Personal Narrative: Fitting In

Many students in school want to be in the group that is considered to be the “popular” or “cool” group. I believe that there are different meanings for word cool as it just varies depending on a person’s interest. For example, one may like rock music, so they think that people who listen to rock are cool. Instead of changing yourself, it would be better if you just find a group with the same interests. Changing yourself just to be able to be like everyone else is idiotic. The thing that is wrong in our society is that we are not all acceptable to being different or being independent. In a school setting, people may be looked upon as “freaks” just for being an individual. This does not just happen at schools, it happens maybe

Being the new kid in an unfamiliar high school is not a simple task. I started my freshman year at my old rival high school with all new people. I had grown up

“Why fit in when you can stand out?” You have been told this your whole life. But whose responsibility is it to find out where you fit in, yours? Or your peers? Your adolescent years are all about trying to not stand out, and trying just as hard to fit in with the “in crowd.” You use more energy trying to “fit in,” instead of just spending all your energy on being who you really are. A group of friends are suppose to have things in common, but that is hard when everyone is putting up a fake persona. It is the student body’s responsibility to make sure that everyone has a place they can fit in and be themselves. People spend their whole lives trying to “fit in,” while the people who “stand out” are the ones who become something. Think

I moved to Lucerne Valley in July of 2014. Since I started school here, I just haven't found the right group of friends. Nobody ever really accepted me. I’ve been trying to fit in from day one. A group of girls picked on me all throughout 8th and 9th grade. In 8th grade I would hang out with a group of guys. In that group there were Elijah Lien, Nickolas Matlock, and Jake Kline. They were, and still are my only true friends.

As I transitioned from elementary school to middle school, I have always heard about everyone trying to fit in. For me, I too have experienced trying to fit in. While others tried to fit in by buying the trendiest clothes, listening to the latest music or playing the newest games, I thought I could fit in by just going along with everything people said. However, because of this, in the long run, I began to lose myself.

I grew up in a rural town with much agriculture ingrained in the community. It was a place where everyone knew everyone. Everyone had pretty similar view and there was not very much diversity within the community or school. However, I moved during junior high to a town that had a lot more people and to a school where the class size was around 300 compared to my old class of 80. This was a big change at first because it seemed like everyone had their own groups and that it would be hard to make friends, but I quickly realized that was not gonna be the case. I made friends in the classes and activities I was in. They were very nice and they accepted me more easily than I thought a new kid like me would be. They also introduced me into new activities that I was unfamiliar with because they were not offered in my old school.

Everyone has different traits and attitudes which makes everyone uniquely them. Not everyone acts the same way or likes all the same things as everyone else. Every person is different in every which way. Here are some of the things that make me unique from everyone else. Things that I am considering for the future are: the first thing I want to accomplish later in the future is to go to college. I am planning to go to college once I have finish all my four years of High School. I have always dreamed of going to college once I graduated from High School. The college that I am planning to attend is either UTSA or Texas A&M. The career path that I am planning on taking later in the future is to become a teacher. Since I was seven years old I

One tip from the book that I would very much like to implement into my own life is "create time together." While I believe all of the lessons and tips from the book are very interesting and have a lot of validity, this lesson made sense to me right away. There are many other tips in the book that I believe go along with this one, such as 'make a date,' 'identify your inner circle,' 'get closer,' and many others. Humans are social beings, and throughout the book we are told repeatedly how much of an impact having a close group of friends, a close family, and an overall close community is beneficial. The idea that creating a feeling of belonging impacts your lifespan in such a way makes sense to me, as it certainly can be a way of creating emotional and mental well being.

Back in high school there was many groups, We had the jocks,emos,the drug addicts, and last but not least the car enthusiast. When I started high school most of my old friends in grammar school were in the car enthusiast group and I wanted to join them because I didn't know anybody else so I started talking to them again. So one day all of them were in a parking lot and I decided to say hello and hang out with them for a bit when I got there this other kid called juan walked up to me and said “what do you know about cars” and I said “a lot” but in reality i didn't know anything so I just laying of all of the car related stuff i did and they believed it so two months later i bought my first car and started to hang around

I’ve been in school since I was five years old. Fitting in has been somewhat difficult. Everyone in this place has different beliefs from mine and different experiences. You might be lucky and find one or sometimes two people who you can fit in with. Throughout the years I have realized that those people can change, multiple times. Even you change a little bit too. If you’re a shy person, you might not find anyone. There will be people that are your acquaintances but never truly your friend. Or it there may be many people that are your friends and you deeply trust them.

Acceptance occurs when someone comes to terms with reality. They learn to live with what has happened, not everyday after this will be a breeze, but it becomes bearable. Finding acceptance may jut be having more good days than bad ones. My acceptance occurred the moment I first laid eyes on my little brother in the hospital. He was absolutely perfect. All my other feelings of anger and resent melted away. I was filled with peace and love. God knit Andrew together in my mother’s womb just like any he did every other baby. I was proud to be my new baby brother’s big sister, and I was going to protect him with everything that I was. I have since never again questioned why Andrew has Down syndrome, I do not even think of him as having down syndrome,

Being an individual is something that many people wish or want to be; however, standing out means standing alone, which presents a challenge that not many people are willing to accept. I myself have experienced it, such as while other teenagers prefer black in everything and you entering in school wearing a bright purple jacket which you find personable but others, however, find it weird. Thus, most people in today's society try to step out of the world of conformity, but eventually, they step back in due to their fear of not being liked. Most of all, the significance is worthwhile, as soon as you forget about other people in the world, individuality is one of the best feelings

Some people think that “being yourself” is a bad excuse to be selfish and to not conform to society. Personally I think that establishing your individuality is important to do because people need to express who they are and not try to be like each other. For example, I rap and in order to gain fans I try to distinguish myself from other rappers on Soundcloud because if not, no one will want to make music with me which will make it even harder to become known.

Being unique or in laymen terms, “weird “is not a terrible thing. I am one of those people society calls wired of those people because, I never had a group to fit in with, I do not hide who I am and also, I do my own thing and don’t try to fit in to society

The distress and solitude of feeling so out of place can influence the choices you make and the options available to you, as was with me for my 8th grade school year in Georgia. I grew up in Georgia and attended school there for over 10 years, with each passing year I felt more and more out of place. It’s not that anything around me was changing, but in fact I myself was changing. As a kid I was hyper, always went outside (which is shocking, because now I always stay inside and play video games), and even had minor ADHD. At one point I went up to a random kid that just moved in (he was helping unload a truck) and I asked, “Want to be friends”? I have changed completely over the course of those 10 years, I started to have no interest in anything and started to shy away from people. The two biggest factors in this were school and myself.