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NEGOTIATION AND CONFLICT APPLICATION PAPER

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Negotiation and Conflict Application Paper I immigrated to the United States 15 years ago in pursuit of higher education and a successful career. I discovered that I had to significantly readjust the habits engrained in me from childhood through interacting with new people and dealing with conflicts. My traditional and conservative upbringing in India provided a sheltered environment and programmed me into listening and obeying elders and avoiding conflict at all costs. It was my belief that any conflict big or small with the close ones would cause a strain in the relationships. Thus, I often avoided conflicts and accommodated the wishes of others at the cost of my own. I considered this …show more content…

His interactions with me became more normal. I liked the immediate results of my new found ‘compete’ mode and continued to experiment with it. After few positive outcomes of these experiments this new mode gradually became my default mode for dealing with conflicts and continued to be my default mode till date. I believed that the ‘compete’ mode had made me a better negotiator, but I did not realize until I took this class that it really never helped me to build or improve relationships. In Raj’s case, after we graduated, we lost in touch even though we were roommates for couple of years. Some of the above strengths and weaknesses were confirmed by my wife and friends in their feedback to the “Emotional Intelligence Self Assessment”. The responses found that the areas that need attention are “Awareness of Others” and “Systems Contribution”, which were in sync with my own assessment. The learning material and the exercises of this class have prompted to repeated introspection over the past couple of months. I must confess that this introspection led me to find more weaknesses than strengths apart from the above. I realized that during my home and car buying instances, most of my negotiations were driven my positions rather than interests. I approached those negotiations without proper preparation or a BATNA. Not surprisingly, those negotiations ended up as not very pleasant experiences. Though I believe my listening

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