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Mary Ainsworth Attachment Theory

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The first years are an important stage in an child’s life. They are learning an abundance of information about themselves and the people and world around them. During this time when there is a great amount of development taking place, one of the major components is establishing some sort of attachment with their primary caregivers. There are two different perspectives on the attachment to consider. Those of John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth, who emphasized the importance of infants creating relationships to have a healthy up bringing for later adulthood. Matos, Pinto-Gouveia, and Costa (2013) agree that, “early relationships are crucial to human brain maturation, well-being, affect regulation and self-other schema” (p.149). On the other hand, …show more content…

Bigelow and Morris (2001) believe that if love were expressed either redundantly or repeatedly to a child, it would lead to over coddling. Evidently, leading them to want to be over coddled as adults, develop these expectations on their partners and interfering with the relationship. This is true if the child is overly loved and overprotected, but not shown a rational amount of love and affection. In fact, Bowlby (1969) notes that attachment theorists argue that the relationship between the child and caregiver will impact the ideas the child creates of self and others, which will then affect the thoughts and expectations they will have in relationships. For example, if a young girl is never shown love or affection and forms unhealthy abusive relationships as an adult, many factors are influential. But in this case, it can be linked to the idea of not being worth loving. Meanwhile, if a child is expressed love and affection they will expect the same when forming future …show more content…

However, those who support the attachment theory believe children should be nurtured and cared for, for them to function as mentally healthy adults. Certainly, Watson was concerned with teaching parents how to produce a child “who finally enters manhood so bulwarked with stable work and emotional habits that no adversity can quite overwhelm him” (Watson & Watson, 1928, p.10). As mentioned before, Watson’s views on raising children was not the most ideal. Children would not learn how to properly cope with life’s challenges because they were ultimately left to learn on their own, and no one can learn without being taught or influenced. In fact, Dickerson and Kemeny (2004) refer to any form of neglect, rejection, criticism, and/or harsh parenting styles, are related to “threat systems”, where the child may not have feelings of safety or security to help their well-being. For example, a child who is constantly being criticized for spelling incorrectly can develop constant doubt in themselves as to when they do or don’t spell a word correctly. The child can feel shameful for their actions if it is projected towards other things they do as

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