In chapter ten, Oaklander discusses how she treats specific problem behaviors in children. Oaklander does not view a child’s annoying or socially unacceptable behavior as an illness, but rather as a strength in coping to survive. She advocates for children and acknowledges that childhood is like a prison where there is often a double standard of behavior for children and adults. The first problem Oaklander discusses is aggression which is often caused by hurtful feelings. When children show aggression they may be feeling anger without a way to express it. Society teaches children and adults to suppress anger rather than express it in an appropriate manner. Oaklander teaches children how anger feels, practical ways to express anger, and to …show more content…
Some techniques Oaklander uses include finger-painting, water play, and massage. Any tactile experience is helpful. If a child has a short attention span, Oaklander has the child focus and really experience one thing and then refocus on something else. Oaklander explains that children are often withdrawn because they are escaping a world which is too painful for them, and where it feels too dangerous to speak freely. Oaklander uses expressive techniques such as drawing pictures on paper, making a scene in the sand, and keeping a notebook of thoughts, feelings, and dreams. Children have many fears which should be acknowledged by adults. Fears are often the underlying cause of aggressive behavior, withdrawn behavior, and physical symptoms. Oaklander reads a book about fear to children then encourages them to tell a story about fear. Picture cards and drawing fears with lines, shapes, symbols, or colors also help children share their fears. Just like adults, children have stressful situations and traumatic experiences. This can include divorce, illness, death, and even minor things such as moving, an accident, an addition to the family, and even the death of a beloved pet. These situations can be openly discussed through drawing pictures, working with clay, and playing with figures in a …show more content…
Some children hang on, people please, and have insecurities. Oaklander helps them gain confidence through self-expression. She helps loners appreciate their uniqueness. She sees lots of children who are lonely. They often become isolated from others because when they share angry feeling, others don’t want to be around them. Oaklander allows children to express their anger in therapy. For children with autism, it can be helpful to cue into what they want to do, rather than have them fit into a structured plan. Children often have guilt when they are not comfortable expressing their angry feelings and turn them inwards. Once again learning to express angry feelings can help. Children who have low self-esteem need to receive specific praise, be listened to, treated with respect, and be allowed to express
Such toxic stress can have damaging effects on learning, behavior, and health across the lifespan. Learning how to cope with adversity is an important part of healthy child development. The most effective prevention is to reduce exposure of young children to extremely stressful conditions. Research also indicates that supportive, responsive relationships with caring adults as early in life as possible can prevent or reverse the damaging effects of toxic stress response (Center on Developing Child, nd). By establishing clear lines of communication between adults and children, and home and school, parents and teachers can help to shape children’s perceptions in informed ways. During times of trouble, when emotions run high, parents and teachers can help children develop the skills necessary to manage their feelings, to confront unpleasant or adverse realities, and to acquire greater emotional stability. In order to support children in better understanding their world, adults may have to help them come to terms with circumstances that are frightening, confusing, overwhelming, or possibly unrelated to their past experience. By providing a safe and supportive environment and a healthy acceptance of all that is good in life, a calm and ready-to-listen adult can facilitate children’s well being, and help to alleviate the fear, dismay or confusion they may feel. In doing so, it is important to honor and nurture children’s sensitivity. Although parents and teachers cannot shelter children from all adversity, they are well positioned to help children learn about the imbalances in the world, to better comprehend their impact, and to find thoughtful ways to strike a comfortable and meaningful balance of their own (Foster & Matthews,
Revised Thesis Statement: Incorporating therapeutic art-based interventions effectively develops coping skills, self expression, open communication, and begins the healing process for children who have experienced
There are two components for fear, they are biochemical response and emotional reaction. Even when we prepare ourselves for what is coming, there are still moments when we can hear our heart beating out of our chest, we start to sweat, and feel the adrenaline pumping through our bodies. Biochemical fear, which is an automatic response is likely to be an evolutionary trait. Say you hear the leaves crackling against the cool Fall pavement and the hiss of something unknown in the darkness. This image creates a fight or flight response within and we have to make a choice quickly to stay or to go. While biochemical responses to fear are universal, emotional reactions to fear more individualized and physical. Emotional fear has little place when discussing the Boogeyman because children do not go out looking for their monster in the night. Their fear is rational to them and leads to stress when they think they are dealing with this creature of the night. (MacDonald). Just read this child’s rhyme about the Boogeyman if you need to see the effects this fear
Richard Bromfield, PH.D, is a psychologist, he is also a faculty member at the Harvard Medical School, and he specializes in therapy with children and adolescents. He is a writer and wrote several best sellers about children, adolescents and psychotherapy. This book is one of Bromfield’s many award winning writings.
Play is the universal language of children and allows children to express their emotions and individual responses to stressful situations. Play allows children to recreate crucial events that they have experienced and provides the child with a sense of control over the outcome of their play. The presence of a non-directive adult observer during play provides a companion for the child to recall difficult experiences and memories. Medical play is a way for children to work through the process of stressful medical experiences, where children cope with stressful healthcare experiences and can achieve mastery by creating positive outcomes in play. It is vital to understand coping strategies of children, since these approaches may affect their future reactions to healthcare situations. Children who have a sibling with a chronic illness can experience vicarious medical distress and their lives can be impacted by their siblings’ chronic illness. The researchers’ aim of this study was to observe and compare the reactions to medical trauma through play of children with medical illnesses, siblings of children with medical illness, and children who were healthy and did not have family members who were ill.
● Give eye contact and actively listen. If you say that you are listening, but are looking away and are busy doing something else, this gives the child
Adapting your communication by using sign language or pictures, flashcards or slowing down your pace will also encourage a child and giving them
The feeling of aggression and rage is natural. We try our best to ignore it because we’ve been forced to think it’s inhumane. Children can’t be shielded from something that’s been implemented from birth. Jones a thriving comic book writer states “Children will feel rage. Even the sweetest and most civilized of them” (3). Rage comes from everyone; we are naturally given this emotion. I’ve seen this in my own life. My three younger cousins have what some might consider overly protective parents. Both the TV’s, and computers have child restriction programs. They aren’t allowed to play any violent video games, yet they constantly beat on each other for the most foolish reasons. Consequently, they’re
In addition, since children communicate through actions, visual images, playing, games, and many other creative activities it is important to
When children experience a traumatic event, not only does it affect their emotions but it can affect many areas of development if not all of them. Equally, health and learning difficulties can also have a less desirable effect on holistic development. By looking at how such factors can affect child development, we can work towards finding a suitable learning method and helping children overcome and recover from their experiences.
During our lifetime every one of us feels anger and aggression occasionally, some more than others, maybe as a child in the play ground or later as an adult when somebody cuts you up when you are driving along. But what causes anger and aggression and why do we all suffer from it? Well there are lots of different theories to what causes aggression and where aggressive behaviour comes from. So throughout this essay I will examine the different concepts and theories from different psychologist and develop and show an understanding of Aggression
The child incorporates this aggressive mindset into it's mannerisms and applies this aggressive behavior to other aspects of their life." If I'm aggressive, I can get my way."
When children are going through changes is their lives, it is essential that they receive support from the adults around them so that they are able to deal with the circumstances. Even if the children show resistance, the adults should remain positive and try and assist them.
I will be observing a seven-year-old child for my project. What I have learned from being a parent and watching my kids as they grow up the social emotional, physical and intellectual changes that occur in children between birth and the end of adolescence are that they all progress at individual intervals from dependency to increasing individualism. Because these developmental changes may be strongly influenced by genetic factors and events during prenatal life, genetics and prenatal development are usually included as part of the built in parenting skills we all possess. When children are born they have no sense of fear but quickly develop a fear of what
Many people have studied the effect of academic achievement and later career success. The focus of this paper will be on the work of Greg Duncan of Northwestern University and L Rowell Huesmann of the University of Michigan. These findings can help parents, teachers and behavioral scientists help disruptive students. The study shows that the way children act at a young age will reflect later in life and interfere with their ability to learn. I will also be using information found in five other sources throughout this paper. These sources include information on attachment issues in psychopathology and intervention, history