Summer Britton COM200 Ashford University In the article “Close Relationships Sometimes Mask Poor Communication” reachers discuess how often times being close with someone, can have a negative impact on our communications skills with those we care for the most. According to the atricical often times we expect the person we are close to understand what we want or need without actually explaining it to them. The aritical supplied several examples in which I am personally guilty of. One example was when a wife made a statement about it getting hot in the room, she was impling that she wanted the air condiniter tempture adjusted, while her husband mistook the statement in a more sexual way. Communicating with a close friend or a spouse can be difficult at times. I think the closer we get with a person, weather it be a friend or a spouse, I expect them to understand my hidden …show more content…
I don’t actually come out and say I want it or ask for it, but I seriously expect my husband to purchase the item for me. In fact we just went through this recently. I am a music lover, I love to play music on my phone and dance around while I am cleaning, working, or sometimes doing schoolwork. While we were in the store I brought the subject up, and then showed my husband a Bluetooth speaker I would like to have, I even pointed out it was on sale and it would go perfectly with all the red stuff in our kitchen, his response was, yeah baby that would look great, and it sounds great, and that’s a really good price! I thought I had it in the bag, I never came out and asked for it, but I certiantly implied I wanted and even gave supporting reasons to validate spending the money. He never offered and I never asked, so when we got home we were talking about it, and how nice it
Communication is important in relationships as it allows us to share our interest, concerns, and support one other; organize our lives and make decisions. Communication allows us to work together. Effective communication is based on the way we talk and listen, and how we respond with our body language. We can all learn how to improve the way we communicate but it takes more than words to create a safe, exciting and secure relationship. Too often the signals we send are not those we intend, when this happens, often both connection and trust are lost in our relationships.
I know my wife or any other person who requires my utmost attention could find something I am not doing as well as I could be, but fortunately for me, these recent circumstances have had no such reciprocities. I believe the way a person acts is partially attributed to the past and present events in a person’s life and could motivate them to react to communicative relationships in unpredictable ways.
Interpersonal Communication is a very important ingredient in making strong, healthy relationships. Communicating is how we get a better understanding of one another’s perception of things, as well as how we help someone to better understand ours. We need to express our feelings in relationships and know that they are reciprocated. Not communicating leads to problems and misunderstandings. People need to learn to understand what the other person is trying to communicate. Interpersonal communication is the process by which people exchange information, feelings, and meaning through verbal and non-verbal messages: it is face-to-face communication. It is about what is said, how it is said, and the use of non-verbal communication through
From this module I will summarize and review what those negative communications look like within a relationship. Those within a marriage where these patterns of communication are present, do not feel safe, secure or significant. Therefore, it is essential to identify those patterns. If a person is unware of what is destroying their marriage, they cannot seek forgiveness and aim to bring reconciliation,
Communication meets relation needs as well. Even though people need the physical need, they need to feel affection, and have relationships. But without communication, how would it be possible to maintain a relationship? Having that communication builds the relationship. As Floyd states, some scholars believe that people’s need for a relationship is so basic, they hardly get by by without them. These are how communication contributes to physical health and
Mothers and Daughters Throughout the book “The Joy Luck Club,” the daughters, Jing-mei and Waverly, feel as if they do not understand their mothers, Suyuan and Lindo. They feel as though their mothers do nothing but ridicule them and in some cases, that their mothers try to make everything about themselves. Many of the mother-daughter issues stem from a lack of communication from the daughters and in some cases is just the daughters misunderstanding the reasons behind their mother’s actions. One example of a lack of communication is in the story “Four Directions.”
Men's and women are two different genders ,so its easy to understand, they don’t communicate in the same way. According to Tannen and Gray men and women should make an effort to understand each other’s expectations when it comes to communication because they use language differently, they think in different ways, and they deal with problems with different ways. For example, in her article, “Sex, lies and conversation; Why is it so hard for Men and Women to talk to each other,” Deborah Tannen tells us How can women and men have such different impressions of communication in marriage? Why the widespread imbalance in their interest and expectation ?According to Tannen and Gray, men’s and women’s different conversation styles reflect men’s need for independence and women need for intimacy because they communicate, think, and speak differently.
I think that a good a good example is Bobby did that same as me, “had rather callously started up a relationship with a new partner, without properly ending things with his current girlfriend” (277). Because I did not want to hurt her feelings by saying that I did not love her anymore. Maybe it was not the time to be together. She wanted me a lot. However I cheated on her with other girls. She did not support the fact that I was talking to other girls. We break up our relationship that we had. I wasn’t expecting that away one thing that last it because I was not able to carry the relation. Lack of communication was a real problem in my relationship but also navigational relationship talking to other girls without finishing in a formal way.
The article for this week describes miscommunication, this article gives us a brief understanding how we might overestimate how will we communicate with others, it gives us an example of marital couple's may have a closeness communication bias, based on the fact that the couples have been together believe that they no more about each other then they really did, the preconception of you and your spouse or partner could result in the miscommunication of each other, chapter 2.3, communication effectiveness, " effectiveness is linked to your ability to get what you want from an interaction. This can be as simple as achieving shared meaning with another person; when the message you encode is the decoded in a similar manner." What this means to me is when communicating with others make sure you have a clear and decisive understanding of what you are trying to achieve with the conversation. The co-author Nicholas Epley. “The problem communicating with friends and spouses is that we have an illusion of insight." What this means is that we are assuming that a person we are communicating with knows exactly what we mean.
Do how well communicators know each other affect the way they communicate negatively? How? Ch6. P 186.
Theory explains why parties to communication experience conflicting pulls causing relationships to be in a constant state of flux. The closer individuals become to one another, the more conflict will arise to pull them apart.
Communication is so complicated because there is so much more than a couple people talking. Interaction deals with how someone feels about themselves, the other person, and how they think the other person feels about them. I knew how I felt about Sadie, but did she feel the same way? If she did, I might would not be writing this paper. I used to think she liked me, but we see where thinking gets you. Without communication you cannot have a relationship; it is escapable. If I ever said anything I should not have to Sadie, the results were never good. Once I said whatever it was, there was no going back. Like a Russian proverb says, "Once a word goes out of your mouth, you can never swallow it again." This completely true because once something is said; if it caused harm it will always be
My partner was my new boyfriend. I picked him because he was available and is always talking about how I’m mysterious and never open up. So, I thought this would help us get closer and it was a perfect time. At the beginning, we agreed we were a five, and now were between a two and one. Before our relationship was based off superficialness and passionate love. As we were doing the activity, it started out with laughter and jokes. Then, it got deeper and we found out we had a lot of pain, and were in need of more than just passion. We’re so similar, it’s pretty odd. So, I would say we were getting closer and closer. Not once did I feel like me opening up was being dismissed or rejected with a “too much information”, instead it was welcomed and
Hiding things from other people can cause them to misunderstand you. For example, in "Once in a lifetime", when the Choudhuris announced their move to America, they didn't tell Hema's family that they were moving because Mrs. Choudhuri had breast cancer. Hema reveals that "for days afterward, my parents talked of nothing else. They wondered what had gone wrong [that made the Choudhuris come back to America" (227). Initially, Hema's family was confused as to why the Choudhuris were coming. They knew that something had gone wrong, but the Choudhuris didn't tell them what the reason was. If the Choudhuris had told Hema's family why they were moving to America, Hema's family would've felt much more sympathetic toward them. They would've had the opportunity to bond and grieve together other the experience. Instead, the Choudhuris kept Mrs. Choudhuri's breast cancer a secret, causing
Lack of communication is the root cause for most relationships problems. Communication is the key foundation in a relationship. Without its presence or absence, it affects the physical health. When communication is deprived, we would have no sense of ourselves. Communication enables us to survive and it has a major impact on all relationships. Without communication, a relationship has no chance of surviving its prime. To make communication work, each partner must be willing to ignore distractions and really focus on the other person. Communicating problems with a spouse, friend or family member is the easiest and most efficient way to keep a long lasting and healthy relationship. In a