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See bases the story of the book behind the three women who wrote The Three Wives’ Commentary. The book is split into three different parts, one part for each wife. The first wife, Peony, is the first to be brought to the light. She grew up in a wealthy family and was born after the fall of the Ming Dynasty. Peony is soon to turn 16 and is already betrothed to a suitor that her father has chosen for her, as followed by tradition. She is infatuated by the opera: The Peony Pavilion, which she is granted to observe, along with the rest of her family, behind a curtain, since at the time, unmarried women were not supposed to be seen. All she was allowed to do was read about the opera, but when she is given the opportunity to see it for herself, she becomes extremely enthusiastic. She becomes so mesmerized and entranced by the opera that she had to take a step outside to calm herself down. While she takes a walk outside, she meets with a male stranger also decided to step out during the opera. Peony knew she wasn’t supposed to be speaking with any male that wasn’t within her family, but she fell for him the moment she saw him. The opera was so long that it took three nights to perform, so they agreed to meet each other on each night. They both knew they were to be wed to another since they were both betrothed at the time, but little did they know they were actually betrothed to each other.

What is a Wife? What is a Daughter? Are they the same, or are they different? A wife supports a husband, but a daughter could also have the same position could she not? A daughter could marry and become a wife, and still be a daughter. Than again, a wife could be an only child, and a wife could have no father. A wife compares to a daughter in many ways, and differs in many different ways as well. All in all, it?s quite possible that all women, go through at least one of these titles, at one point in there lives.

The Wife Of His Youth is a short story written by Charles Chesnutt in the late 1800’s. The story starts with the introduction to the Blue Veins society; A society where a small group of colored people formed up in the Northern City after the Civil War. Blue Veins society distinguished a person’s social standing but basically geared only toward those of light complexion where you could visibly see one’s Blue Veins. Mr. Ryder a handsome bachelor, and dean of the Blue Veins society is soon to end his bachelor status and marry Miss. Molly Dixon. That was soon to change when he is approached by a face of his past, the wife of his youth. Mr. Ryder a past apprentice during the Civil War was previously married to Liza Jane. Liza Jane spent 25 years in search of her love Sam Taylor or known now as Mr. Ryder. Late into the story Mr. Ryder throws a ball for the Blue Veins society in honor of Molly Dixon his “soon to be” wife. During the Blue Veins ball, Mr. Ryder reaches out to the crowd with hypothetical question about the wife of his youth; in regards to advice on what he should do. Mr.Ryder brings Liza Jane to the ball and introduces everyone in the crowd as the wife of his youth. This short story really makes one question the certain aspects of race.

In an essay by Judy Brady titled “I Want a Wife”, Brady discusses the typical gender dynamics of her time period (the 1970s) and challenges them. She essentially says that women are treated like they are inferior to men and so she says that she wishes or wants someone to fulfill her duties for her just like she does for her husband. This essay shows the struggle to gain equality in this time period and also represents the thoughts that a woman in this time period might have. Not only is the meaning behind this essay significant, but the way in which Brady presents it is also significant and it amplifies and strengthens the argument. This is proven by textual evidence found in the essay itself.

In Good Wives: Image and Reality in the Lives of Women in Northern New England 1650-1750, Laurel Thatcher Ulrich details the roles and lives of women in Northern New England from 1650-1750. Good Wives is a study in role definition and of day to day, season to season, and year to year life of women during this time. Ulrich not only answers the questions what ii meant to be a “loving mother”, and “obedient wife,” and a “friendly neighbor” – an idealized epitaph of the time – she answers the questions of what did women do day to day, season to season, and year to year? “What were the concrete realities of their lives in northern New England?” And “how did these differ for men?”

My Sister’s Marriage” by Cynthia Marshall Rich portraits  characters that have many family problems. The father Doctor Landis is a total control freak. He decides every little things in his two daughters, Olivia and Sarah Ann, life. The restrictions that the father puts upon on his two daughters have different consequence on both. Olivia, the oldest daughter, starts having rebellious feeling due to suffocated restrictions, while, Sarah Ann, the youngest daughter, starts to internalize the restrictions and value her limited opportunities. Everywhere in the story, we can see that, the daughters pass through  so many intestinal conflicts that result in either imprisonment or liberation. Since the father is so controlling, he has instructed his daughters to have a perverted view of love which emotionally demolished and imprisons one,

In The Great Divorce, the narrator suddenly, and inexplicably, finds himself in a grim and joyless city (the "grey town", representative of hell). He eventually finds a bus for those who desire an excursion to some other place (and which eventually turns out to be the foothills of heaven). He enters the bus and converses with his fellow passengers as they travel. When the bus reaches its destination, the "people" on the bus — including the narrator — gradually realize that they are ghosts. Although the country is the most beautiful they have ever seen, every feature of the landscape (including streams of water and blades of grass) is unbearably solid compared to themselves: it causes them immense pain to walk on the grass, and even a

In her book Marriage a History Stephanie Coontz explains the male breadwinner family model and its dominance in family life during the 40’s, 50’s, and early 60’s. An illustration of the male breadwinner model is composed of a father, mother, and two children; typically a boy and girl close in age. Funded by their father’s well paying middle class salary, the wife and children live a comfortable life in suburbia and participate regularly in consumer trends. Perceived as the head of the household, the father was the sole financial provider. On the other hand the mother was the head of domestic life and was responsible for the children. The popular 1950’s TV show The Adventures of Ozzie and Harriet exemplified this family model. With regard to the male breadwinner family model, imagine having eight other brothers and sisters. Imagine growing up without a mother, and with a father who worked constantly. Then consider living this life alongside your peers who come from the “normal” male breadwinner families Coontz describes… How would your family differ from your peers? What would be your thoughts and feelings towards family life? More importantly, how would these unique circumstances change your perception of the nuclear family?

The Other Wife is a short story written by Sidonie Gabrielle Colette. Colette is credited for challenging rigid attitudes and assumptions about gender roles. “The Other Wife” is about a French aristocrat and his second wife has a brief encounter with his ex-wife in a restaurant. The story’s point of view is 3rd person omniscient. An analysis of how France 20th century gender roles influence the multiple personalities of a husband, wife, and ex-wife.

“Will Your Marriage Last?”, by Aviva Patz, is a cohesive article about marriage and divorce. Aviva Patz is the executive editor of Psychology Today. Patz narrates the story of Ted Huston, a professor at the University of Texas, who followed the lives of 168 couples for 13 years after their wedding date. She was then able to draw conclusions about what makes a couple stay together or end up filing divorce papers. Although marriages and divorce are the themes of this article, it is really about society’s pressure on young people to be perfect.

To begin with, Wallace's essay describes issues of the ordinary adult life. He implies that the decisions we make in times of frustration define the value of our character. Wallace expresses his idea that we are by default "the absolute center of the universe"(1). Wallace suggests that our "default setting"(1), is what disables our ability to see situations that exist externally. In his essay, there are instances where he gives in to his Self-centered "default setting"(1).

In Iran’s The American Husband by Jalal Al-E Ahmad, we are introduced by the narrator into a world where educated Iranian men choose American women as their trophy wives; Muslim men are allowed to marry a Christian or Jewish women. The protagonist of the story states that life would have had a different outcome if it weren’t for this poisonous corruption of the Qur’an culture. Jalal coined the term gharbzadeh-westoxification-a stinging critique of western technology and western “civilization.”

In the article “what shamu taught me about a happy marriage” by Amy Sutherland (2003), she clarifies that how she changed her husband to make a happy marriage. She supports her claim by first describing the problem in her life was they didn’t have a lovely relaxed atmosphere in her family. He didn’t do any housework and always got angry easily. Then, she tried to solve the problem. After she got inspiration from animal trainers, she decided to try it on her husband. She also changed her habits to make her training works better. Finally, they have a happy life by tolerating each other.

I unfortunately have been placed in this situation with a therapist as described in the case. Although my religion did not play a role in the situation, I remember questioning myself and what my beliefs were in regards to divorce. I remember leaving the office and on my drive home, I began questioning if my beliefs were wrong, if perhaps I should divorce my husband. Having this frame of mind and only seeing my therapist once a week, it caused further distress between my husband and I. I believed that at that time that because my therapist was a professional person and they were there to help me, their "answer" must have been the right one. I began to distance myself further from my husband and unfortunately became depressed.

When considering the concept of life or death, one tends to imagine someone deserted on an island with no tools to survive or someone getting attacked by an animal or some abnormal situation like that. Most certainly, the Regency period does not come to mind. However, women of the period experienced the concept quite vividly- if they could not marry and they had no brothers or sons, they could often lose their fortunes and homes upon the death of their father or husband. Their entire livelihood depended on men solely because society refused the idea that women were actually equal to men and Jane Austen knew this well. Accompanied by the enlightening insights of Charlotte Lucas, Austen cleverly utilizes an extreme caricature in the form of Lady Catherine De Bourgh and Mrs. Bennet in order to reveal how marriage was the only way to ensure the financial stability of a young woman due to the constraints the patriarchy placed on women during the period. Women clearly recognized this as the sole means of avoiding a life filled with hardship and misery, which manifests itself within Pride & Prejudice through Lady Catherine’s and Mrs. Bennet’s constant worrying over their respective daughters’ marital status.