Being An Adult Child Of An Alcoholic

A staggering 30% of U.S. adults have been or currently are alcoholics, and not all of them have abstained from parenthood. The essay “Under the Influence” by Russel Sanders tells the tale of a young boy who had an alcoholic father, who he could not understand why he was an alcoholic, except for the belief that he was possessed by demons. He didn’t live around any treatment centers that could help his father, for he lived in the backwoods of Ohio. He talked about the constant fear of his father beating him (which he never did), and the constant fear of his father leaving him (which he did for small increments of time). The trauma of having a father who was an alcoholic father stayed with Sanders well into adulthood.

One study determined that the death of a spouse, divorce, or either a member of the family moving in or out were three of many stressful experiences that alcoholics have linked to need for consumption. • High levels of emotional abuse, parental alcoholism, constant parental conflict, feeling unwanted or unloved. • A parent/caregiver’s lack of involvement or negative involvement in the lives of their children in the formative years. • A parent’s consumption of alcohol is thought to be associated with their child’s initiation and continuation of alcohol

The psychological effects of one’s childhood experiences can have a huge toll on the person we blossom into in life and that was the divorce of my two parents at the age of six. Growing up with an alcoholic father has had an outstanding impact on my self-worth. I could never see myself opening up to others; I could never be my true self in front of anyone except for a few people that have supported me through it all. I’ve always wondered over the period of my life that there was a reason for my father’s actions and why my father wasn’t there through the most important events throughout my sister and I’s lives.

My mother never pulls the rehab card - that's one subject they tend to stay away from when arguing. My father was an alcoholic, and sadly still is, but he has been to rehab about three times now. I say about because he got kicked out for being caught drinking scotch out on the yard during his third time.

Growing up, I dealt with a mother who struggled with addiction; to be unambiguous, she was an alcoholic. She drowned in her alcoholism as it pulled her down an alarming road. She was dreadfully depressed and believed that alcohol was the only way to make her feel better, addiction blinded her from what a great life she could have ahead of her. Not a single member of our family knew how to help her comprehend how much happier she would be if she could stop drinking her sorrows away. When it came to family events, my mom would try to conform to how others were acting and act “sober” even though she was already countless drinks deep in to drinking. Nevertheless, my mother just wanted others to like her which would lead her to change her outward

Many children of alcoholics (COAs) have similar personality types caused by mental illnesses, mostly various forms of anxiety disorder or the Imposter syndrome. A child of an alcoholic is at a greater risk for mental illnesses than the average non-COA. A large portion of COAs suffer from anxiety disorders, behavioral problems, and low self-esteem (National Association for Children of Alcoholics). There is a tendency for female COAs to suffer from the Imposter Syndrome, but in rare cases, males can also develop it. The

In the United States, twenty million children are experiencing physical, verbal and emotional abuse from parents who are addicted to alcohol. Growing up in an alcoholic house can leave emotional scars that may last a lifetime. This is tragic because we consider that childhood is the foundation on which our entire lives are fabricated. When a child's efforts to bond with an addicted parent are handicapped, the result is confusion and intense anxiety. In order to survive in a home deficient, of healthy parental love, limits, and consistency, they must develop "survival skills" or defense mechanisms very early in life.

The adult children of alcoholics take themselves very seriously in their life. Also, the ACOA has difficulty with intimate relationships. The ACOA, overact to change over which they have no control and constantly seek approval and affirmation. As well as, feeling different from other people and are super responsible or super irresponsible. The adult children of alcoholics are extremely loyal, even in the face of evidence that the loyalty is undeserved. Lastly, the adult children of alcoholics are impulsive. This can lead to going full steam ahead without realizing the consequences that it may incur (Weintraub,

Many people across the world suffer from alcoholism, a family disease. It is called a family disease because the addiction harms the alcoholic, and everyone who has to live with them. Children consistently suffer when they share a house with an alcoholic. Unfortunately, alcoholism is common and many children find themselves in this situation. The emotional and psychological scars that children can develop in alcoholic homes can be so deep that they can last well into adulthood. Youth who grew up in an alcoholic home can develop similar personality traits and characteristics. Approximately 26.8 million children are exposed to alcoholism in the family and 6.6 million children 18 and younger live in households with at least one alcoholic

My mother’s childhood environment was hugely dissimilar to my own. While my grandparents were largely removed in her life as a child, my mother and father were extremely supportive and present throughout my childhood. My aunt and mother described their home environment as chaotic and full of marital tension. In light of this, my mother’s response was to leave her home as often as she could. Being deemed the quiet child that rarely stood up for herself, my mother expressed how she felt during daily occasions like dinnertime:

According to the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, seventy six million Americans have been exposed to alcoholism in the family. That means one out of four families is affected by an alcoholic, making alcoholism responsible for more family problems than any other single cause (Parsons). Alcoholism is a disease that not only affects the individual, but also everyone around the alcoholic. Alcoholics can make irrational decisions that are harmful not only to themselves but also to the people around them. These irrational decisions can cause financial instability for the household which, in turn, contributes to neglect.

Every generation that is born is the future of the world. We evolve as a society as one, we build each other up for the future. The source of this extravagant outcome is people, but we cannot succeed as a whole if there are individuals who are suffering and are in need of help. Some who need help and guidance are children of alcoholics (COA’s), they bear the time they live with their parents and they do not receive help in the process. These children go through so many different issues with family, school, their social, physical and mental wellbeing. Children of alcoholics growing into adulthood have negative outcomes that can be diminished by school administration taking a stand to exhibit attention and support to the situation. The schools can contribute tremendously by having guest speakers to talk about the subject, and by introducing a counseling profession that can have a thorough background, plus a program or organization that is able to connect with these children to help and support them.

People drink in many ways, for many different reasons. We drink socially, to gain acceptance into a group. We drink alone to ease stress, to cope with our problems, or we “drink because we like the taste or how it makes us feel”#. Often drinking is a learned behavior, starting out as a social drinker; you quickly become psychologically and physically dependent. When someone reaches this stage they are often classified as an alcoholic. To an alcoholic, drinking becomes a compulsion; they cannot stop themselves from having another drink, like a social drinker can. In many cases alcoholics don’t even have to drink continuously in order to be an alcoholic. One the problems of alcohol addiction is that it’s something that doesn’t just effect the individual but it effects, friends and family as well. Spouse abuse, child abuse and dysfunctional family relationships can all be influenced by alcohol abuse.

My mother had it rough growing up. Forced to be out of the house nearly by dawn and only to return by nightfall, she was ignored and turned away by her mother. All throughout her childhood, and most of her young adult life until she ran away, my mother was

Throughout history these ways can be called "useful," however, known thousands of years ago that abusive and excessive drinking led to negative outcomes and adverse alcohol side effects.