Knapp’s relationship model elaborates on how relationships grow and last and also how they come to an end. The model is ten different stages which come under two interrogating sections. Knapp’s relationship model serves the purpose to understand how a relationship comes together and grows apart. Stages can vary in the time a couple takes to complete it, as well as the relationship can end at any stage. Stages can be skipped and repeated, and is dependent on the couple themselves. The creator of the model, Mark Knapp is a well-known professor at the University of Texas and is renowned for his nonverbal communication research. He developed this model to analysis the phases and development of a relationship between two people.
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The section embodies differentiating, circumscribing, stagnating, avoidance, and terminating. The coming apart division of the model is to illustrate the stages a relationship tends to go through before ending. The first stage is differentiating, where the couple starts to think more individually rather than as a couple. The thought is more “I” than “We” at this stage which leads to the relationship to start to deteriorate and the couple starts to split in activities and other endeavors. Secondly. circumscribing, following differentiating, the partners will start to limit their conversation and communication becomes strained. Next is Stagnation, where the couple is not fighting to avoid conversation and communication lacks extremely. Stagnation is often seen as “the point of no return”, where the couple’s relationship has declined to a point where improvement is very strenuous. After stagnation is avoidance. The avoidance stage involves the couple intentionally avoiding all interactions and contact, the couple is often physically detached from each other. All communication is forced and unwanted at this stage. Lastly is terminating, this is the final stage of the relationship model as it is where the relationship is completely terminated. In example, if the couple is married, one will ask the other for a divorce, and they will both take different paths and will continue …show more content…
Jackie is a 15-year old sophomore while Chris is a 16- year old junior. When asked what stage do they think they are at, they both agreed to intensifying. They say it took them close to 5 months to reach this stage and that they have been there for 5 months. Two months to complete the initiating stage and three months for the experimenting stage, Jackie explained. When asked to personally define each stage Jackie said, “Initiating to me is when you both realize you have something going on, experimenting is when you start to find out more stuff about each other, what you like, your differences, and intensifying is more like getting more into the relationship like getting closer to each other more deeply.” When Chris was asked he explained, “Initiating is to start dating, experimenting is to see what we like, and intensifying is doing more serious stuff together, like meeting family.” Jackie believes that at the stagnating stage, the relationship cannot be saved while Chris believes the relationship cannot be saved at the avoiding stage. They both agree that the relationship becomes serious at the intensifying stage as well as that relational maintenance, the division between coming together and apart, is where communication begins to lack. While Jackie believes that a stage can be repeated or skipped, Chris is adamant that a stage can only be repeated but not skipped. However, they both
and Sally demonstrate what couples go through in the phases of coming together and pulling
Although many books have been written about communication and connection in relationships, there has been a book that addresses precisely this wonderful process as has James C. Petersen in his book: Why Don’t We Listen Better? And it is precisely the way in which the parts he divided the book that takes the reader to a better understanding of what the personal relationships connections through communications are concerned.
Almost every relationship begins and ends following Knapp’s model of interaction stages whether people know of it or not. The 5 stages described in this model are noticeable in most every romantic movie. The movie Safe Haven is a perfect example of coming together as it clearly displays Initiating, Experimenting, Intensifying, Integrating and Bonding throughout the movie.
Kerchoff and Davis used their model to do a study on students who had been together for more than or less than 18 months. They were asked to complete questionnaires over 7 months on attitudes and personality of their partners compared to theirs; it was found that this was important in relationships up
The first stages are contact where individuals exchange basic information and decide if the relationship is worth pursuing. In the movie the audience can see this stage when Gary starts conversation with Brooke in the game of baseball. He offers to Brooke a hot dog, but she does not accept it. Gary insists offering the bread and she does not interest in Gary. After the game, Gary invites her to a bar, but Brooke refuses one more time to him. Gary insists saying that maybe a conversation can change their lives, and then Brooke accepts the invitation. At this moment, the audience can appreciate the second stage of relationships: involvement. They will spend more time together allowing an intensification of the relationship, knowing, and learning of each other. The third stage is intimacy. It is when two people accept each other and confirm their roles. The interpersonal commitment is demonstrated in the movie when several Gary and Brooke’s pictures are played showing them kissing and holding their hands. In addition, they show their social bonding which is more in public when the Brooke’s family comes to eat at home. The principal characters show to others that they are a partner and the family can see that. The next stage
According to Knapp’s model of Relational Development, he described the stages in which a relationship goes within the make up and break up steps of coming together and coming apart. This blog will discuss each stage with examples.
Effective communication is one of the most important things to maintain a happy relationship. Communication will help to create a better atmosphere and to know what are the interests, thoughts and feelings of your loved one. All romantic relationships need a lot of communications from both sides. The main factor is interpersonal communication, which couples are able to overlap environments and create a relationship. We reviewed the movie “The Breakup” and have found the concepts of Integrating, differentiating, and terminating. This movie shows how ineffective communication can dissolve a relationship. The lack of communication is the main factor why Brooke and Gary break up. This couple tends to rely on other people instead
Division is prone to occur in a marriage situation in case of a divorce. For the married partners to embrace endured togetherness and unity in their marriage, they must appreciate common interests of concerns in their practices. In case one of the partners dissent from the unity and togetherness set up, the marriage is susceptible to division brought about by breaking of the legal bonds that hold the marriage partnership in unison. Continued lack of an amicable compromised solution between the two conflicting partners will thus lead to separation. Continued separation will see the two partners seek a divorce in a court of law and the marriage will fail completely. Most marriages nowadays are failing as a result of continued disagreements of interests between the married couple. As per words of Lincoln that a divide house cannot stand, thus the divided marriage partnership cannot even endure survival thus it breaks up.
Epstude, Kai, and Forster is in scholarly article. The main points in the article is interpreting romantic situations. These authors are informing people about the different type of behaviors that consist in their studies. When couples are dating it is definite that it will lead to true love or will it lead to another episode of an old fashioned one night stand. This source is useful because it supports the specific points in my topic. This article give me details in the body language that helps identify the different types of love.
“Men and women can't be friends, because sex always gets in the way”, is the main theme of the movie “When Harry met Sally”. The script is a good example of the interpersonal communication ten stage model by Mark Knapp. This developmental model entails the stages of a relationship from it’s infancy to an ending. In the movie we can clearly identify all ten stages of this model.
It is often said that all good things come to an end. Relationships come and go, and some mean more than others. In fact, there was even a relationship model developed by a communication researcher by the name of Mark Knapp. In his model, he goes through what seems to be presented as a smooth step transition from each stage in which a relationship eventually evolves into. As I studied this up then down ladder model, I began to realize that I ought to build up some strong calf muscles, because my relationship sure has climbed up and down a few flights of stairs. Mark Knapp believes that relationships go through multiple stages, the uphill stages being initiation, experimenting, intensifying, integrating, bonding, then relational maintenance. On the flip side, Knapp believes the descending stages to be differentiating, circumscribing, avoiding, and eventually, termination.
After this first point of contact, the couple enters the next interpersonal stage of 'involvement,' as they get to know one another. Despite their differences, they become convinced that they have a future together and view their differences as potential positives rather than negatives. The couple moves in together and begins to establish greater intimacy. Unfortunately, it is at this juncture that the relationship begins to fall apart, as they try to establish a more private form of 'intimacy,' even though they are publically a couple.
The second half of the relational model is called the “coming apart” stages, which consists of: differentiating, circumscribing, stagnating, avoiding, and lastly terminating. During the differentiating stage the relationship will start to be more individual, it will start to fade and the bond will be broken. After that comes the circumscribing stage during which the individuals won’t communicate because of the fear of starting an argument. The stage where relationships never improve or continue is called stagnating. After this point the individuals enter the avoiding stage, where the avoid any physical contact
Fairy tales tell us that once upon a time a girl met a boy; they fell in love, and lived happily ever after. Reality is not that simple. Long-term relationships force couples to get to know each other, involve themselves in each others’ worlds, fight through the hard times, and eventually develop deeper connections as noted through distinctive stages of Knapp’s relationship model. Although I have dated the same person for over two years, our communication through relationship stages makes it seem as though I am now dating a different person than the one I met years ago. Following dissolution and subsequent repair, I realize the most exhilarating of roller coaster rides develop through sets of ups and downs, much like the
The fairy tales say that once upon a time a girl met a boy; they fell in love, and lived happily ever after. Reality is not that simple. Long-term relationships force couples to get to know each other, involve themselves in each others’ worlds, fight through the hard times, and eventually develop deeper connections through distinctive stages of Knapp’s relationship model. Although I have dated the same person for over two years, the stages of our communication make it seem as though I am now dating a different person following dissolution and subsequent repair. However, even the most exhilarating of roller coaster rides develop through a combination of ups and downs, much like the stages of a relationship.