The Death Of A Divorce

In The Great Divorce, the narrator suddenly, and inexplicably, finds himself in a grim and joyless city (the "grey town", representative of hell). He eventually finds a bus for those who desire an excursion to some other place (and which eventually turns out to be the foothills of heaven). He enters the bus and converses with his fellow passengers as they travel. When the bus reaches its destination, the "people" on the bus — including the narrator — gradually realize that they are ghosts. Although the country is the most beautiful they have ever seen, every feature of the landscape (including streams of water and blades of grass) is unbearably solid compared to themselves: it causes them immense pain to walk on the grass, and even a

When you are in a relationship, arguments or disagreements can arise. They can often trigger strong emotions that lead to hurtful words and uneasiness. If these conflicts are not resolved in a healthy way, resentment and a dissolved relationship could follow. However, when they are resolved in a proper manner, it could promote growth between the couple and fortify the bonds of their relationship (Conflict Resolution Skills).

Heaven is a conceptual place where the human race will end up after their life on earth. It is a place where no sin is found causing everyone to live in complete peace. But what if living a life without sin is unimaginably difficult? And what if being confronted about your sins made you want to turn away from a life of perfection? C.S. Lewis makes a claim about this concern in his book, The Great Divorce. He analyzes the behavior of humans in accordance with their sinful habits. The Great Divorce focuses on the point of view of the Narrator who lives in a gloomy and dismal Hell when an otherworldly bus stops by and takes the passengers to Heaven. Everyone is eager to get on the bus when promised an oasis from the gloomy setting of Hell. Once

Mast focused his book on a similar scandal that occurred in Washington called the Watergate scandal with Richard Nixon that displayed similar endeavors that occur in American politics. “The Performative Presidency” is a clearly written and compact book on an important topic too often ignored by social scientists; the performative dimension of politics. Most scholars accept at an abstract level that politics is not fully captured by survey data and analysis of formal political processes. Politics is practiced, it is a lived, social endeavor, and a meaningful or sometimes meaningless experience. It creates fallacies that are fragile to human endeavors, but how one integrates these factors into the study of politics is much less clear. Especially

That being said, we have certainly fought about a few things, and the way we come at larger conflicts is quite different. Funny enough, it is the "Protest Polka" which Dr. Sue Johnson describes in Hold Me Tight. I feel as though love is pursuing the conflict and working through it in the moment rather than letting a problem fester. This often causes me to come at the conversation in an emotionally aggressive manner.

Although assistance is now available to those who need it, domestic violence is still a problem that must be dealt with. The victims of domestic violence have real problems that need attention, but it seems as if the issues these people face are not top priority. There are multiple things that are going on in a domestic violence situation, but to someone on the outside looking in, the obvious choice would be to get out of the situation and leave.

Growing up, I had never heard of foster care. I did not know anyone who had been in foster care and I only knew of one person in high school who lived in a home with abusive parents. I was friends with a handful of people who had been adopted, but was ignorant to the fact that their adoption potentially impacted them on a daily basis and in every area of their life. The first time I had a real glimpse into the world of abused and neglected children was in 2005 when I was a senior in high school and took a trip with my church to Peru. I visited an orphanage and spent several days playing with the children who lived there. I did not know it at the time, but that experience sparked my journey into the field of social work. I attended Hope College, a liberal arts Christian college in Western Michigan. I knew that I wanted to go into a helping profession and declared social work as my major my Sophomore year. I chose social work over other degrees such as sociology or education because I knew that I wanted to work directly with children and families to help them change and improve their lives. I studied hard and was fortunate enough to be offered a full time internship at Casa Central in Chicago, IL. Casa Central was a private child welfare agency working primarily with Spanish-speaking clients. My world view broadened as I came

Marriage is an adjustment between two people getting married Communication can cause a relationship to succeed or fail. If you do not share how you feel, it can cause your partner to withdraw. Listening can save a relationship. Schonberg (2011) found that “affective affirmation –basically, behavior that makes your partner feel loved cared for or special plays a role in a happy marriage and those men need it more than women. There are several factors and problems that can cause marriage to either succeed or fail. It is important to discuss problem things left unsaid can cause your partner to with draw.

This is gross to God. Professor Russell Dykstra writes in a Standard Bearer that, “Divorce is ugly.” “It’s when one home becomes two”...”at enmity with each other.” Marriage is meant to be a bond of friendship forever. Marriage is a picture of Christ and His church. This picture is getting ruined by the world when parents divorce. This sin of divorce is progressing quickly and it is causing other problems as well. The “two families are at enmity with each other” is said once again by Prof. Dykstra. They absolutely hate each other. This is very complicated for a child to live through. Prof. Dykstra speaks of Elizabeth Marquardt who is the author of a published book called Between Two Worlds in which she explains the hardships of living in a home with divorced parents (Marriage Divorce 2). She says in her book that children living in these kinds of homes are living a difficult life. Children have to learn two different ways of living. One parent expects this and that from the child while the other parent has different expectations. One of the biggest things a Christian, who is in the midst of a divorce, faces is that of his or her belief. The cause of divorcement in the church is that of beliefs most often. The parents do not agree on what they believe so they figure they can’t live together. Without a say, the child is forced to believe a certain belief while at one house while another belief at the other house. The confusement that must be going through this child’s head is almost unimaginable. So for this child, the only way to escape this mess in his or her life they runaway.

Evil is a subject on which most tread lightly, saying what they think is true and not questioning what it is. Who decides what is evil? Perhaps no one thing is completely evil. Perhaps each person decides what is evil in his eyes. One person might believe that someone is evil, and another person might believe that the same someone is good. This would mean that evil is relative depending on where you live, who you are, or what you believe. For example, Kim Jong Il, the dictator of North Korea, is evil in the eyes of most Americans, but those who live under his rule praise him above nearly everything. But then, are some things truly evil? If those in North Korea would see the world from our eyes, would they not think the dictator evil? So maybe

However, if one of the individuals in the marriage is resisting the divorce, or situations are complex, such as children being involved, then divorces can take a long time to finalize and can become extremely messy affairs. The constant arguing, disagreements, snide comments and hateful words that occur during this time frame, which most likely started before the topic of divorce was even brought up, can take a toll on not just the two individuals whose marriage is ending, but everyone else who is involved, no matter how little their involvement is.

There is one loss in my life that affected many aspects of my life for many years, the divorce of my parents. I was in barley entering the first grade and the tender age of five, soon to turn six, when my parents spent their last night as a married couple. I do not have many memories of my parents as a couple but I do remember the day my Daddy left. He was a policeman and I watched as his cruiser drove away from our family home. I remember my mom crying and not being willing to console me or explain to me what was happening. All I knew is there was a fight, my dad left, it seemed different than other times when he left, and my mom was crying. Everything about my life changed in the blink of a five year old’s eyes which is what makes this loss so significant in my life.

Growing up children are surrounded with a fairy tale life, the ‘happily ever after.’ As girls we are supposed to wait for our prince charming and he will love us forever; and for boys it is finding and rescuing a beautiful princess who can cook, clean, and is loved by all creatures. That is what marriage is based off of as a child, but that perspective changes once we get a small grasp of the concept of love and we really see what marriage is. Marriage is not something anyone goes into lightly and maybe our expectations of the fairy tale life are why divorce is so commonly sought.

Handling conflict is a skill which can be learned. It requires practice, discipline and self-control. In the midst of conflict, most people forget the overall goal in addressing the conflict: Having your partner understand your feelings and resolving the disagreement. The more a couple can keep this goal in mind the less likely either will engage in criticism, yelling or name-calling. These behaviors only fuel the conflict (Managing Conflict in Your Relationship,

Sometimes divorce may be the only way to solve the various problems a family may have.