Gaby Wentz
Conflict Paper
Interpersonal conflict is defined as a disagreement between two interdependent people who perceive that they have incompatible goals (Verderber, 358). There are various dimensions to interpersonal conflict, but in the grand scheme of things it focuses on the communication amidst people. When people hear the word conflict, your first instinct is to think of it as holding a negative meaning; but we have learned that in order for people to grow and fine-tune their problem solving skills, conflict helps. Throughout my twenty years of existence I have encountered many interpersonal conflicts with family, friends, bosses, co-workers, and occasionally people I don’t know. In this paper I am going to examine an interpersonal conflict that I encountered with my parents and my closest friends. I will do this by examining what type of conflict I encountered, and if this was the same for the other party involved. I will also examine the type of management styles used and how the conflict could have been different. Before I get into the conflict being examined, I want to give a little overview of how I grew up and observed my family dealing with conflict. My mom and dad have very passive-aggressive behaviors, but my dad also deals with conflict in an aggressive manner. When a conflict would come up, the first thing we do is try to talk about it, but within ten minutes the house would be filled with yelling, name calling, and tears. We have come to realize
Initially required is an analysis to the results of the, “Conflict Style Questionnaire” (Rahim and Wagner 122-132). According to the conflict style survey, base two separate situations from past occurrences; one with someone close to me, and the second with someone who I am not so interpersonal with. Moreover, the two personal conflicts that I apply to the questionnaire, base from two diverse relationships-personal as well as an impersonal, along with various context and environment pertaining to the particular
Interpersonal conflict happens in every relationship. It is inevitable when two or more people disagree on something. Conflict is a result of a misunderstanding because of a miscommunication. In the movie Hitch (Mordaunt & Tadross, 2005) we can notice an interpersonal conflict between two people due to a lack of communication. Communication is a key role in any relationship, whether platonic or an intimate relationship. When starting a relationship it is primordial to be able to communicate effectively from the beginning in order to avoid any conflict. However “people are usually cautious about what they tell each other and how they say it, and they make a conscious effort to present positive
One of the first conflicts in the film causes a bigger conflict in later years and later in the plot between the same characters. A conflict is defined as "Conflict is a fact of human life. It occurs naturally in all kinds of settings. Nations still struggle, families fracture in destructive conflicts, marriages face challenges and often fail, and the workplace is plagued with stress." in the textbook "Interpersonal Conflict" by Wilmot. Meriam-Webster defines conflict in three ways. Firstly a war, fight or battle. Secondly "competitive or opposing action of incompatibles :antagonistic state or action (as of divergent ideas, interests, or persons)" or "mental struggle resulting from incompatible or opposing needs, drives, wishes, or external or internal demands". Lastly "the opposition of persons or forces that gives rise to the
Conflict, according to Wilmot & Hocker (2011), is defined as an expressed struggle between at least two interdependent parties who perceive incompatible goals, scarce resources, and interference from others in achieving their goals.
Interpersonal conflict can be broadly defined as a disagreement between two interdependent people who think that they have conflicting goals. For example, the dinner scene at the beginning of the movie with Cher, Josh, and Cher’s father. Josh is known as a very studious, college student that is studying law. Josh believes that Cher doesn’t care about her studies and just bribes her teachers in order to get by. At one point during the dinner, Cher calls Josh a “brown-noser.” Josh comes back to say, “You are such a superficial space cadet. What makes you think you can convince your teachers to change your grades?” Cher then says, “Only the fact that I’ve done it every other semester.” Obviously, there is some interpersonal conflict here because they both have different views of how to get by in school.
What is conflict? Even something as basic as a universal definition for the word conflict seems to vary from source to source. A literature review focusing on conflict defined it as “the interaction of interdependent people who perceive incompatibility and the possibility of interference from others as a result of this incompatibility” (Brinkert 2010). Often times the disagreement results not from a concrete difference, but rather a difference in perception (Ellis & Abbott 2012). One of the most important factors effecting conflict management is the resolution style used. The most often used tool for classifying how conflict is managed is the Thomas-Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument (Iglesias & Vallejo 2012).
This paper will show how conflict and social behavior perspective play an important role in Dasani’s life (Hutchinson, 2015). The reader will have a better understanding of the perspective through examples in Dasani’s life. This paper will conclude with a reflection of the writer’s future profession in the social work field.
On a crisp autumn day in 2016, while hidden away from the cares of my daily routine in my family room, I was called upon to elaborate on an important aspect of my life. It took some time for consideration to determine how to best portray a journey I have taken in managing conflict, as I am not a young woman. Decades filled with the blessings of being the mother of disabled children, years lived as a single parent, as well as the process of maturation, tempered by the fires of adversity, have molded me into who I am today. As I reflected, I wondered if would I know how to deal with conflict as I do now without the life experiences I have had? Certainly not! The following paragraphs will describe my primary conflict style and why I use it, how I have changed constructively in this area, how the other four styles of conflict management may serve me, and where I hope to arrive as I continue to make my way along the journey of my life.
Conflict is simply a disagreement or argument that can occur between two individual, groups of people in an organisation or between an employer and an employee.
Conflict is a process that every one of us has experienced throughout our lives. There are various definitions of conflict as described by different authors. Generally, conflict is a process whereby, one individual’s interest is opposed or negatively affected by the other party (Yoder-Wise,2015).
The topic that I have chosen to discuss throughout this paper is Managing and Resolving Conflicts in a Relationship. This topic is very important to me simply because, I personally see a lot of relationships failing, including some of mines due to lack of resolving and managing conflicts correctly. By the end of this paper I hope that I have helped the reader understand and eliminate any conflicts that confront their everyday lives.
During disputes, we could have made it so we only talked about the issue at hand and not irrelevant issues that made the situation worse. We could have even gone to a family therapist so that we had someone help us calmly facilitate our disagreements. Truthfully, we did not reduce our aggression towards each other until my twin sister and I moved out after graduating high school. Thankfully, after doing so were able to strengthen our relationship. We still do not have a traditional family, but then again we never did. I am grateful we are now capable of engaging in conversations without conflict arising. We have accepted our dad for who he is and we love
Conflict is “an expressed struggle between at least two interdependent parties who perceive incompatible goals, scarce resources, and interference from others in achieving their goals” (Hocker, 1991). There are two basic types of conflicts: substantive and emotional. According to Schermerhorn et.al., substantive conflict is a fundamental disagreement over ends or goals to be pursued and the means for their
Conflict is defined as the perception of incompatible goals or actions between two people (McCornack, 2013). How you approach these tense situations greatly affects the outcome of the conflict and your interpersonal relationships. Everyone experiences disagreement at some point in their lives and it is important to know what you bring to conflict situations in order to become a more competent communicator. Therefore, I completed the Thomas-Kilmann Conflict Mode Questionnaire and asked my sister and boyfriend to do the same regarding my conflict style (Introduction to Interpersonal Communication Course Workbook, 2013, p.29-31). I chose these two people to fill out the questionnaire because they both know me very well in two different types
Interpersonal conflict is described as “an expressed struggle between at least two interdependent people who perceive incompatible goals, scarce resources, or interference in the achievement of their goals (Beebe 221). As with many other things, people have developed some myths about it. One of the interpersonal conflict myths is that it indicates a relationship of poor quality. This is, however, incorrect because the conflict can instead demonstrate the complete opposite. An example would be when a couple is arguing about what to eat for dinner. Such a disagreement can show that there is a supportive environment between the two of them. Both people feel comfortable enough to voice their differing opinions without the fear of being negatively