Life is a combination of valleys and mountaintops. At any given time we inadvertently find ourselves at any point between the two. One man’s valley might be another man’s mountaintop depending on one’s personal dream and life view. What is certain is that: DOWN is not a curse... Down is not final…… Down is not negative…. Down is not out ……….. How you regard your state of being out is all within you, it actually depends on your attitude. What IS is simply that, it IS. How you relate to it is squarely dependent on you and what you make of it. Being down is not bad at all….. If it were, would we go DOWN on our knees and pray? Would we celebrate a touch DOWN in a rugby match? Why get relieved when the plane touches DOWN? What is wrong with getting …show more content…
Sometimes you are going to be aware and sometimes not. In times like these, the most beneficial and appropriate act would be to own up at the earliest or as soon as it is conveniently possible, as soon as you become aware. This has nothing to do with your pride, so there is no need to swallow it. Keep your pride and politely say PLEASE FORGIVE ME. If for any reason you find it difficult to ask for forgiveness, you are going to cause yourself, the other party and your relationship with the other party more harm than you can imagine. Saying PLEASE FORGIVE ME enhances your image and show the people that you have offended that you do respect them. You can only ask for forgiveness if you are prepared and willing to do so yourself. As Mahatma Gandhi aptly states it when he says “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the …show more content…
There is no internal harmony in us. We are internally not in sync. When in this state, can you imagine what signals we send to the world around us? (Our partners, children, colleagues, etc)What do we feed to our subconscious? and what do we attract into our lives. This does not purport to be a lecture on the “Law of Attraction”. I think we all know enough of that. It comes to me as no surprise to see so many people unable to forgive. If we do not learn to forgive ourselves, how can we be able to forgive others? Where do we get the training/practice of doing this thing called forgiving if it does not begin in our innermost doing it first to ourselves? Yes, as the saying goes, “to err is human”. We accumulate mistakes (of commission and omission) in the same manner that our bodies accumulate what causes us to need a bath each day. In like manner, we ought to take a self-forgiving bath at least (consciously so) once a day. In this manner we will bless the world with a self-forgiven self who is capable, ready and willing to forgive the world. This is what is divine in
It may be easy to forgive a friend, or even a stranger depending on the situation, but what if the person that had to be forgiven was themselves?
When you are able to forgive, you can move on to Step Three. Step Three: Intent Your highest intent is to come from a place of love. Love for yourself and love for others-in that order. If you see yourself through the eyes of love, this will naturally extend to the way that you see others.
Also, understanding is the key to forgive someone regrets his immoral acts against you. The story of Albert Speer reveals the sorrow and compassion of one of the culprit find himself face to face with a victim. Mr. Albert was supporting the Nazis against Jews during the Holocaust. He acknowledged his responsibility and guilt for the mass crime. With the guilty verdict, he imprisoned for twenty years for his legal inhuman acts. When Simon Wiesenthal met him, Albert considered his eyes to find compassion and humanity inside (The Sunflower 246). Thus, I believe that when victim lets down the revenge, he also removes most of the barriers for a substantial correction. In the meantime, if you forgive, you can stop the stupidity of haters and prove that you are much stronger. Besides the world has a lot of evidence proclaiming that the desire for revenge disappears even after a long time of reciprocal violence, but only the people who forgive are the last standing. Overall, to forgive is to build bridges between victims and culprits for a healthy
Forgiveness is very important throughout life. If people don't forgive, they are going to be stuck in the past always remembering about the mistake that person did. Forgiving someone can make yourself feel better because you know you forgave that person and there's no negativity between you and that person.
The slow collapse of empires allowed for the unintentional transfer of colonial powers which allowed for the preservation of the European imperialistic system. The slow disintegration of the Ottoman Empire demonstrates the unintended transfer of colonial states which ultimately preserved imperialism during World War One. The Ottoman empire faced large economic and political strain with the Italian invasion of Northern Africa in 1911 and the internal threat of the Balkan Wars in 1912-13. This ultimately created pressure on the Ottoman empire and the decline of imperial conquests. As large tracts of internal territories began to disappear Serbia, Montenegro, Greece and Bulgaria declared war on the Ottoman empire in 1917 which ultimately led
The findings from this study were that there is limited empirical support in the area of self-forgiveness. The findings also indicated that there is a lack of self-forgiveness intervention methods. Based on this article, the finding concluded that in order for someone to forgive themselves or someone else, certain factors and determinates must be included; such as emotions or behaviors.
It is sometimes easier for us to extend grace to others rather than forgive ourselves. I had a period of time that I turn from God and was living in poor choices. I had a hard time calling on God for help but when I did I experienced what she calls, “the biblical notion of putting off the old self and putting on the new” (McMinn, Moon, & McCormick, 2009, p.42). God wants us to be the best we can be and we cannot be our best if we cannot move forward because we are living in the past. We must forgive ourselves and learn from our mistakes.
Now sometimes there are some situations where forgiveness is just impossible. Forgiveness takes a great deal of time for certain things, but overall I feel that with time everyone will learn to forgive and forget about what has happened to
Experts that teach or study forgiveness have made it clear that when you forgive someone, one does not fret over or deny the seriousness of an offense against you or your person. Choosing to forgive takes a weight off your back and lets you move on with your life. Choosing not to forgive can leave you stuck and is very unhealthy. Though you should forgive, you should never forget. Though forgiveness can be a factor in fixing a damaged relationship, it does not obligate you to make up with the person or people who had harmed you. Some of the things that can get in the way of forgiveness are pride, pain, and anger. If you have been severely hurt by someone it makes it extremely hard to forgive them. When your encompassed by anger it is also hard to forgive with all the anger directed at the person. The most important thing is to learn how to forgive yourself. If you can not forgive yourself you can not ever move on. People make mistake and people do things they shouldn't have done, but that is life. If you make a mistake and can not forgive yourself you will be unable to move on in
Therefore, we are well advised to forgive; thus perfecting our relationships instead of detecting defects in others, as well as ourselves. Furthermore, it is because the Law of Life is impersonal that Life Itself is forgiving. It never holds a grudge. It never takes what others do as a personal affront, nor does It retaliate or seek retribution. Being universal, It does not take it personally.
Pastor Johann Arnold states that: When we forgive someone for a mistake or a deliberate hurt, we still recognize it as such, but instead of lashing out or biting back, we attempt to see beyond it, so as to restore our relationship with the person responsible for it. Our forgiveness may not take away our pain- -– it may not even be acknowledged or accepted -– yet the act of offering it will keep us from being sucked into the downward spiral of resentment. Forgiveness of one's self by the guilty party allows the guilty party to accept what they have done, deal with it, heal and move on with their partner. Forgiveness does not excuse or minimize the behaviour, forgiveness allows each person to be released from the past and to start living in the present once again. Forgiving is "a point where we are less in touch with the pain of the betrayal and more in touch with the acceptance of the person and the action" (Cordova, 2006, p.
Make the first decision of forgiveness: admit that you cannot forgive on your own, and ask God to change your heart.
This thing called life, God has spoiled us, to the point that some of individuals muse (think) they are too good to forgive. Those who cannot forgive, my heart bleed for, why because at some point they will break down and disaster
In life you will encounter many instances where you get betrayed and hurt by people. When people get hurt or betrayed they usually don’t forgive easily, although eventually they do forgive. But some do not forgive what happened and when they do that it is not healthy.
Forgiveness is easy if you mean it. Everyone deserves forgiveness if they have done something wrong. It may take time but sooner or later you will get it. Everyone does things wrong in life. I know I have