To spank or not to spank has been a question for parents for many years. Some believe that spanking is the only way that children will learn to be obedient. They believe in the motto “spare the rod, spoil the child”, meaning if parents do not physically discipline, the child is spoiled and lacks manners. Others, however, believe that exerting physical harm on a child for discipline does not make sense. They believe that there is always a better way to teach children right from wrong. Spanking is not an effective form of discipline and can lead to improper behavior.
When a child is acting up, a parent can either teach the child what they did wrong and make it a learning experience, or react harshly to the behavior of the child and as a result,
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There has to be an alternative option so the child will learn, not fear.
Editors remarked that in, “Spanking Your Children: Good or Bad”, the CED studied how spanking may be effective short term, but there may be consequences later in life. The more children are spanked, the less they are likely to be mannerly, and well- behaved in the future. They continued on by stating, “Spanking does not teach children why their behavior was wrong or what they should do instead; it teaches children that the only reason to behave appropriately is to avoid being punished.” (2017). This research has proven that there is not only a physical negative reaction, but a mental one too. CNN mentions that for decades experts have stated that spanking is not effective because it teaches a child to be scared of his parents and to not respect them (O'Callaghan, 2011). In fact it is dangerous because hitting can injure a child and teach him or her it is okay to hit someone if they disappoint them. Imagine a grown adult spanking another adult. This would be considered an assault, and is not acceptable in our society. Therefore, it is not okay for an adult to hit a child in our day and
Spanking is associated with poorer school performance and anti-social behavior. There are many alternative to hitting kids for punishments. Spanking children often leads to more serious abuse by parents. If the parents isn’t affective they often escalate to more serious punishments in the future If Spanking
Parents get frustrated with something and most likely take out the anger on the child. Parents should restrict the use of spanking, spanking as a form of disciple can lead to child abuse. Straus tries to inform people how spanking can cause a violent society because the world’s society brings up children violently through the use of corporal punishment. Straus stated, “I found that 44% said that, in half or more of the times they used corporal punishment, it was because they had “lost it” and 54% said that spanking was the wrong thing to have done in half or more of the instances.” Which means that because they just were stress or just mad, they would take it out on their kids to relieve the emotion.
If a child gets a spanking he will view it as violence to get what he wants but thinks the parents condones violence because he received a spanking. When that is not the case, most children that receives a spanking knows what they did was wrong and they should not do those things again. Spanking is not a form of violence but a form of discipline that helps parents keep their children in line.
The issue of spanking has become an important social controversy over the past few decades. As a result, some people are bringing out some negative opinions against spanking. One of them argues spanking is really unnecessary and not effective when parents disciple their sons and daughters because it might not be helpful directly changing children’s wrong behaviors result in parents’ abuse and family violence. On the other hand, I do not agree with that because parents’ discipline when a child got mistake is supposed to be under a type of affection toward them, so people would know parents rarely spank them either to express their anger or to beat them severely. Sometimes people may not agree with them, but we need to remember that parents only
Just about everyone believes that spanking is a necessary method of obedience for children to help legislate order in or out of the home. According to Cheryl Ladd, “discipline is so much of an important part of being a parent. Because it’s very, very important to teach your children to take responsibility for their actions.” Although I believe that spanking is not harmful, granted that it is not excessive, it is used as a disciplinary tool, helps kids decipher what is right from wrong, and keeps children motivated to do better and stay out of trouble.
Spanking children is a very controversial topic; there are people who agree with spanking and there are those who disagree. Everyone’s decision varies based on if they were spank or not spanked as children. After taking several courses in child development it is my belief that physical punishment actually alters the brain, it can traumatize a child, as well as have a decrease of gray matter in certain areas of the prefrontal cortex that have been linked to depression, addiction and other mental disorders. Which could be a leading cause for children growing up with higher risk of commenting a crime. Some may say there is no damage left on children and it can alter unwanted behavior affectedly. Regardless of the reason for what people stand behind when it comes to spanking, it is my belief every individual reacts different to being spanked. There are many elements that affect if the outcome is positive or negative. Spanking should only occur if a child is mentally capacity to understand it is a form or correcting unwanted behavior; followed by a firm lecture as to why the child got spanked. A child should know why they were spanked, furthermore, a parents’ goal should be to not resort to spanking. As a child, I was not spanked, nevertheless, I knew my parents could spank me; from witness childhood friends get spanked. The beliefs and values of American’s are that no one deserves corporal punishment, however, corporal punishment is practice in homes on children, corporal
Spanking children still a huge controversy within the realm of parenting. It can be viewed as hateful, dangerous, and detrimental, or it can necessary, caring, and effective. None of these views are wrong. You spank a child because they aren’t listening to reason and they need to learn a lesson so they don’t continue such behavior as they grow older, but if hit too hard or taken too far the results can be detrimental and possibly dangerous. Spanking is still legal in all 50 states, but some are on the faces as to whether to make it illegal.
According to Smith (2012), spanking does not lead to immediate obedience. Alan Kazdin, a Yale University psychology professor and director of the Yale Parenting Center and Child Conduct Clinic, says spanking does not work and “you cannot punish out these behaviors that you do not want.” Spanking does not lead to long term obedience either. Graham-Bermann (2008) says that “physical punishment can work momentarily to stop problematic behavior because children are afraid of being hit, but it doesn’t work in the long term and can make children more aggressive.” There are three major negative outcomes that are correlated with spanking. First, physical punishment
Discipline is very important in everyone’s life. All parents try to do their best for their children. However, this crucial issue is sometimes misunderstood by some parents when it comes to disciplining their children. Some parents use a very controversial method known as spanking which is a corporal punishment that can have tremendous consequences on a child’s life. Although defenders of corporal punishment argue that spanking allows parents to curb children’s behavior, spanking has been shown to have long lasting effects on a child. Not only does it teach children to be violent, it also reduces the trust between parents and children. Furthermore, it makes a child experience resentment towards his parents.
One of the major roles of a parent is to correctly discipline their child to teach them what is right, what is wrong, and that they aren’t the boss. The most traditional ways of showing children they aren’t in control include: paddling (or any other object used to strike), slapping, pinching, whipping, and spanking. Parents use these methods to show dominance and that they are the authority figure of the household. Spanking is by far the most commonly used method amongst parents in today’s society. It gives parents the ability to instantly correct misbehavior and further show their children what is and isn’t accepted. Creating better behavior in the future and making the child less likely to continue the bad acts. It is even stated in the Bible Proverbs 22:15 “Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him”. However, there are much better ways of discipline that don’t include physical touch, and they can still show the child you are in charge and have the
Through studies show the different views, aspects, and effects spanking can have on a child, every parent will punish their children their own way. It is a ongoing debate and there are many points to be made to further this discussion. Children have shown to have negative effects due to physical punishment while some have not. Overall, both have their pros and cons and every parent will punishments their own
I do not believe parents should be able to spank their children. I believe in "respectful parenting." This involves staying calm and listening to your child. While staying firm and consistent with recalcitrant children. As a parent, I practice nine steps to redirect children's behavior. The nine steps include staying calm, take time for myself, be kind but firm, give the child choices, use logical consiquences, do make ups, withdraw from conflict, use kind but firm action and inform children ahead of time. Hitting children teaches them to become hitters themselves. Physical punishment distracts the child from learning how to resolve conflict in an effective and humane way. It is natural that children learn attitudes and behaviors through observation and duplication of their parents' actions, for good or ill. Because children learn through parental role modeling, physical punishment gives the message that hitting is an convenient way to express feelings and to resolve problems.
Some parents decided to not spank their kids because it would lead to depression and abuse, but some believe spanking kids are like a warning sign that they would not do it again. It would show them not to misbehave and they would control themselves.
Throughout history, it has always been thought that if you are a parent then you must discipline your child through spanking and hitting.Although I believe that a few good spankings are necessary in order to discipline a child, I also believe that a in order to have a healthy relationship a parent cannot claim to be loving and abusive at the same time.Now by saying this you may be thinking, “So what side is this guy on because he just said he endorses spanking and now he doesn’t believe it’s good!” Well let me explain, when I said I agree with spanking I meant that I agree with a spank if it’s done every once in awhile. I don’t agree with a spank when it becomes abuse and it is done constantly with no effect but to cause fear and intimidation onto a child.
There have been countless studies done on whether corporal punishment actually works, or if it, in fact, is instead causing long-term adverse effects. Corporal punishment today is seen less and less with this new generations parents. Corporal punishment was mainly seen in parenting before the 2000s. Cloud (2009) states that sociologist, Murray Straus, found that in a 1968 survey that had taken place, 94% of Americans agreed that corporal punishment was seen as an acceptable form of discipline. This percentage was then drastically dropped when Americans were re-surveyed, and 72% of those people agreed that spanking was deemed reasonable (Cloud, 2009).