One powerful component of constructive communication is the capability to be an effective listener. Our conversations will continue to reach dead ends if we do not realize where we may lack in our listening skills, decide to make improvements, and follow through. Therefore, we are left with two options when we learn we do not listen well, continue to listen the way we have been or make the conscious effort to improve and become sharpened listeners. This is one area of my life that I was made aware of over a year ago. I do not listen! I used to listen to respond, which was an unhealthy way to communicate. In listening to respond we are putting a higher value to our thoughts then that of the speaker. As discussed in our text some of warnings that one may not be a good listener is having the speaker repeat information already given, criticizing the speakers form of giving information, breaking the conversation to give your input, either orally or mentally, and giving the speaker the false gratification that you are listening (Hamilton. C. pp. 119, 120). I used to be the breaker in the …show more content…
The first conversation took place between myself, our counselor, Dr. Bird, and my husband Giovanni. Myself and Dr. Bird got a 10, while I gave Giovanni an 8. At one point of the conversation he became fidgety, Dr. Bird had to pause for a minute and asked him if he was upset. One practice that I began over a year ago when having important discussions with my husband is keeping a note pad and writing down key words. I started this because Giovanni can sometimes speak for an hour or more, by the time he is finished it became difficult to address the first topic he may have discussed. The other two conversations held I also gave myself and the other person a 10. I left both conversations with further knowledge and believe they also gained from my
Why Don't We Listen Better?" By James Petersen starts out by introducing the reader to him, his life, family, and how/why communication became important to him. The author’s intention for this book is to convey to us what communication is and how we should communicate with the people we come in contact with better as people. Communication is about using proper body and verbal language to talk to people. This book offers to the reader techniques on how to become a better listener. Techniques such as acknowledging, helping people accept themselves and feel real support from the listener (which is described as a good listening) (Petersen, 10). Petersen takes the time to describe communication, a word deriving from the root word meaning "to commune"
James Peterson’s book entitled “Why don't we listen better”; goal is to present ways to enhance our listening skills. Peterson believes good listening and talking skills are vital in order to communicate efficiently. Peterson describes two types of communications. Level 1 communication which involves facts and discusses each other’s point of view and Level 2 in which trust and sharing develops.
The main concept in the Why we don’t listen better. This text examines effective methods that the talker and listener can use while communicating. Petersen, The author demonstrates the importance of listening while communicating he stated it is essential to eliminate barriers that may distract the listener from effectively listening to the message that the talker is trying to deliver(Petersen, 2015 ). The listener body language will display if they are interested in the conversation if the listener is not interested they will interrupt or change the subject(Petersen,). The talker will leave the conversation not feeling satisfied due to the fact they were interrupted. Communication is a process that requires two
In order to address my awareness of demographic difference in my introductory communication, I will send out two separate letters with the same pictures and content, with the difference of language. This is for students who’s parents can not speak English
My object during this course was a short video commercial with thematic line of “More Rice” with implicit meaning that when someone serving you with rice and asks you for serving with more rice it means that he/she wants to spent more time with you or he/she really take care of you. The title of video commercial was “Heartwarming, Chinese New Year” with a social message of re-generating love and affection for working mothers who serve their children well and always care for their health and education, grow them up and make them able to compete in the world for a better life style and future. Denotative descriptions and connotative readings later studied in context with scholarly written articles especially Amy Tan’s Mother Tongue world famous story (Tan, Amy, 1991). There were
Communication is imperative for human survival, either for physical needs or mental health requirements. Some people require more stimuli than others; some people are more communicative than others. I noticed, I began my day on a negative note; my attitude was not the best that could have been. This sole reason affected my work ethics, the tone of voice I communicated with, and how much I would be communicating that day. Weather it was a simple eye rolls, shake of the head, or a quick text, I communicated.
This exercise provided insight to my personal methods and style of communicating and actively listening when working. When reflecting on previous communications with my co-workers and management, I can see both my strengths and weakness in communicating, especially when dealing with difficult people. It is important as a nurse to be aware of one’s own communication styles, verbal and nonverbal actions, as you could be saying one thing, but demonstrating a totally different message through body language, facial expressions or silence (Sullivan, 2017). I feel that my positive characteristics in communicating with co-workers include active listening, comprehension of what others are trying to say ,acknowledging other’s contributions to the conversation,
Communication competence, as defined by Yoosun Hwang, is the ease at which someone can present a message. Hwang's model of communication states that media efficacy is positively influenced by communication, however mediated communications require a different set of skills than face-to-face communication. I agree with Hwang on that. However, while someone who is good at one form is likely to be good in another, the efficacy at someone can communicate is NOT the same when switching mediums of communication. Before this week's reading I did not believe that a person's competence changed when switching from face-to-face to mediated communication, because I believe that someone's excellence at communicating face-to-face would translate to communicating
I first started to really indulge in the idea of perusing a degree in communications after taking a summer class at the College of DuPage (com 101) this class was extremely eye opening because we often discussed the way in which people communicate with one another. I liked how the class was not just a speech class, it dove into the way in which people communicate. More specifically what is effective in communicating and what is not effective in communicating.
My goal for this conversation was to keep things short and simple, and ask questions that he would find value in like work and financial planning. If I could keep things relevant to his interests I believed we would be able to have a longer conversation. I wanted to put his interests above my own in the hopes that we could both find something beneficial out of it.
The whole situation happened when I looked at my schedule on January 3rd, 2016 and noticed that I was working from 8:00am-10:30am on January 7th, 2016 on a Thursday. It was bizarre how I was scheduled to work two and a half hours since I have not been scheduled to work that short amount of time in over a year. Nevertheless, I was not disappointed because I was busy that day. On January 6th, 2016, I double checked the schedule in the crew room to see what time I work on January 7th, 2016 just to be sure and it showed from 8:00am-10:30am again, so I am one hundred percent sure that this was what the schedule showed in the crew room. Furthermore, on January 7th, 2016, I clocked in at 8:00am, and later on I had break around 10:00am. I came back to the kitchen to return to the kitchen so I could start working on the switch from breakfast to lunch. At this time I noticed that we now a manager in the kitchen. It was not that busy at the time so there was a bit of time for conversation while still working. As
Two-path procedure of achieving common comprehension, in which members not just trade (encode-disentangle) data, news, thoughts and emotions additionally make and share meaning. When all is said and done, communication is a method for interfacing individuals or spots. In business, it is a key capacity of administration - an association can't work without communication between levels, offices and representatives (BusinessDictionary.com, 2017).
Strategies in communication are needed to receive the best possible outcome for ourselves and those around us. Effective communication is a person’s ability to adjust their strategies to suit the uniqueness of the situation and person they are communicating with. “Those who behave assertively are acknowledging both their rights as individuals and the rights of other people.” (Dwyer 2013, 55)
You all must learn to be motivated and have an open mind and be willing to gain something from one another. During conversation between the two of you make sure you can hear each other clearly without any interruption. Virginia Satir (1976) suggests that when you do not clearly hear the speaker, you often make up what you think the other person said. We tend to make an assumption and then hold the other person responsible for not communicating effectively. Paying Attention is another means of effective listening. Messages are sent by verbal and nonverbal means. To be an effective listener you must give your undivided attention to both verbal and nonverbal messages. Never jump to conclusion, let the other party finish their thoughts before you intervene to ensure that you have interpreted the message correctly.
· Stop Talking-Don't talk, listen. When somebody else is talking listen to what they are saying, do not interrupt, talk over them or finish their sentences for them. Stop, just listen. When the other person has finished talking you may need to clarify to ensure you have received their message accurately.