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Personal Narrative: Parents Of Tweens

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Parents of tweens...I now feel your pain.
I never knew that I would be so quickly enraged with eye rolling, snarky muttering or someone who talks back. I’m not even in the delusional state that my daughter, who’s only just turned into double digits is at her peak. I read an article recently that many parents are calling the tween years harder than the baby years – and although I’ve got selective memory of the baby years, I’m keenly aware that it was tough.
I’m forcing myself to tap into my emotional intelligence which allows me during the eye roll and heavy sighing to act like the sort of mother who helps her daughter through this changing time – it’s exhausting and I often fail. Sometimes from out of nowhere I hear a deep voice emanate …show more content…

This is a big one that I need to constantly remind myself, not just for the new tween in the house but for my younger and step daughters. I’m learning not to over-react, which is hard. I remind myself that I’m the adult (and sometimes argue with myself in a whiney voice ‘but I don’t want to be the adult’). When our feelings are hurt it’s tempting to withdraw or lash out. Take a deep breath and remain calm. Strategic withdrawals with the change to regroup might be required. My strategic withdrawals often involve wine – but I’ve no doubt that this isn’t a) good role modelling or b) advised by anyone with no children or c) best practice advice from anyone.
We are dealing with a different world to when we were tweens. Outside influences can now get into our homes much easier than ‘back in the day’. One of the best ways to get our kids – no matter what their age is to act respectfully towards them, and to calmly expect it in return. It’s also helpful if you have contact with your kid’s friend’s parents and communication with the other parent if your child spends time between houses. This will be so valuable in the future when you can wreck plans of a teenager by checking that they are in fact staying where they tell you they

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