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Their Eyes Were Watching God Relationships

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Born and raised in Samarkand, my mother immigrated to New York at a young age with my dad. Prior to this, she had to overcome adversity and cultural customs as a woman living in Samarkand. In the conducted interview, my mom mentions the “woman standards in Samarkand” and how she was “rushed into her first relationship,” resulting in the love being insincere and full of complications. In my mom’s relationship, her partner acted unnecessarily authoritatively and “used [her]” to his benefit. This was a prevalent issue in Samarkand, as she vividly describes how her friends had to “go through the same thing.” My mom had to endure unnecessary force and unneeded arguments constantly, which took a toll on her mentally and physically. Despite this being …show more content…

Janie, a beautifully described woman, desires "to be a pear tree—any tree in bloom!" 43. "Kissing bees singing of the beginning of the world!" 43. Desiring love that is not forged but genuine. Yet, in her first relationship, she is forced to marry a man, Logan Killicks, by her nanny where the "marriage did not make love" (53), and her pear tree "dream was dead" (53). The 'love' is held up by a loose string, a preconceived notion of what her Nanny said that glorifies the marriage, so Janie believes "it must be so." Janie is still young, naive, and doesn't know what to believe. As a result, she isn’t able to develop this half-assed relationship, similar to my …show more content…

Thought [he’d] take and make somethin’ outa [her]” (63), showing his plain disrespect for her, and he goes so far as to imply that she is worthless and he is making her better. Logan continues to mistreat her and tells her that "[She] ain’t got no particular place. It’s wherever [Logan] needs [her]" (64). He is ignoring Janie’s identity despite her being helpful in other aspects like making “breakfast” and more. This constant ignorance is very similar to that of what my mother experienced. The standards are so set into one's head that the men are completely oblivious and see themselves as the most important; this constant feeling of superiority in that period especially. They neglect the feelings of their wives and only seek their benefit and pleasure. After all this, Janie realizes that “Some folks never were meant to be loved and he’s one of ‘em” (56). Janie is done pretending and insists that she doesn’t want to be married to Logan anymore. Janie perseveres and understands that at the current rate, her pear tree dynamic that she wants so much won’t happen. Similarly, it takes a while for my mom, but she also stands up for herself and files a divorce to seek genuine love. This is seen as very odd in Samarkand, but she doesn’t care, she knows it’s the best for her

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