The Other Side Of Desire Analysis

This paper will outline sexuality at different life stages, and as a sexual therapist I will coach an adolescent girl with a boyfriend who is pressuring her to have sex; an elderly couple with a wife exhibiting a renewed interest in sexual activity and a unwilling husband; and finally a handicapped male that has been paralyzed since he was four years old.

Many of us are very family oriented and believe that family should always be present in our life no matter what do in life. While some of us feel that, our desire is worth more important than family due to the lack of communication with family members. In the “Achievement of Desire” by Richard Rodriguez, Rodriguez recalls some of the difficulties he had at a young age, which was balancing his life academically and practicing the Mexican traditions. His desire was more important to him than his family because communication with his family was not as strong as before when he began to get more involved in his education, which separates him from his family mentally and physically.

For middle and lower class citizens educations seems like the primary way to succeed in life. Personally believe that my last statement is true. Richard Rodriguez also believed that and wrote about his experience with education. In his essay “The Achievement of Desire” he discusses things such as;How his parents are Mexican immigrants, barely speak English, and had little to no education. His essay hit home for me because I have experienced similar things in my life but not exactly the same. He also talks about how he felt that the only way of leaving behind the image of being uneducated and at the bottom of the ladder is to educate himself. So that’s what he did. Unfortunately during his educational years he forgot where he came from and abandoned his family and culture. He also discusses Hoggart’s essay “the use of Literacy” and his educational figure who is snobby know as the “scholarship boy”. Even though Rodriguez agreed and seen himself as this “scholarship boy” he knew that he wasn’t a perfect example of it. “The scholarship boy’s parents are poor and are uneducated as are my own”(341) he says but there is a difference him and the perfect scholarship boy. He noticed that he had pushed away his family but the scholarship boy is too blind to see that and only wants to succeed in life. You see myself in Rodriguez but I hope to stop the dissociation from my family and culture before it’s too late.

A paraphilia is known as a medical category which medical doctors created in the 1920s to describe abnormal sexual arousal to individuals, objects, or situations that are not considered normal or typical behavior in a community and causes personal distress or serious problems. Quinsey (2011) noted that the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders includes paraphilias as mental disorders. He stated that this is because they are known to include a behavioral or psychological dysfunction which can create significant distress or disability. He explains a primary feature in most paraphilias is that the sexual behaviors most often involve a person who did not consent to the specific behavior. This is especially true in exhibitionism, frotteurism, and voyeurism. According to Kafka and Hennen (2002), The most common types of paraphilias are exhibitionism (exposing ones genitals to an unexpected person or performing sexual acts that can be watched by others) voyeurism (urges to observe an unsuspecting person who is naked, disrobing, or engaging in sexual activates, or in activates usually considered to be a private nature), pedophilia (sexual preference for prepubescent children or engaging in child sexual abuse), sexual masochism (wanting to be humiliated, beaten, bound, or otherwise made to suffer for sexual pleasure) sadism (in which the pain or humiliation of a person is sexually exciting), fetishism (use of inanimate objects to gain sexual excitement), transvestic

Assignment 4: Polymorphously Perverse According to John B. Crowley (1987) Freud was quoted in 1905 as stating “It is an instructive fact that under the influence of seduction children can become polymorphously perverse, and can be led into all possible kinds of sexual irregularities.” John Crowley goes on to expand on Freud’s statement in reference to young boys in American literature; however it is important for all readers of Freud’s work to understand the logic and examples behind Freud’s reference to polymorphous perversity in children (p.1). By Freud’s definition, the term polymorphously perverse means that erotic pleasure is gained from any part of the body.

The book I chose is titled The Evolution Of Desire by David M. Buss In this book the author explores the concepts of human mating in general, and breaks down what separates the men from women in terms of mating desires. He strives to understand what each gender uses to find, acquire and ultimately keep a mate. The author theorizes that the origin of today 's human mating behavior is directly linked to our evolutionary past. Some of thee main points were that while women prefer a older, healthy and intelligent man who is ambitious, with high social status and strongly built. Most men on average simply prefer young, physically attractive woman.

Freud’s theory of personality examined the interplay between the primitive, instinctual urges—the ‘id’; the practical and rational ‘ego’; and the morally attuned ‘superego’; ‘object relations’ refer to the "object" of an instinct”, which is “the agent through which the instinctual aim is achieved”—most often a person and, according to Freud, most often the mother (Ainsworth 1969, p. 1). The psychosexual development theory that Freud launched reduces our behaviour to mechanistic responses to an instinctive need for pleasure fueled by the ‘libido’ and barriers or distortions to the gratification of the libido at various delineated stages of development were responsible for later problems in life (Kail & Zolner 2012, p. 5). Erik Erikson later added depth to the approach by including more humanistic elements to Freud’s stages and including more periods of development (p.

Most people have things they desire in life like money or other goods. However, almost everyone has one thing that they really want in life, whether it is health or happiness. The one thing is your true desire. My true desire is to have my dad back to normal and regain moments not spent with him.

The symptoms of paraphilia are controversial. According to the textbook, “the DSM-5 attempted to tighten the definition of paraphilic disorder” but raised the concern of others (Nolen-Hoeksema, 2013). For example, the DSM-5 wanted to apply paraphilic coercive disorder but backfired due to concerns that rape is not a mental disorder but a criminal act. There were other proposals such as for hyperactivity disorder where fantasies, urges, and activities need to last for at least 6 months but again, that was rejected. These controversies were rejected due to it being difficult to resolve because of moral judgment and social norms.

Adam Smith invented the idea of a free market, or a supply and demand economic system where government or other factors have no influence over the market. “Transactions in the field of desire” is “Adam Smithian,” because desire is a human emotion that the government can’t regulate. Money wise, “with any price, any desire can be gratified” meaning that desire works like supply and demand. As desire begins to increase, the amount of money required in order to satisfy the desire increases as well (808). Therefore transactions in the field of the desire closely mimic a free market.

As a preamble to my book, I want to acknowledge that people have diverse opinions regarding “sexual lust.” Thus, it becomes essential that I convey my beliefs regarding sexual lust at the onset; whereupon, my message within my writing will not become misconstrued, as this prevails critical to comprehending what I seek to identify as problematic. The following subsists as a brief account of “my” explanation of sexual lust, which I call the “spirit of lust” in my book. Accordingly, within the “spiritual” world of the living, whether this energy withstands as positive or negative transpires as a matter of discernment or way of thinking.

Sexual deviance is a complex issue due to traditional values and deviance are relative terms; and to make matters worse the definition of the term sexual deviance has shifted over time. Sexual deviance refers to atypical sexual behaviors usually defined in moral and legal terms. Mistaken belief of our sexuality can lead to doubts, guilt, and shame. In addition, modern lifestyles and upscale urban living have led to a flaking of inhibitions and enhanced sexual freedom to discover different sexual behaviors is responsible for false observations of normal and abnormal sexual behavior in oneself and others. In today's world, opinions of sexual deviance include a range of sexual expression such as sexual sadomasochism, fetishism, cross dressing,

Freud looked to comprehend the nature and assortment of this disease by remembering the sexual history of his patients. This was not principally an examination of sexual encounters in that capacity. Much more essential were the patient's desires and wishes, their experience of affection, despise, disgrace, blame and dread, and how they took care of these capable feelings.

“Want is both parent and child of war.” (Counsel) Every war taken on between nations has had a motive reflecting the combatants. For each motive in the combatant, there is equal and opposite motive in opposing the belligerent. War is a complicated combinations of values, ideas, desires, and other such virtues. Literature reflects the core values of the participants in views of the man fighting, the man who will fight, and the man who will never fight. In the works of Dickens, Remarque, Wiesel, and Knowles, a different group is being represented. Each author of captures their time period in a way the engulfs the war and its causes. At the core, war intrinsically can be held at values of wanting a better future, resisting

Austrian neurologist and psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud was one of the first people to address the subject of sexual fetishism and wrote an essay on the matter. After his investigation he’d come to believe that the purpose and meaning behind an individual’s “fetish” would always be one and the same;