I came across a tweet from Philosopher’s Mail by Søren Kierkegaard “The most common form of despair is not being who you are.” (Philosophers’ Mail, 2014) This passage is exactly spot-on about the concept of self-betrayal. It is described as an act contrary to what one feels one should do for another. (The Arbinger Institute, January 11, 2010, p. 67). Self-betrayal becomes a breach of trust to oneself, and it comes in several guises and degree. In one way or the other, we tolerate being consumed in the act of self-betrayal. I must acknowledge that it is rather challenging mirroring on the incidents in my life concerning self-betrayal. We tend to find one thousand and one excuse to prove the way we behave, the reasons for not being honest …show more content…
77) We oftentimes ignore the altruistic inner voice in us. As an alternative, we opt to lie to ourselves, therefore, in doing so; it makes our lives tougher than it has to be. With self-betrayal we resisted honoring the sense in the first place, so we become unwittingly devoted more to self- protection and justification (The Arbinger Institute, January 11, 2010) to our actions than about getting results …show more content…
In this case, it was my son’s fault for coming in late. I became too absorbed of my virtue, and I simply exaggerated it, which ended with the kind of response that validates my self-betrayal. I justified that I was mainly concerned about his security and nothing but. In doing so, I perceived myself as a good mother and a responsible one at that. Finally, I cannot overlook the blame game in the situation. Consequently, I identified my son as the one at fault, and I would not acknowledge any wrongdoing with my behavior. (The Arbinger Institute, January 11,
At the same time, we have a need for positive self-regard - to develop a sense of trust in the accuracy and reliability of our own inner experienced, it is on this we must depend if we are to become independent from and able to make good decisions about life and how we are to be in it.
It is easy to blame a child’s upbringing when something goes wrong in their teenage and adult life. However, both Wes Moore’s had a similar childhood yet still ended up with different fates. For example, both of them had absent fathers and were raised by a single parent One of them describes their situation perfectly by telling the other. “Your father wasn’t there because he couldn’t be, my father wasn’t there because he chose not to be “ (Moore 3). A situation where the father is absent is commonly blamed for a misguided life but it is later evident that although there was no father, one of the Wes Moore’s was able to thrive in a positive manner. Since there was a lack of fatherhood, both of them lacked role models, specifically ones that would lead to live positive lives. One Wes Moore chose to retaliate by almost stabbing a neighborhood kid because “it was a pride issue”(Moore 32) and
In reading "Mistakes were Made but Not by me," multiple accounts are given of traits exhibited by humans that are displayed subconsciously. The authors, Carol Tavris and Elliot Aronson, begin by defining these traits and give readers the actual terminology to these characteristics. With various examples being provided to the reading audience they are then able to make a clear correlation between the behaviors displayed and how they may impact not only themselves but others around them. "Mistakes were Made but Not by me" has a theme which is centralized around the two key facets which are cognitive dissonance and self- justification.
There are many causes of self-betrayal in today's society. Accordingly, Self-Betrayal comes from an individual who fails to recognize a fault within themselves, then obtains a sudden realization of said fault which affects the person in a negative manner. Before one can change others, one must change themselves. These causes of self-betrayal are seen in the article Great Betrayals by The New York Times. “Discoveries of such secrets typically bring on tumultuous crises. Ironically, however, in my clinical experience, it is often the person who lied or cheated who has the easier time.” ( Fels. A Great Betrayals). Indeed, it is true that in some circumstances the act of betraying one's self can lead to a positive outcome. With this acknowledgment
In Conclusion, absolving one’s self can be done out of self-interest. It could be just a matter of choice that the awareness of dishonesty and honesty both tie into integrity depending upon individual interpretations. We can agree that
Thesis: Betrayal leads to feeling of guilt which forces the person in search of redemption either directly or through indirect actions and gestures.
For petty issues and difficulties human do not build a defense system. People are incapable of predicting their emotional response, because they are unaware of how their brains work; therefore they choose to be self-deceptive. We humans have the tendency ignore the facts in front of us, because we are afraid of what the facts have in store for us. Gilbert displays examples of how denial can be beneficial to one’s happiness as he states, “The deception was elaborate and effective, but it was perpetrated unconsciously, and in this Osten was not unique (Gilbert
Here, Alex explains that goodness and badness in a human being is a natural trait and every human being needs free will to act according to their inborn trait. Nevertheless, such unbiased perception of free will becomes a problem when it is associated within the larger human society. Alex’s behaviour is a clear violation of the “harm principle” described by John Stuart Mill, which means that humans can engage in any action that does not harm anyone.
While reading this I started to really reflect on my life, and how A.Ka Tat Tsang emphasizes how people often want things that other people want them to want. This article made me realize the importance of self-awareness and how motivations and emotions sometime impact actions such as telling the truth or not.
To many Americans today, the country is a hostage-but not from oversea terrorism as one might expect to think. No today, we live in fear from our own children; and these are the same young people who we are entrusting the future of this great country with. According to the Department of Justice report released in November, thirty-eight percent of those arrested for weapons offenses in 1995 were under the age of eighteen (Curriden). In the same report, the Bureau of Justice Statistics stated that in 1995, 3 out of every 100 eighteen-year-olds were arrested for weapons offenses. A rate three times higher than for males twenty-five to twenty-nine and five times higher than for males thirty to thirty-four (Curriden).
Betrayal: the disloyal action that results in the ultimate feeling of hurt. For there to be betrayal, there must be trust; the breaking of trust is the ultimate way of betrayal. It spurs upon the influence of others and is provoked by the ambitious mind. To fulfill one's desires, betrayal is an action that is easy to perform. This concept is exhibited in William Shakespeare's play, Macbeth, as the implications of betrayal lead the main character, Macbeth, to his downfall. With the influence of the three evil witches, Macbeth is easily convinced about his auspicious future, causing him to overconfident himself and commit a betrayal that eventually results in one that he experiences. The ripple effect of the occurrence of betrayal
Philosophers have debated for centuries the question “Are humans are selfish or selfless?” There are two main arguments for debating human nature, ethical egoists and ethical altruists. Ethical egoists believe that “even though we can act in others’ interests because we are concerned for others, we ought always to act in our own interest” (Solomon et al 2012 p. 460). Ethical altruists believe quite the opposite; ethical altruism is the belief that “people ought to act with each other’s interests in mind” (Solomon et al 2012 p. 461). In discussing the four theories, psychological egoism, psychological altruism, ethical egoism, and ethical altruism, with my husband, there was not a clear dividing line for whether humans are selfish or selfless in nature. After much debate, we concluded that humans are born ethical egoists; however, ethical altruists are made through proper training, care, and nurture.
Shame is the path to maturity and integrity, However, if those same needs are realized in a context of powerlessness, abandonment, abuse, and fear, Therefore, it can be led to discount ourselves and become emotionally distant from people. We may then exhibit symptoms mentioned above as we cover how we feel about ourselves, hoping that nobody notices the truth. What created is a phony self. We lie to ourselves, because of the person, we show to people. We avoid our needs, Our neediness is wrong and something that only seems to hurt us.
Past few decades have seen dramatic advances in the medical field which has increased the human life span. Life expectancy of a human has gone upto 83 in some developed countries. Statistics released by the Union ministry of health and family welfare show that life expectancy in India has gone up by five years, from 62.3 years for males and 63.9 years for females in 2001-2005 to 67.3 years and 69.6 years respectively in 2011-2015. Aged population lead an apparently healthy life with several diseases under control. It is very common for a dentist to encounter such patients in their practice and every dentist should be well informed to deal with such patients.
There are certain psychoanalytic concepts expressed by Sigmund Freud that can be applied to interpret literary texts. Most of the literary texts, like dreams, articulate the secret unconscious desires and concerns of the author, that a literary work is expression of the author’s own neuroses. For instance, one may analyze a particular character within a literary work from the psychoanalytic view, but it is usually assumed that all such characters are outcrops of the author’s psyche.