Personal Narrative: Divorce

Divorce is a terrifying reality. You have given years into a marriage and for what? For it to end abruptly, to lose the person that was once closest to you? Divorce is a terrifying thing for everyone involved in that family. Last year my parents were struggling in their marriage. My Dad had left and I was with my mom at home suffering with the devastation as much as she was but in a different way. The topic of divorce has always been a sensitive subject because personally divorce seems like the worst betrayal there could ever be. This period of time taught me about life, love, and faith in God. There were many setbacks emotionally, I found myself being disappointed in my people I love the most, and it seemed like the two people I look towards

"Dad wants me to stay here and live with him. Is that okay?" my son asked. "He's promised me all kinds of "neat stuff" and I can get to know my step family better.

Personal Narrative: Divorce Mum had briefly informed me that we were going to a place that would

What exclusive memories of affliction are innate in that mixture of a young boy dealing with his parent's divorce is burdensome to imagine. I live with my single mother who struggles to take care of her three kids including me. Although, besides the fact that she was divorced, we are the reason she has to work arduously. Still, she loves all of us and cares about the prosperity of our future.

2012, the year my life took a dramatic turn for the worse. I was in the bathroom, the cold white tiles irritating my feet, listening to Her telling me about the bad news. When the words went from her mouth to the phone, to my ears...I swear it felt like my heart had broken into two. It felt as though someone had grabbed my heart and tried to break it by squeezing it to death. The pale yellow walls were closing in on me and I could do nothing to stop it.

I found myself single again after 2 decades and realized I had a long list of things that needed to get accomplished. So I decided to prioritize the list because it can be overwhelming. The first thing on my agenda was taking care of myself as well as my 2 small children and considering I haven't had to do this alone before it took some soul searching.

Back in 2008 my life changed drastically. My parents decided to get a divorce because it apparently wasn't working out. On september 16th after dinner my parents called me and my sister into the living room to talk to us. Me being only eight years old didn't really know what was going on and neither did my sister. We sat down and my dad began to tell us about them splitting up. I remember when my dad said that they were splitting up my sister began to cry. My dad continued to tell us that they would try to make this as easy as they could and try to put the least amount of stress on me and my sister as possible.

Divorce isn't something I ever wanted to go through. We were married at a young age, shortly after I graduated LPN school. I worked full time at a local nursing home and he worked as a lineman for the power company in VA so he was only home three days a week. We bought a house in the newest housing subdivision in Summersville. My life felt complete or so I thought.

The most significant challenge I have faced was when my parents got a divorce. It was a devastating moment for me because I was very close to both of my parents and I knew that I would have to choose to live with only one. I chose my mother because she there the most for me in my life. When my father left I was devastated, but not so much because he insured me that I would still see him. For the first month he would see me everyday, but after a while, those everyday visits became into every week visits and I was okay with that. After three months I only saw him once a month for a year ,but I was thrilled to be seeing him at all. After the year my father remarried and gave me the news that he was moving to Arizona to live with his new wife and stepchildren and that he wasn’t going to see me anymore. That’s when my depression started and kept escalating from that point

For years, my sister and I would compete to be the better daughter and vie for the attention of our parents. Her being two years older always gave her an advantage and the ability to experience all of life’s challenges first. This made me mature at a rapid pace and separate from my peers. My first five years of life was a race, but the race was immediately halted after our parents’ divorce. I looked up to my sister greatly before the divorce but, this only intensified greatly after it.

Before telling me, he exhaled. I knew what my father had to say wasn’t going to be good, and before telling me he made me promise that I wouldn’t leave boot camp. After making the promise to him, he then told me that he and mom were getting a divorce and she was planning on moving back to Brazil with Tia. My heart dropped in disbelief. Tears ran down my face and I just wanted him to tell me why they decided to divorce? He reassured me how proud he was of me and told me that mom was so disappointed in me for joining the Army and that she didn’t want anything to do with it. My dad always took my side even in the worst of situations, and my mother blamed him too for my decision. Jessi walked by the door and saw me on the floor with tears running down my face, and knew that I didn’t want to be bothered. He came by the doorway, looked at me and continued walking. That’s when I found out that my mom already moved out of the house and into an apartment. Papa actually came to help my father get through the divorce.

I was always confused on why my dad listened to me when I said to get out of my life. I never thought he would just act like nothing ever happened between our family. He was always a loving man, but after this whole divorce, he had a totally different personality. I know this was hard on our whole family, but some people like me try to see the good in bad situations. Yes, I know divorces aren't the best, but not all of it is bad. You can see the lesson that this will teach you in the long run. You have to take it all in don't hold back on anything. Make sure you don't hold back from this learning opportunity. It may seem like it is all down hill from there, but at some point you get back up and try again. You can take these types of problems

OYou never truly realize how lucky you can be, or how thankful you should be until you go through such a rigorous situation, this is divorce. “Divorce is a time of change. It really rocks a foundation of most people’s lives. When we have our heartbroken or our dreams taken away from us, it is a time of growth and change” (Debbie Ford). Most people believe that they can not conquer change, I was once the girl in these shoes, before I realized not to be selfish and or take everything that is given to me for granted.

When I was 5 years old my Dad and my Mom got a divorce. It was at my house in Chattanooga, Georgia it was on september 9, 2009 was when they got divorced. Me, my brother and my sister where sad and then a couple months later my mom met a guy at walmart shopping for groceries. Next after my mom got back to our house she got out of her red mustang with a guy and which was my step dad. Later on that day my mom walked to my room and got me and my brother to go into the living room and sit on the couch and she explained what was going on and she told us that she was having a kid and that she was getting married.

Especially as an only child, my parent’s divorce was rough on me. Not having my father at my home was odd at the age of 13, but, the truly tiresome part was the weird dynamic that formed between my parents. The only thing they would ever agree to do was argue and they did so constantly. My parents despised each other and, to this day, still will not talk to one another. So, when my parent-teacher conferences arose, my parents were nearly forced to see each other in a setting that wasn’t a court room. They, however, quickly organized separate dates to speak to my teachers and my father came up with a startling announcement, he wanted to bring Peggy. My father’s girlfriend, she was like a parasite to my childhood. Upon her debut, she seemingly