Living Alone Is The New Norm Summary

Being surrounded by people does not take away the loneliness. Despite a room full of people i still feel alone. Of all the things we were told we would experience, loneliness is not a feeling

John T. Cacioppo & Louise C. Hawkley (nd) made a study on Loneliness and observed that sociodemographic factors, social roles, social contact quantity and quality, health, and dispositions contribute to individual differences in feelings of loneliness. It is also indicated that structural factors such as age, gender, race/ethnicity, education, and income constrain opportunities for integration into meaningful groups and social roles, and these factors contribute to individual differences in loneliness. According to the authors, prevalence and intensity of lonely feelings are greater in adolescence and young adulthood (i.e., 16-25 years of age) than in any other age group except the oldest old (i.e., >80 years)

This year I watch Lars and the Real Girl directed by Craig Gillespie which is about a guy who gets very lonely and has to buy a rubber doll from the internet because … When I saw this I asked what is loneliness. For me loneliness is being away from home, family , friends and living in another country. I’m interested in loneliness because I wonder why do we get so lonely when there are many people around us sp I have come up with 2 questions. My questions are why do people get lonely and who is the most at risk and what are some solution to helping people those who are lonely. The focus of this research will be on young adult age between 15 to 29 as loneliness has a lot to do with my age group and I think we have to know hot to deal with it. I use different kinds of resources such as written, oral and visual. My resources are Sunday TV program called Advice for parents, TED Talks from Guy Winch : Why do we need to practice our emotional first aids, Loneliness Generation article from women-weekly.co.nz, stat.govt.nz (Statistic of New Zealand), mentalhealth.org, webofloneliness.com, mind.org, metro.co.uk and understood.org which are very useful and reliable.

According to Albert Schweitzer, “We are all so much together, but we are all dying of loneliness”. Loneliness is considered one of the hardest things even though one is rich. Society is a little bit damaged since materialism is controlling the world. In Maya Angelous’s poem, she implies that being alone is hard and that mankind should work together in order to survive. Living as a lone wolf cannot be beneficial because without love and friendship there will be no future; life would be pointless then. No money or fame can lead to greatness, uniting is the only way to greatness. In addition, friendship and closeness is needed in order to survive in this rough and cruel world. Loneliness is very difficult to handle even for the rich, and nobody can make it out there alone; in addition, society is corrupted by the misconception of happiness, and that is what Maya Angelou implies in her poem, “Alone”.

Also, the fact of living alone doesn’t mean a person is lonely or isolated from the

Farkhanda Wajibul English 102 Prof. S. Dillion Character Analysis Paper 3 3 May 2015 “Creating Character” At one time or another, most human beings will experience loneliness. According to an academic journal, “Loneliness is approached as a discrete, subjective construct associated with the objective social situation but not synonymous with the actual circumstances. Thus, people can feel lonely in the company of many others or be alone without feeling lonely.

The first two chapters shed a light on the two facts of humanity, one being that we can all be lonely, and the second one, we all need genuine belonging. The writer takes great insights on living, acceptance, and forgiveness. Jean Vanier's book about what it means to be human is full of wisdom

We don’t have to resign ourselves to the fate of solitude. It is possible to put ourselves out there, like Oskar, and meet people. The more people that we know, the more connected we feel with the world around us, the more our loneliness dissipates. Grandma and Grandpa teach another lesson about being alone -- it’s often self-imposed. Because of past trauma or the idea that every relationship must be perfect, we often push people away. Sometimes, however, we have to accept that there are people who are destined to be in our lives and it’s better to face life with others than on our own. Being alone is part of life, but that doesn’t mean we can’t do it

Where social loneliness is where someone believes they do not have good friends and family loneliness is when one does not have a strong bond with family. Then once as Americans people glorified being the extraordinary one who did not go along with society norms, but now that technology comes along in our culture, it switches gears and make people want to try to be happy which often leads to

Research provides empirical support for many of these postulated emotional correlates: for example, Sermat (1980) as well as Loucks (1974) reported data linking loneliness with hostility. In a study done at UCLA, Russell et at., (1978) found lonely students were apt to feel "angry", "self- enclosed", "empty", and "awkward". These students also described them- selves as tense, restless and anxious. Similar results were obtained among a sample of senior citizens studied by Perlman, Gerson and Spinner (1978). Another consistent finding has been that lonely individuals have a basically negative outlook: for instance, lonely respondents report being less happy, less satisfied, and more pessimistic (Russell et al., 1978; Perlman et al., 1978). When

Vanier describes loneliness as the taste of death. To me, loneliness has a flavor of inner dissatisfaction, restlessness of heart and most of all, absence of love. Thankfully all my experiences of loneliness were short lived, but from my limited exposure, I understand it to be a state where one experiences emotions at the deepest level for one is not clouded by the pretense of society. This inner isolation is a two edged sword that has lead me both to creativity as well as perpetual inner torments. The suffering is derived from a certain guilt, a feeling of “I am not worthy of existing”. It is with these tinted glasses that a lonely person views the world; where they reject a helping hand, and are governed only by inner pains. Having overcome

Today, people are living longer and with more comorbidities. With the advancement in health care more elderly are living independently. Bowling & Gabriel research (as cited in Cattan, Kime & Bagnall, 2011) has shown that there is a strong and positive association between quality of life and social participation (p. 198). One’s ability to interact with the world allows you to feel like you are apart of the world, but when you lose that connection with the world you no longer feel apart of the world. Feeling like you are no longer apart of the world leads to social isolation, loneliness, depression, low self-esteem and low self-efficacy (Cattan et al., 2011).

As mentioned above, loneliness can branch off while being in a long distance relationship. Loneliness is feelings of sadness from missing companionship from a person or people one shared feelings with (Fees, Martin & Poon, 1999). This can be felt even when surrounded by others because it is a personal feeling and there is a lack of communication and attachment (Fees et.al, 1999). The journals of gerontology series B: psychological sciences and social science addresses a journal article called A Model of Loneliness in Older Adults. The older generation faces loss of a committed relationship and communication which results in a decline in health and personal activities and waves of sadness (Fees et.al, 1999). It was found that 40% of the elderly population experience some form of loneliness (Fees et.al, 1999). The elderly population, aged 65 and older gets anxiety from missing people or activities. The frequency of contact and number of family members was not a

On March 9, 2017, The Boston Globe published an article written by Billy Baker titled, “The biggest threat facing middle-age men isn’t smoking or obesity. It’s loneliness.” It was a remarkable article filled will startling facts about the adverse effects loneliness has on a lifespan.

Loneliness and isolation have some commonalities so some people misunderstood their meanings and interchanged the term ‘isolation’ with ‘loneliness’. However, they are not synonymous. Social isolation is an objective state. This term refers to people having infrequent social interaction, living solo and can be measured through how many contacts a person have (Cutler 2012, p.7). It can not sure that social isolation makes people have the feelings of loneliness. Loneliness is likely to be experienced by those who are not socially isolated but isolation can become one of the factors leading to loneliness.