Ansari: What Makes A Good Job?

Aziz Ansari published his first book Modern Romance, on June 16, 2015, where he teamed up with notable sociologists to uncover the mysteries of the changing dating scene around the world. Ansari states that relationships have been evolving for the past century for reasons ranging from people having different wants and desires to more advanced technology. These developments have revitalized the dating culture, but simultaneously have also made it very complex. Ansari’s reason for writing this book was that he was “fascinated by the questions of how and why so many people have become so perplexed by the challenge of doing something that people have always done quite efficiently: finding romance” (Ansari 6). In the book, he dives into the

Modern Romance, by Aziz Ansari, is absolutely a relevant study for this project. This is because of its relationship to new media, which relates to the course, and dating, which relates to all of society. The book applies to the course in several ways; first, the overall theme of the book relates to people in younger generations becoming more and more reliant on social media and dating websites to try and find love. Ansari delves deep into different aspects of media used in dating, as well as putting in serious research on social sciences to to analyze the cultural impact of new media, which is reaches much farther than one might think. There are several concepts we have learned in this course that relate to the book, including the units

Love can be whatever one makes it out to be. From basic science to a complex philosophical or mystical idea. A person’s own unique experiences with love make it a concept that is so widely perceived and interpreted. Throughout her piece, Selections from Love 2.0 Barbara Fredrickson tries to broaden her audience’s understanding to a new idea of love. Overall, she claims that love is a biological need. The claim that longevity and quality of life might have lots to do with not only ‘clean air and nutritious food’ but also ‘your supply of love’ are accurate to a certain extent. A constant supply of love is needed for a better quality of life but it is not necessarily needed to live a long life. If the claim is taken to be true, then a weak supply of love would result in a person just existing and not living life to their fullest or connecting to other human beings; therefore, they would be incomplete without it.

The original study “The nature of love” was focused on gaining more understanding of human development (Hock, 2013). It involved a series of experiments done by Harry Harlow in 1958, in which he

Throughout his book Modern Romance, Aziz Ansari the author develops and explains concepts that are involved in romantic relationships. In his arguments he describes certain points that explain how romances were modernized with the advancement of the technology. The growth of technology has created new sources of communication like for example socials networks and other websites in the internet that allow people to have an easier search to find a partner when they are looking for one. One of the biggest arguments that author talks about is when he describes how technology has played an important role in romantic relationships. The use of technology that exists in the present day has become excessive and it is a good argument to discuss in the essay. Up to today the online services and socials networking sites have become important factor s in the search for that “perfect someone” that people want to share the rest of our lives with, but at the same time it becomes a dangerous weapon that disappoints, lies and destroys romantic relationships. It’s not really that technology influences bad things; but it is more up to the responsibility of people and the purpose they use it for. The fact that the technology has become a very helpful tool to date someone is something very common to do nowadays but also it is dangerous because people do not really know who they are talking to or who is behind the computers monitors. Although

In the movie Casablanca, directed by Michael Curtiz, two different kinds of love are exposed. The love relationship between Ilsa Lund and Rick is a more passionate relationship while the one between Ilsa and Victor Laszlo is more intimate. Love is composed of different feelings and because of that it can be expressed, as seen in Casablanca, in different ways. “The Intimate Relationship Mind”, a text by Garth J. O. Fletcher and Megan Stenswick, helps support that claim providing a scientific background on how love is shaped by those different feelings. It says that “love is composed of three distinct and basic components that each represent evolved adaptations; namely, intimacy, commitment,

nature of love and argues that there should be a balance between the two. He elaborates on that

Elders are erasing emotions in the belief that “love is just passion that

The word love is very ambiguous for we all love in various ways. The way I love for my relatives, siblings, parents, friends and significant other all differ from each other. Yes, there may be similarities in the way I love one another differences in affection. In Chapter 3 of Choices in Relationships by David Knox, he talks about ways of conceptualizing love. A theorist by the name of John Lee classified 6 styles of love that describes the way lovers relate to each other.

My job as your leader is to help you become the best person you can be in all aspects of your life. We all have different abilities and different aspirations in life. My job is not to judge your dreams, but to help you accomplish those dreams and make them a reality. I will listen to your goals, give you realistic feedback, mentor you and coach you to achieve your goals. The three tenets that I will use to guide me on this course are Respect for Others, Encouragement of the Heart, and Follow Through on Commitments

When one looks at romantic love, one would conclude that it is a social dyad that brings about certain responsibilities between two people in a relationship such as honesty, protection, openness and expressions of love. (William, 2008: 76). Contrasting with

Through this example, Cassandra shows us how Jace’s outlook on love changed throughout the story- in this quote Alec Lightwood; ‘parabatai’ of Jace, explains to Clary how dissimilar Jace has become ever since Clary became known to him, because this is the first time that Jace has ever ‘allowed himself to love’. A example beyond this text that shows the power of love, is the story of the Russian couple Boris and Anna Kozlov. They got married in 1946 and three days after their ceremony, Boris was called back to his unit in the Red Army. The two never saw each other for 60 years, with Anna’s family being exiled and Boris left in the army with no contact, but they never stopped loving each other. Miraculously, Boris and Anna arrived at the same town after six decades and all their feelings for one another returned. The time spent away from each other had not destroyed the bond they once had. Anna and Boris got married again, and become the lovely old couple everyone admires. “We have a love that moves the sun and all the other stars.”

There are some contradictions that may cloud your judgments on love. Can passionate judgments cloud your compassionate judgments? Those feelings that you think you have may not really be there. You may be so physically attracted to your “lover” that you may settle for unacceptable behaviors in your relationship. Another contradiction is attention. Attention refers to how we actively process specific information present in our environment. You’re attention span can deeply affect your judgment on love. It also has something to do with anxiousness, it’s a close relation. Lastly is your attachment style which I said before. As you know attachment is a special emotional relationship that involves an exchange of comfort, care, and pleasure. John

In our society today a person can often look around a room of people and see nothing but the top of their heads, along with their eyes staring down at lit up screen filled with tremendous possibilities. One thing you doubtfully will view is everyone surrounding talking to each other making kinship with in their proximity. Instead, making connections through their phones. In the article written by Nancy Jo Sales “Tinder and the Dawn of the“Dating Apocalypse””, Sales speaks of the dating culture of the current twenty-first century and her views on how online dating has affected thus creating a sort of “Dating Apocalypse”. In the culture of intimacy may it be consciously or subconsciously people are seeking love and security in their lives through hookups and technological dating cites such as Tinder.

Like I mentioned in the paragraph above love is usually defined as an intensive feeling of a deep romantic or sexual attachment to someone, however love is a bit more complicated than that. Love is special, it’s unique in it’s attitude and behavioral components, it’s a phenomenon that eludes easy definition (Our Sexuality, 2012). Love has always been a complicated subject; sometimes love is fickle, sometimes love isn’t love, but rather pure infatuation. Infatuation is often mistaken for love, however it is only a short lived but intense passion for someone. It’s possible that since many infatuations are mistaken love that many researches regarding the measurements of love would include individuals infatuated with each other. In one possible case, a man named Zick Rubin wished to measure love and liking. He set up 13 questions