Real Self How Others See Me Ideal Self

I got bullied a lot so that kind of stopped people from wanting to talk to me in the first place. When they did they saw a weird anti-social kid that wasn’t fun to be around or maybe that’s how I see myself reflecting on everything. Can’t say much about that has changed though. When I did get friends I had a problem where I’d get overly attached to them; as a result you could’ve insulted me every day and I’d still call you my friend. I think it was my want for one with the fact I was really, really dense;consequently most of the people I met weren’t great people to be around and a lot had some sort of bad habits, I still always had a book with me as once again an escape from my at least how I saw it sad and boring life in

Since I was young, there was a communication barrier that existed between me and the outside world. My shyness led me to many downfalls on my academic side. Not understanding a topic would mean that I would never be able to clarify any questions that were on my mind. Until around 6th grade, I always considered myself introverted; I had the inability to blend in with strangers, peers and teachers.

As the year progressed, I found people who shared common interests as me and people who did not. Regardless, I made myself associate with them and it worked for my benefit. You may never know when you need a favor or just someone to talk to for that matter. Saying hello to a person can change so much which may sound really cheesy but its true! If I had never had the courage to join in on a strangers’ conversation then they would never have become my best friends. I had witnessed the Butterfly Effect. As I grew more comfortable with talking to others, my personality bloomed into something that I am proud of. I was excited to do things that others were not. If there was a spirit day, I would go all out. If it was someone’s birthday, I would try my hardest to get them a gift they would enjoy. If I saw someone going through internal turmoil, I would lend them my ears so that they could release their stress. Once, I was browsing Instagram through boredom and a girl had posted a picture of herself with the caption that said “I have nothing to live for.” I commented on the picture saying that she was gorgeous and she replied with “so what.” That reply hit me

This is the report to the Psychology 100 class assignment. In the assignment, I handed out surveys about my personality and asked others to rate me; then I collected and analyzed the data. The results will show that how other people see me may or may not be the same as I see myself.

From the start I was independent. I love to solve things individually and having my own special experiences. I am also very outgoing. I love meeting new people,getting to learn new things through other people and discovering and hearing ideas I’ve never heard before. I am also very adventurous. I love to try new things and learning something new. Also, if you ask any of my close friends or family they know I am very ambitious, charismatic, and compassionate. When I have a goal I make it my duty to reach it. I have a very special personality. I

Have you ever thought about why we feel about ourselves the way we do? Do you hate yourself or are you confident about who you are? Either way you feel about yourself, this all comes from your self-concept. According to Steven McCornack’s Reflect and Relate “self-concept is your overall perception of who you are.” My self-concept is constantly changing due to confidence boosts or if I become depressed and sad; these factors also influence my self-esteem. My self-concept helps determine how well I am able to communicate with others. “Some psychologists and sociologist have advanced theories that suggest we learn who we are through four basic meaning: our communication with other individuals, our association with groups, roles we assume, and our self-labels” (Beebe 35).

When I was little, I was very shy around new people. I usually only showed who I actually was around my family. I didn’t have a friend who I could be myself around, they were usually just friends who I would play with at recess. That was until everything changed, and I moved across the town of Derby.

When I was younger, I could afford to be catty because I was the one that everyone wanted to sit next to. I don’t know why but everything always came easy to me; school, conversation, and friendship. I effortlessly cruised through school with near perfect grades. I often took my friends for granted, not showing them the appreciation they deserved. Outsiders were a minor inconvenience and a disruption. I wasn’t the person to show them around or put up with their

It wasn’t until high school where I began to break the shell I had put around myself, I began to explore outside my comfort zone, and I actively wanted to make friends. I began joining clubs and tried talking to a variety of different people, and while I would still not consider myself an extrovert I enjoy my time I spend with people and through these club I discovered new passions such as debate and politics and even reinstated my schools debate club just so I could help other people learn how to make their opinion known and understood by the

As for socially, I am considered by many to be shy but this is not really the case at all. Rather, I prefer to keep my mouth shut unless I have something I feel needs to be said. One of my pet peeves is people who just say things to either get a rise from others, or if they just talk because they are bored. I choose my friends carefully, and I have a small number of good, close friends, instead of a large number of people I barely know. I have never been one to follow the crowd, not by choice, but after years of feeling like I didn’t quite fit in with many other people, I just gave up. Anyone who couldn’t accept me for the way I am raises no concerns of mine. I do not need people like that in my life.

Once the school year started I was able to start talking to kids that came from others schools that were not from Mueller and make friends quickly. Now I have some of the greatest friends. Also about three months ago I had my quince and yes I was not shy or anything, but I didn't really dance much at my party because I didn't really feel comfortable doing it yet . A week later It was the school dance and at first I was just sitting down because I have always been like scared to dance in front of people, but not that long after I was dancing with all my friends. Now I have better social skills. Not so long ago I had to start going to a church youth group. I was scared because I knew that I was not going to know anyone. When I got there the first few times I was nervous and scared to go but then I met this guy named Gabriel and since the moment I met him I could be myself around him and know he is a good friend from the group.

Pretty soon after I arrived here, the others learned that I wanted nothing to do with anyone so I was left to myself. I once heard a girl comment on my lack of social skills, the other girl she spoke to just said that it was thought I suffered from severe depression.

My freshmen year, it took me a while to start talking to new people because I was super shy. However, due to my performance in my races, people started to learn my name and actually reached out to me to get to know me. Therefore, I began to become familiar and more comfortable with the members on my team. I decided that I needed to do the same and connect with others my sophomore year. To do so, I started to join various school clubs and attend my church’s youth services, where I met new people. Now my peers see me as a “social butterfly”.

I was not always a social and outgoing individual and I considered myself unlucky in life. I never stood out and did not have enough confidence to attempt to

I seldom ask for help, and I don’t go out of my way to talk to people. From what I have learned in this course, I think that to some people this might make me look like a jerk. Or that I think I’m better than them. When In reality I’m just a little bit of a socially awkward person. It’s not that I don’t like other people, I just really enjoy spending time with myself. I know a lot of people, but I only have two or three that I consider my friends. I value the quality of my relationships more than the quantity. I would rather go out and do something with one or two friends, rather than a large group. I enjoy having the close relationships with my few friends, I have no desire to fill my life with a ton of superficial friendships that come and go.