When it comes to women and crime, one category that leaves a lifetime scar is rape. A video that I watched shares the personal experience of Amy, a young twenty-five year old woman from Connecticut. The video is called “Rape Victim Speaks out About Attack” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-BcFdw25WHI its duration is 30 minutes long. One night after work, Amy was walked to her car by the working bartender, his name was Angelo. Angelo had asked if he could get a ride home with Amy as he had too much to drink and could not drive. Reluctantly Amy agreed, due to the fact they had been working together for two years, and that he had always seemed friendly. Angelo directed Amy where to go that night, and after 45 minutes of driving, they ended up lost in a residential area neither knew of. At this point Amy felt unsafe and asked Angelo to get out of the car by pointing to the door. His reaction however was him pointing to his crotch and asked how much, indicating he wanted to pay her for sex. Amy said no, and kept asking Angelo to leave. When Amy got out of the car and tried calling 911, …show more content…
In this instance the person who raped Amy was someone she knew, a coworker of hers. The satisfaction of being able to trust Angelo due to 2 years of working with him allowed Amy to feel comfortable in giving Angelo a ride. What happened to Amy was acquaintance rape, however in this scenario there was resistance and a lot of force used. Second of all chapter 5 mentioned the effects of the traumatic experience and this lines up exactly with how Amy felt as she was depressed, angry, stressed, and had anxiety. In Amy’s case she had a strong support system, along with therapy, but till this day she is still on antidepressants to help her. A point Amy made about rape was that rape is not about sex, rather it is about control and power, similarly we learned in this class that men have a need to exert control and
Penny Ann Beernsten, a thirty-six year old small business co-owner and physical fitness instructor, went through a traumatic experience on the afternoon of July 29, 1985. She jogged at a stretch of Lake Michigan shoreline in Wisconsin. She was planning on meeting with her father at the beach at 4:00 PM and she started the jog at 3:50 PM, but was grabbed and taken to the woods where she was raped and deprived her of oxygen by suffocation until she passed out. When she woke up, she walked out of the woods, where couples comforted her until she found her husband and finally the police. (Possley).
The victim speaks about how much her life has changed since the incident. She speaks about "sleeping with the lights on", showing the fact that she is still scared a year and a half later. The "long and invasive" rape exams effected the victim not only mentally but also physically. The psychological damage inflicted on rape victims is long lasting. The victim uses words like
As Alice was going through major hell during the rape and even after the rape, it seemed as it was not taken seriously by others. Alice describes her pain, fears, and many problems that came along the way when it came for fighting for herself and the after effect of the rape. Being a rape victim was not easy, and Alice showed many signals that she needed more than just comfort, but sadly many of them failed to provide that for her.
Paglia’s unsympathetic comparison of a car being stolen because the keys were left on the hood of the car to a girl being raped because she drank alcohol is preposterous. The loss of a vehicle is mild in comparison to the theft of a woman’s most intimate possession. Sure, you may have lost your means of transport but a stolen car can be recovered, or a new vehicle purchased upon receiving funds from the insurance provider. A rape victim goes through many psychological and emotional changes. They often blame themselves and feel unclean. Their relationships and trust of other males in their life may be terribly altered also. In many cases, victims are haunted by the memories of the actual act. Depression and an addiction to pain pills may also be acquired as a way to escape from and alleviate the painful memories. Plenty of date rape cases are unreported because the victim feels that she will be harshly judged.
A trait that stands out in the book is the symptom of bodily memories. In Melinda’s case, during a frog dissection in her science class, she remembers the opening up and even says, “She doesn’t say a word. She is already dead. A scream starts in my gut – I can feel the cut, smell the dirt, feel the leaves in my hair.” (81). One of the other symptoms that Melinda has is self-harm. The first time that this is shown in the book, Melinda says this, “I open up a paper clip and scratch it across the inside of my left wrist. Pitiful. If a suicide attempt is a cry for help, then what is this? A whimper, a peep?” (87). Melinda also has a hard time talking to her parents about the rape to which she says, “How can I talk to them about that night? How can I start?” (72). Some victims recover from such a traumatic experience, while others don’t and live a lifetime of depression and must undergo intense therapy. In Melinda’s case, she finds redemption by talking to her parents and the guidance counselor, and putting her faith into her teachers, friends, and her art project at school. Because rape can affect anybody anywhere, everyone should be aware of the circumstances, and how to deal with it.
There are two sides to a rape, the rapist and the victim. The victim is most of the time a woman but men are raped as well. It is a common myth that there is a type of woman that is more likely to be raped. This is indeed a myth, most of the time rape is a crime of opportunity, the victim is not chosen because of her looks or behavior, but because she is there (Benedict 2). The average rape victim is 18-39 years old and female, the average rapist is 25 years old and male. The effect of rape on a woman is an enormous one. The woman will come away from a rape with both physical and psychological damage. Eventually the physical wounds will heal, the psychological wounds will take quite some time before or if they ever heal (Grady 4). A sexual assault robs the woman of a sense of control; a feeling of loss of freedom is common among rape victims. To put her life in order she must regain this sense of control. Almost all rape victims suffer from posttraumatic stress disorder (Benedict 2). The first symptom is the reliving or re-experiencing of the
The lives of women are changed, devastated, and ruined by sexual assault. They will most likely never be the same person they used to be. A survivor of sexual assault will often take safety measures to avoid another one of these encounters; for example, they may walk an extra mile to avoid a dark alley she saw a man lurking around the other day or spend money on things like pepper spray, a rape whistle, or self-defense classes—all in an attempt to defend themselves from something preventable. In fact, a 2014 survey shows that 45% of women in America felt that walking alone after sundown was dangerous, which means that it is safe to say that even women
One of the first times I ever went to a hospital was when I had to have a medical examination done to support sexual assault allegations. I was 12, and I elected not to have my mother with me for fear that she could not emotionally handle what was about to happen. Although I was lucky to have compassionate physicians, I still remember the loneliness that I felt and that I would continue to feel after that appointment. I was fortunate enough to be able to receive free therapy throughout my high school years, and that is something that has never been lost on me. Because of this, I have a personal passion for supporting sexual assault victims in whatever way I can. Throughout my high school years, I spoke at various engagement to fundraise for
Rape victim Heather Jurey speaks out about her rape. She says she was at a bar when a guy came up and asked her if she would like a drink. She replies, “Sure that will be fine” after a few hours her body began to feel funny. She knew she had only had 3 drinks over the course of several hours and knew she had been drugged. Heather said she was pushed into the car and then blacked out. She woke up to the man who had asked her if she would like a drink. He was on top of her raping her, with two other guys around watching. Heather pushed them away and grabbed her belongings and began to run while running she called her friend, once her friend picked up, Heather began explaining everything to her. Molly advised her to go to the hospital. Heather believed that she was sexually assaulted by 3 different men; all she wanted to do was go home and take a shower, because she felt disgusted. Heather speaks out in hopes to inform women and men to “Never accept drinks from strangers, and if so go to the bar with them. Never go out alone make sure you have a friend.”(Anderson, 2012) Those ae great rules to go by to ensure or reduce the chances of being drugged that can later result in being raped.
Tom sat on the sofa, his shoulders hunched forward, his eyes staring listlessly into space. In his hands, a forgotten cup of coffee trembled violently, the lukewarm liquid spilling over his fingers. He hadn’t uttered a single word since his impassioned attempt to justify Booker’s assault, and as the minutes ticked by, his silence only added to Doug’s concerns. Although not an expert, as a cop, Penhall understood about trauma, and fearing his friend was going into shock, he made the decision to call 911. With an ambulance on its way, he dialed a second number, and after a brief conversation, he hung up. Turning his attention to Tom, he wondered how to proceed. While he wanted to offer comfort, he honestly did not know what to say. How did you console the victim of sexual assault when the perpetrator was a trusted colleague you worked side by side with day in day out? He was out of his depth and terrified of making matters worse, but he knew he needed to do something other than making a cup of coffee, and approaching Tom, he squatted down and laid a hand on his knee. “How ya doin’, buddy?”
Being sexually assaulted as a child and teenager can ruin your life. As a child, you, really don’t
“It wasn’t rape you were being such a tease.” “NO I said. I covered my vagina with both of my hands and I said NO! I was with a close male friend and I thought I was safe. I thought I was safe when I went out drinking with said friend and I thought I was safe when we went to my place to “hangout.” This is an anonymous rape survivor’s story. These common occurrences affect a fair portion of the population in Missoula, in comparison to the national average, and something should be done. There is also a low number of people who are there to support and help the survivors of sexual assault.
The future conditions of the woman’s potential marital worth were much poorer than any punishment the violator could have received. Once a woman was raped, her virginity was no longer available for her husband to have. “‘Virginity is the ornament of morals, the sanctity of the sexes, the peace of families and the source of the greatest friendships.’ Its existence was a precondition for marriage. To publicly breach it was to compromise honor, rank, even life; a ‘deflowered’ girl inevitably became a ‘lost’ girl. . . ‘The ravishing of virginity was the worst rape of all.’” (Cite Book 1) An innocent woman had now completely lost her worth to society and her own dignity due to a man’s egocentric and merciless actions.
I choose this topic because sexual assault is one of the most offensive crimes committed in our society. Not only is it a threat to the community, but it has a physically and psychologically effect on the victim in many ways. For the last couple of decades, sexual assault, rape, and child molestation has become the focal point of public concerns today. According to a 1993 National Crime Victimization Survey conducted by the U.S. Department of Justice, about 500,000 rapes or sexual assaults occur each year (Statistics, March 2010). The Department of Justice states that, “rape crimes have risen nearly three times as fast as the total crime rate”, although other studies have shown statistics that are in
This literature review provides a brief overview of six scholarly articles and other facts about sexual assault .This review will first define sexual assault as it is defined in these articles. It will analyze the strengths and limitations of the definition used and will discuss the occurrence of sexual assault in the general population.This review will also illustrate the protective factors, barriers to recovery , impact of development and the specific sexual assault population that are absent in these articles. Sexual assault is a societal issue that impacts men and women at every age in their life, it’s much more highly reported among college aged women. The majority of women who are victims of rape are