Meaningful Relationships

When you are in a relationship, arguments or disagreements can arise. They can often trigger strong emotions that lead to hurtful words and uneasiness. If these conflicts are not resolved in a healthy way, resentment and a dissolved relationship could follow. However, when they are resolved in a proper manner, it could promote growth between the couple and fortify the bonds of their relationship (Conflict Resolution Skills).

When a couple has been together for at least forty years, one may ask them, how have you put up with one person for so long, or what is your secret to marriage? Unfortunately, a secret may not even exist, but learning how to deal with everyday relationship conflicts, maybe the answer to a lasting marriage. “Gottman and Declaire, discovered that couples have conflict over the same issues sixty-nine percent of the time” (1997) (pg.214) Gottman quotes “We need to teach couples that they will never solve most of their problems, and that couples need to” establish a dialogue” about the problems.”(1997) (pg.214) Validating, volatile, and conflict avoiding, are three approaches couples use, when resolving conflict. Gottman studies show how managing conflict could lead to lasting marriages. Communication practices are also important when trying to resolve conflict. Gottman’s Four Horseman of the Apocalypse are “four communication practices that have very negative outcomes for the particular interaction and for the relationship.”(pg.225) Conflicts are going to occur in every relationship, but learning how to communicate with one another is essential.

There is no way to get anywhere when your focus is on winning, being right, being in control and not being controlled, or avoiding any other pain. As long as avoiding pain is more important to you than being loving to yourself and your partner, you will be closed and protected and the conflict cannot reach a mutually satisfying resolution.

In the article of “Why Most Marriages fail” the author states, Without proper communication, conflict resolution becomes a difficult issue. ”(McNicholl) When you don’t communicate with your significant other and there is tension or any type of conflict if you hold it back and don’t talk about it later on it will be more difficult to come to a solution on how to prevent it from happening again. In fact, the author also states, “If one or both partners lack effective communication skills it becomes difficult to Resolve arguments because the couple is not able to understand each other’s point of view”.(McNicholl) By not talking about the things that bother you to your significant other it’s hard for each you to see where your coming from. If your partner understands what exactly it is that bothering you then they know how to prevent themselves or fix it if it were to happen once again.

Bullshit! Relationships are about actions, showing how much you care for someone else, being honestly and loyal, showing trust even when your mind runs through scenarios that will never happen. That other person should feel your feelings through your actions, and not have reassurance through silly words (words make stories, actions make

1. It is inevitable that couples will argue throughout their relationship, it’s actually quite healthy. How the couple manages their differences however, can be what causes turmoil and breaks their bond. As an argument begins to arise, the partners can react in two different ways that will surely bring their relationship to its end if repeated; they can either escalate the argument or avoid it altogether.

When partners appreciate one another it helps the relationship grow and improve, when they continuously correct one another it slowly destroys it. If a partner is doing something that angers the other, they need to fix themselves and love their partner. Focusing on the positive of partners will build couples closer together instead of driving them apart.

someone feels left out. When building an effective relationship, it is important that you listen to what

Listening to your partner can save your marriage. If you and your partner have an agreement give each other time to cool down. It is important to fight constructively. There is no marriage free of conflict. Conflicts can and will arise from time to time it is to be expected. Conflict can stem from finances, children, and jobs. It is best not to point finger swat the other person. In your marriage you have to be

Having a strong relationship takes a lot of work and commitment sometimes. It's amazing to have a long lasting strong relationship and it's not so amazing when they start to fade. There are many qualities that can help keep strong relationships. Everyone love's having that strong relationship with those special people in their lives, and they still have strong relationship's because of the different qualities in their relationship with the people. Even if a strong relationship ends you'll always make new ones and you'll have learned from the previous one what to do and not to do. In this essay i'm going to list three qualities that has helped me keep strong relationships.

Clearly identifying their emotions and moving to look for a resolution to the conflict. Using the voice response approach would address the issue directly. It does not focus on anger and pointing fingers but rather looks to resolve the issue because it gives each party the opportunity to express their viewpoint. This approach like the loyalty response ensures the other person that you care about the relationship and are seeking to preserve it.

To effectively deal with arguing in a relationship, is to understand what effectively causes it in the first place. If you feel that arguing with your spouse or lover does not get you anywhere, then get the point across in a hand written letter instead. Here they will get your full attention and the exact point that you are trying to get across.

Handling conflict is a skill which can be learned. It requires practice, discipline and self-control. In the midst of conflict, most people forget the overall goal in addressing the conflict: Having your partner understand your feelings and resolving the disagreement. The more a couple can keep this goal in mind the less likely either will engage in criticism, yelling or name-calling. These behaviors only fuel the conflict (Managing Conflict in Your Relationship,

Miscommunication has been a problem when dealing with these differences such as relationships. Romantic relationships often end due to miscommunication between the man and woman (Renwall.2010). It’s not because either of the two didn’t have good intentions, it’s because they didn’t communicate well enough to

When I was taking the conflict resolution assessment I used my previous relationship as a guide for answering the questions. I came to the conclusion that due to my fear of conflict I was only creating more of a conflict for myself. Instead of making such an effort to avoid conflict within my relationship, I should’ve been more open and honest. With this relationship in particular, I never let my frustration and anger get to the surface. I kept it all bottled up inside and felt that the things I was getting upset over were silly and not worth fighting over. By not letting it be known that certain things were bothering me, my partner’s behavior stayed the same. Eventually, it caused us to grow distant and the relationship failed. I believe that if I had known then the proper way to resolve a conflict and communicate my feelings the relationship would’ve been healthier.