Analyzing Chelsea Rathburn's 'After Filing For Divorce'

In Barbara Kingsolver’s Stone Soup, she discusses the topic of modern divorce and “nontraditional” families. Kingsolver provides insight on the personal experience of her divorce and why she currently views it differently. The author speculates why “broken” families face ridicule, giving examples of people desiring the perfect family, consisting of “Mom, Dad, Sis, and Junior” (Kingsolver). Relationships with friends during a divorce were also discussed in this article, explaining that they will remain supportive, and, after a given amount of time, will eventually start treating the affected person like their old selves. Despite problematic family affairs as a result of it, divorce should be looked upon as normal and acceptable

Moreover, I learned about the internal emotional and psychological dimensions of divorce introduced by Reva Wiseman. By reading this, it shows that process of separation can extends deeply into the psyche. Wiseman said that there are five stages of divorce—denial, loss and depression, anger and ambivalence, reorientation of lifestyle and identity and acceptance and integration. This view of divorce let us see and learn about the process of crisis in individuals’ mind. It also shows how emotions can shift accompanying

In “Stone Soup,” Barbara Kingsolver discusses divorce and its relevance in today’s society. The essay makes the point that divorce is a failed marriage and is just the easy way out. Over time, divorce has become a lot more common. She talks about the aftermath of divorce involving the kids. No matter how the family feels throughout the divorce, every step taken should be in the best interest of the kid.

Megan Colon is a 27 year old recently married female who agreed to participate in a series of psychological tests for academic purposes. The client reported feeling depressed about her parent’s divorce and her husband’s deployment. She reports that she is feeling sad about her parent’s divorce, and this has resulted in a lack of energy. She states that she is having a hard time adjusting to her parent’s divorce and she tries to avoid talking about the issue. She states that her husband is in the military and will be going on leave soon. She reports there have been marital problems from her husband’s deployment and her parent’s divorce has impacted her marriage. She claims that issues with communication and the lack of emotional support have

The best way to teach others how divorce, in certain relationships, frees the families from bondage is by using personal experience because individuals who have experienced divorce find it easier to explain the facts of divorce. From childhood, many parents teach their children that divorce is wrong and that there becomes a way to fix the circumstances. At a young age, Kingsolver inherited a definition of divorce from her family and friends. Kingsolver held these beliefs about divorce: “That it 's a lazy way out of marital problems. That it selfishly puts personal happiness ahead of family integrity.”(Kingsolver). Society teaches the principle of family integrity, and that when the spouse of a divorce leaves they are only thinking for themselves. Although, principles do change and the perception of divorce can change too. Kingsolver, from experience, claims, “I had no idea how thoroughly these assumptions overlaid my culture until I went through divorce myself.”(Kingsolver). Divorce is commonly misunderstood, and frowned upon, but the many who face such trials are left with the understanding of what divorce really extracts from families, and the

On her part, Cheryl Wetzstein in her article “Lowering Divorce Rates Urged As National Goal” argues that legislation should be put in place to checkmate the rate of divorce in the United States especially for a family with children. According to Wetzstein, the problem of divorce and its effect on children is a national goal which demands critical evaluation on the part of the government. Wetzstein claims that the effect of divorce touches every aspect of life. According to a study shared by Wetzstein, children from separated homes exhibit emotional, physical and mental problems; are easily exposed to crime and drugs; perform poorly academically, and are likely to commit suicide. Wetzstein states that seeing the unfortunate impact divorce has on these children, the government, as a matter of urgency, should come up with laws that would reduce family separation; this would not only preserve the future of the children but also saves government lots of money (2000).

The divorce rate in the United States is higher than fifty percent today. The divorce rate continues to increase in America due to many reasons, one of them being that society today is a disposable society. Back in the day, when someone had a broken shoe he or she would fix it, and if there was a problem with a couple’s marriage, the two would work through it. But today, it is easier to ignore the problem, throw away what we do not like anymore and move on to the next, which is not the right way to live. In Lorrie Moore’s “A Kid’s Guide to Divorce”, Moore writes about a child and his or her mother. The two are sitting in their living room watching TV as they

The acknowledgement of the need for divorce reform stemmed from the substantial increase in the number of divorces and what was viewed as “the declining stature of the married state.”

To start off, the first stanza in her song represents a sense of how unavoidable change is and how the confusion of the bond combined with the stress of the blame game can lead to a doomed

Individuals are bound to misapprehend others; in the same way, perception is born within us. Reforming laws concerning the divorce burden will cause confusion amongst family members, which might lead to false decision-making and eventually. [In the Article, “Getting A Divorce: Should It Be More Difficult To Obtain A Divorce?”] Huffington Post (February, 2013), Beverly Willet argued that methods such as the “me-centered approach to Divorce” achieves no positive progress into saving people from falling into the pit of doom. Willet also mentioned that Spouses try to get a divorce as hard as they tried when it came to marriage, noting that children are the sole bearers of whatever outcome that occurs when a divorce act is served. Countless options are efficient more than making it harder to get a divorce; instead, marriage should be harder to prevent any future faults from becoming. [Another article, “Should a Divorce Be Harder To Obtain?”] Divorce Support, Cathy Meyer remarks that “on the Holmes and Rahe Stress Scale – showing whether or not stress contributes into illness – divorce is number two, right after death.” Even though it is labeled as a nerve-wracking event in life, people think that it should be so quick and easy to occur; even before having to think about it if such mechanism is possible. While altogether did not agree upon the statement on this subject, particular supporters favor such

Through the use of appeals Kingsolver is able to connect to her audience and support her claim that getting a divorce does not make a family broken. Kingsolver uses logos to portray to the logical side of her readers. Towards the end of her excerpt she states that, “The sooner we can let go of the fairytale of families functioning perfectly in isolation, the better we might embrace the relief of a community” (Kingsolver pg. 546). This logical appeal allows for the reader to understand that if they stopped believing in the unrealistic expectations of marriage then families going through divorce wouldn’t be seen as messy and broken to society. Kingsolver uses pathos to appeal to the emotional side of her readers. Kingsolver describes a nonfunctioning marriage as, “waking up despised each morning, listening to the pulse of your own loneliness before the radio begins to blare its raucous gospel that you're nothing if you aren't loved” (Kingsolver 541). Readers will feel sympathy and pity for the author and hopefully understand that just like any other tragedy, people going through divorce need time to grieve. After grieving, people going through divorce become both emotionally and psychically themselves again, just like Kingsolver did, further supporting her claim that families of divorce can get through life happy.

In the United States, an all-too-frequent occurrence unfortunately is divorce. I feel that this is a sad thing. Billy Collins tackles this delicate issue masterfully in his poem “Divorce,” an eighteen-word, four-line poem that catches the tone of many splits while using simple things like utensils and tables to make examples of a couple’s situation, using metaphors, imagery, nostalgia, and irony.

The main point of this article is that in 1866 there was an divorce issue before the West Virginia Supreme Court of Appeals to uphold women’s right due to the fleeing of their homes after their husbands had been mentally or physically abusive, due to the negligent an or alcohol which resolute to violence. A woman by the name Aveline Hitchcock’s was granted her divorce by the Supreme Court due to her rights which included her pre martial property; she was also given full custody of their children. During this time the idea of the influx age emancipation, this was also a part of the women’s roles of their homes and in public. As a part of their re- evaluation gender roles where not only in Hitchcock’s own state, but also the whole country. West

Divorce is becoming all too popular in our society today. When a couple experience tough times or have one too many arguments, they automatically think divorce. Despite its prevalence couples are not prepared for it’s long, drawn out, hurtful process. Divorce does not only hurt the individuals involved, it also affects the children tremendously. While many people don’t think divorce is a bad thing. Hollywood makes divorce look cool and uneventful. When in all reality, it is disruptive. Some people would say that divorce is a lazy way out of a marriage; the cowardly thing to do when a situation presents itself. Divorce is not the only answer to marital problems, in most cases.

In the next four lines of the poem, the speaker talks about how he feels as he imagines his childhood. Even though he is in front of this woman who is singing and playing music, “in spite of” himself, his present state, this “insidious mastery of song betrays” the speaker back “till” he “weeps” to go back to his childhood. The guileful dominance of the song the woman is singing beguiles him to think about his past experience. His heart “weeps to belong to the old Sunday evenings at home.” He really misses the time when he was little, and he used to hear his mother playing piano every Sunday evening. He wants to go back to his childhood and belong to that time again.