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Covert Observation

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Getting to know someone's personality is always a fun exercise. Initially, I begin with covert observation--naturalistic observation, if you will--of their conversations, activities, and mannerisms. How they interact with others, how they choose to spend their time, and how their demeanor is exhibited gives me clues to who they are. For example, spotting an introvert's chaotic expression at being stuck in a conversation with an extrovert who is oblivious to their desire to run away, and who continues raucously horrifying their conversational partner gives me a glimpse into each person's personality. No matter if they are conversing with another person or sitting silently, there are generally clues into their personality by just watching their …show more content…

In her search for the perfect man, she has become a stalker of personality clues via social media. She tells me often how much bigger the picture of a person is when the image is not skewed by his own tendencies to “blow himself up”, and his friends’ tendencies to embarrass him (A. Cunningham, personal communication, January 21, 2016). This perusing of his information is more of a mixed clues collection because she can obtain life outcome information (L data) and naturalistic behavioral clues (B data) in this format (Funder, 2016). She finds that this setting usually gives her the most extensive personality reveal because she is interested in how they act in every setting while not needing to make a specific impression, and she is interested in seeing if what they have told her matches the nature of their social …show more content…

A common discrepancy between self-reported (S data) information and information given by others (I data) stems from the context in which the information was gathered (Funder, 2016). For example, a jilted ex-girlfriend can attest to all of the negative traits that her last boyfriend had, but she is not going to readily give up anything positive because of her hurt feelings. So, often the state of the informant and the nature of the relationship can skew the information being shared (Funder, 2016). Another example would be an informant friend who gives a glowing testament to the kind and giving nature of the individual, but the individual has assessed himself as not being overly kind or giving. The reason behind this type of discrepancy could be what Funder cites as the “fish-and-water-effect” (as cited in Funder, 2016, p. 28) where a person cannot convey those attributes as extraordinary because they are just a fundamental part of who they are as a person(Funder, 2016). Because no one can be with you twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week, there will always be discrepancies between what someone reveals about them and what others reveal about the same person; additionally, only an individual can reveal specific thoughts, dreams, and notions held inside their own mind (Funder,

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