. However, I came to the understanding that in education, we fall down and get up, fall down and get up and learn from our mistakes, just
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However, at school, the IQ is much more important than emotional intelligence, which is in my opinion truly a shame. In addition, I was very surprised that emotional intelligence is virtually all learned. I thought that it is the opposite and it is amazing. When I read about the "test anxiety", I remember myself as a 15-year-old girl, who have a relatively high IQ, but since I was so anxious that I would fail sometimes I would just go blank from all the pressure. It seems that it would be much more useful if we learned at school how to be emotional intelligence. Not only for life in general but all in order to succeed in school, which is a surprising fact for me.I did not understand that because of my lost control of emotions, I could not remember the answer in the test for
Emotional intelligence; also referred to as EI or EQ, is defined as, “a skill in perceiving, understanding, and managing emotions and feelings” (n.d.). The way I express myself, interact with others, demonstrate emotions and deal with stress on a consistent basis may lead to a high EQ, or low EQ, depending on my actions. I was able to take a self-assessment on the McGraw-Hill/Irwin website that provided a score for my emotional intelligence with specific areas of strengths and weaknesses included. Overall, I scored 87 out of 100 possible points, which ranks my score considerably high. Based on my results, I faired well in regards to understanding and managing my emotions in all areas of my life. Understanding emotional intelligence, and achieving a high score in similar assessments, may lead to rewarding results in many facets of life’s daily tasks and interactions. A person, who has developed a high emotional intelligence, will keep their emotions under control, strengthen relationships with those around them, and know their limitations.
With the publication of Daniel Goleman’s book Emotional Intelligence in 1995, the business world got an answer to a question that had been plaguing it for decades: “Why did some people of a high IQ struggle at managing teams while other leaders of lower IQ excel at it”? Goleman asserted that the traditional measurement of IQ (intelligence quotient) was not enough to determine a good leader. Schools and universities concentrated on developing the cognitive and analytical part of the brain, while the teaching of how the emotional side of the brain worked was ignored. Goleman defined this “emotional intelligence” of a human being as a set of competencies that distinguish how one manages
Abraham, R. (1999). Emotional Intelligence in associations: a conceptualization. Hereditary Social and General Psychology Monographs, 125(2), 209-224.
According to Carol Kanar one page article “Emotional Intelligence: Another way of being smart” From Daniel Goldman book Emotional Intelligence published in 2008; the entire piece can be found at “The Confident Student” (6th Ed.) StudentAchievment Series.Boston:Houghton Mifflin Co. Where she shares his theory, there are multiple factors that determine a person's intelligence not just their IQ. This is supports this by stating about 20 percent of success is IQ, and the other 80 percent is a person’s emotional state and self-discipline level. Having emotional intelligences requires you to keep control of your own emotions to obtain your success. Having a higher IQ doesn't always equal a higher level of success (1.)
Interestingly enough, emotional intelligence doesn't always come hand in hand with standard intelligence and vice versa. That is, extremely smart people can have low emotional intelligence while others who are not so gifted in standard IQ can exhibit relatively high emotional intelligence. I was watching the Larry King show on TV one night when former President Bill Clinton was interviewed. President Clinton said that one of the best things we can teach our youth is that sometimes bad things can happen to us and we have no control over them. However, what we do have control over is how we react or respond to these bad things.
“Emotional intelligence is the ability to understand and manage our emotions and those around us, therefore, this quality gives individuals a variety of skills, such as the ability to manage relationships, navigate social networks, influence and inspire others. Every individual possesses different level, but in order for individuals to become effective leaders, they will need a high level of emotional intelligence. In today’s workplace, it has become a highly important
Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence, discusses the idea of intelligence being more than a matter of cognitive ability. In part one and two of the book, Goleman discusses how the brain processes emotions. In these chapters the author describes the cortex and the limbic system. Rationality is job of the cortex while the limbic system processes your emotions. He suggests that the emotional intelligence can be a learned skill. In the next chapter Daniel Goleman uses studies to show that many high IQ scoring students have underperformed in their lives while many average people have become huge successes. Goleman stated that if the IQ scoring has little to do with success and that your 80% success is based on your emotional intelligence.
"Emotional Intelligence is a way of recognizing, understanding, and choosing how we think, feel, and act. It shapes our interactions with others and our understanding of ourselves. It defines how and what we learn; it allows us to set priorities; it determines the majority of our daily actions. Research suggests it is responsible for as much as 80% of the "success" in our lives." The Effective leader requires a high degree of Emotional Intelligence. In this study, the various skills of Emotional Intelligence can be related with real situations. The various skills of Emotional Intelligence are Self awareness, self regulation, motivation, Empathy, social skill. People with high self-awareness are also able
Emotional intelligence, or EI, has begun to make head way in the nursing world in its tie to leadership. Nurses are people, so they experience emotion just like every other person. Their work is stressful and trying, it provokes emotion due to the environment and situations at hand. The ability to recognize one’s own emotions, along with those that present in others is an important skill (Morrison, 2008). Being able to recognize emotions makes it easier to manage our lives and our relationship with others. These are the aspects that make a person competent enough to say that they have emotional intelligence. Supporters of emotional intelligence believe that EI may be more valuable in determining a good leader than intellectual
Emotional intelligence was described formally by (Salovey & Mayer). They defined it as ‘the ability to monitor one’s own and others’ feelings and emotions, to discriminate among them and to use this information to guide one’s thinking and actions’. They also provided an initial empirical demonstration of how an aspect of emotional
To begin, the basics of emotional intelligence are crucial to understanding the foundation from which humans refer to on a daily basis for interacting in society. Emotional intelligence suggests that humans hold the capability to identify, interpret, understand, manage, and response to emotions in ways to enforce positive relationships, establish good communication, empathize, and address conflict within social networks. Humans begin learning this upon entering life, as emotional intelligence determines the ways that humans behave and intermingle with the environment. The degree of intelligence varies among people: those with a high emotional intelligence are able to recognize their own emotions and other emotions in addition to a sort of magnetic draw that pulls others toward them. This is because people with high emotional intelligence know how to better relate to, understand, and help others. Consider a group
In the last decade of the 20th century, many researchers became involved in in-depth analyses of the causes and consequences of specific emotions and moods at work and several theories were proposed to explain emotions in the work place and one of these theories is the affective events theory. AET is a model developed by organisational psychologists, Weiss and Cropanzano in 1996 to explain how emotions and moods influence job performance and job satisfaction, Thompson and Phua (2012). The model explains the linkages between employees' internal influences (e.g., cognitions, emotions, mental states) and their reactions to incidents that occur in their work environment that affect their performance, organisational commitment and job satisfaction. The theory proposes that affective work behaviours are explained by employee mood and
There are numerous factors impacting on a student’s emotional intelligence which can result in poor academic performance. Salovey and Mayer (1990) “define emotional intelligence as the subset of social intelligence that involves the ability to monitor one’s own and others’ feelings and emotions, to discriminate among them and to use
Emotional intelligence has to do with an individual’s ability to understand and manage his or her own or others’ feelings and emotions. It involves the ability to perceive and express emotion, assimilate emotion in thought, understand and reason about emotion and manage emotions in oneself and in others. People with emotional intelligence are able to identify and recognize the meaning of emotions and to manage and regulate their emotions as a basis for problem solving, reasoning, thinking, and action.
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