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Sex in the City by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo Essay

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I bought this book when I was in class 8th and had an enormous crush on a guy who liked by then best friend. I loved the book so much that I recommended it to and even passed around my copy to help those who weren’t sure as to what was going on in their lives. Yes, I bought the book. I was 14 then. The book was intended to empower girls to stop waiting for disinterested guys. And it did emancipate the 14years old me from the unending pain! I realized that if a guy liked me, he would make it obvious by telling me so, calling me regularly, taking me out, etc. and if he does not do all this, he is not interested in me. My world was suddenly black and white.

Today, I am 21years old and I can say without any second thoughts, I don’t need to …show more content…

They say so because although it seems that the guy gave the girl the control of the situation, in reality of the authors’ world, this means that HE gets to choose whether to pick up her call or not. However on planet Earth, the girl could have just called to fix a date.
And then there were dodgy suggestions like how a woman should never ever ask a man out because men are conditioned to lead. The guy could be as unsure of your feelings as you are of his, or he could be shy! I say WHY NOT ask a man out!
Many women play the martyr in relationships with men who don't treat them well because many women feel so devoted to their partners that they are afraid of losing them. They sometimes delude themselves with fantasies about why the partner still loves them despite all the signs pointing otherwise. This isn’t gender specific! Guys are just as delusional as women when in love! They too would try to save the relationship by ‘playing the martyr’.

Real life is not so black and white, and this highly sexist, misogynistic book assumes that it is. Unluckily, relationships are perilously perched in the grey and that’s what makes them hard and complicated. We are humans after all. We hurt and shape each other all the time. It is unfair to hold men responsible for initiating all hetero relationships, casual or serious. Men are equally affected by work pressure, family environment and heartbreaks!
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