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Mark Knapp's Relationship Model: Description and Case Study

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Knapp’s relationship model elaborates on how relationships grow and last and also how they come to an end. The model is ten different stages which come under two interrogating sections. Knapp’s relationship model serves the purpose to understand how a relationship comes together and grows apart. Stages can vary in the time a couple takes to complete it, as well as the relationship can end at any stage. Stages can be skipped and repeated, and is dependent on the couple themselves. The creator of the model, Mark Knapp is a well-known professor at the University of Texas and is renowned for his nonverbal communication research. He developed this model to analysis the phases and development of a relationship between two people.
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The section embodies differentiating, circumscribing, stagnating, avoidance, and terminating. The coming apart division of the model is to illustrate the stages a relationship tends to go through before ending. The first stage is differentiating, where the couple starts to think more individually rather than as a couple. The thought is more “I” than “We” at this stage which leads to the relationship to start to deteriorate and the couple starts to split in activities and other endeavors. Secondly. circumscribing, following differentiating, the partners will start to limit their conversation and communication becomes strained. Next is Stagnation, where the couple is not fighting to avoid conversation and communication lacks extremely. Stagnation is often seen as “the point of no return”, where the couple’s relationship has declined to a point where improvement is very strenuous. After stagnation is avoidance. The avoidance stage involves the couple intentionally avoiding all interactions and contact, the couple is often physically detached from each other. All communication is forced and unwanted at this stage. Lastly is terminating, this is the final stage of the relationship model as it is where the relationship is completely terminated. In example, if the couple is married, one will ask the other for a divorce, and they will both take different paths and will continue …show more content…

Jackie is a 15-year old sophomore while Chris is a 16- year old junior. When asked what stage do they think they are at, they both agreed to intensifying. They say it took them close to 5 months to reach this stage and that they have been there for 5 months. Two months to complete the initiating stage and three months for the experimenting stage, Jackie explained. When asked to personally define each stage Jackie said, “Initiating to me is when you both realize you have something going on, experimenting is when you start to find out more stuff about each other, what you like, your differences, and intensifying is more like getting more into the relationship like getting closer to each other more deeply.” When Chris was asked he explained, “Initiating is to start dating, experimenting is to see what we like, and intensifying is doing more serious stuff together, like meeting family.” Jackie believes that at the stagnating stage, the relationship cannot be saved while Chris believes the relationship cannot be saved at the avoiding stage. They both agree that the relationship becomes serious at the intensifying stage as well as that relational maintenance, the division between coming together and apart, is where communication begins to lack. While Jackie believes that a stage can be repeated or skipped, Chris is adamant that a stage can only be repeated but not skipped. However, they both

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