John Rossi, a white heterosexual Protestant middle class male, is member of the small percent of Americans described as fully privileged by the matrix of domination. Living with separated parents and a younger brother, he attends Cabrillo College full time and works as a middle school boy’s basketball assistant coach. When interviewing him at his home on West Cliff Beach, we spoke primarily of his gender and masculinity in terms of shaping his identity. However, he spoke greatly on his racial identity.
John identifies as a man, pointing out his appearance as a give away. Standing six foot - five inches with a full grown beard, he has always been identified as a man, particularly an older one. He recalls at fifteen, being invited to a bar with
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He describes that when he first began growing out his beard in high school, it added an extra dimension to his appearance, reinforcing his dominance. But once his beard was fully grown, it became an attribute that established confidence. John states that his primary reason for growing beard was to see if he could, but he admits that he’s kept his beard due to the compliments he’s received for looking similar to Fifty Shades of Grey actor, Jamie Dornan. He describes this comparison as making him feel “cool” and giving him a “confidence boost” because “what guy wouldn’t want to be told he looks like that good looking dude on TV”. The idea that we judge and compare ourselves to others is known as the social comparison theory. This theory is described in Melissa Milkie’s article Media Images’ Influence on Adolescent 6irls' Self-Concepts. Though this article describes media as a socializing agent for girls, it also applies to John. He has maintained a certain look to attract women, based on the magazines and movies they …show more content…
However, almost half way through our discussion he disclosed his feminine activities and interests that he participates in. These activities and interests include yoga, meditation, watching romance movies, and owning a poodle. He describes his interest in these activities as rooted by his mother. He describes that his first time doing yoga was with mother after a minor basketball injury and since then he has regularly accompanied her to yoga. John has also watched romantic “chick flicks” with his mother since he was younger, in order to spend more time with her. However, these interests were never spoken of when John’s father was present. John’s dad denied his sons from participating in feminine activities, instead forcing sports into their lives as John admits. He explains, “I played baseball, soccer, football, basketball, track and field. I played everything that was offered and did this for years until eighth grade, when I just focused on basketball.” Though he has an interest in basketball, he ended his career senior year of high school, upsetting his father. According to Emily W. Kane in No Way Boys Are Going to be Like That, fathers generally reject their sons from exploring their femininity as opposed to mothers. This is true for John’s situation. Instead of encouraging his sons to proceed their interests, John’s father obliviously chooses to enforce R.W.
In James W. Johnson “The Autobiography of an Ex- colored man” he recounts the story of a nameless young boy who lives a more comfortable, aristocratic life than most African Americans at this time. While cultivating his interest in music and art throughout the years, suddenly he has an identity crisis and comes to terms that he’s not viewed the same by society as white. He has a self-revelation that he’s different. He shares the skin tone of white people but he doesn’t share a strong cultural connection to other African Americans. This since of loneliness thus causes him to delve into this studies and flourish into a well-rounded young man. The Narrator of this story, is at first a tad bit mysterious.” I am divulging the great secret of my life, the secret for which for some years.
She articulates this idea that we want to have an identity and feel safe around those of the ‘same’. Lastly, Tatum makes a point that racial identity can persist into Adulthood, it is not only in schools but also in the corporate world. Part III Understanding Whiteness in a White Context: This section discusses the development of white identity and how many white people neglect to really think about their identity. Thinking about race may make many people uncomfortable but having those difficult conversations and acknowledging privilege and oppression is the action that needs to be taken. Tatum suggests affirmative action. Part IV: Beyond Black and White: Disuses important issues of other racial minorities including, Latino, American Indian, and Asian Pacific American. Tatum also discusses identity development in multiracial families, this can be a complex identity development with many factors coming into play, however, parental encouragement of biracial identity has been seen as highly beneficial. Part V Breaking the Silence: This final section offers suggestion on embracing a cross-racial dialogue. We can no longer can be silent and must work toward social change and a more equitable world for all.
“The Danger of a Dominant Identity,” discusses what one columnist believes to be one of the largest problems facing America today. David Brooks, a columnist for the New York Times, argues that reducing people to nothing more than a label with a singular identity is one of the largest problems America faces. Through the appropriate use of rhetorical appeals, David Brooks writes an effective article by informing and firmly convincing the reader of the danger in viewing others as one-sided.
Craig’s worries about his son’s actions being more feminine as a result of playing with feminine toys is not uncommon. Many parents may become worried if they start seeing their child being more interested in playing with toys designed for the opposite gender. A hypothesis can be drawn up by stating that if boys with typically female toys, then there would be an increase of femininity traits of passiveness.
Identity communicates a strong characteristic that cannot naturally be expressed in terms of a social category. Social and personal identity enable the formation of an individual, reflecting the idea that social categories are assured with the bases of an individual’s self esteem. “Race and racial identity are identifiable as a social constriction culture” (Little and McGivern, 328). However, issuing social categories based on race or ethnicity links to biased regulations and practices. Johnson’s novel, The Autobiography of an Ex-Colored Man, examines ways racial identity is socially constructed through the segregation of Jim Crow Laws, the act of "passing off” another race, and through practices of lynching. The Autobiography of an Ex Colored Man explores the way racial identity is socially constructed within legally sanctioned forms of racism and discrimination.
Five years and three days ago, in a little town call Tollasend were the sky is painted all color and never rest, Jazmine, Nathan, Grace, and myself were bowling on 13th Street. We only had a month left of summer before we had to go back to school. As Jazmine throw her last gutter of the game she came and sat with the rest of us to join the rest of the conversation. After a long egotistic talk about who is the best and smartest we get on the topic of what it means to be African-American. This was a very confusing topic for us because we were surround by white people and we have adopted their culture. An odd silent fell among us for a minute. Then, Grace spoke hoping that the odd silent well end. “Well, being black is like living in a cardboard box,” Grace explained. To this day I don’t know what she meant but, being black to me… well I really don’t know what it means to be black. After the we finished our conversation we walked how our speared ways:
Men are often seen as being associated with physical and brute force, being into sports, and not much of reading or other creative outlets that other boys may have. What makes a man, according to Paul Theroux, being a man is essentially being mindless. Theroux believes that boys were raised from a young age to act like savages to be seen as a man: “...while boys are enjoined to behave like
Nevertheless, I learned a massive amount of critical information in this class. Beforehand, I was slightly acquainted with problems pertaining to being Black and on being a Woman. Yet, I never thought about how the two can be interrelated. As odd as it may sound, since I am Black and a Woman I never realized the intertwined confliction based on those two social identities. Kimberle Crenshaw’s video on Intersectionality introduced me to a new
supposed to swoon over girls? Hadn’t I seen babbling, heartsick men in a dozen movies?” (21). He wasn’t interested in the girl he just was fascinated by her and wanted to be like her in every way. That is when his parents decided it was time to send him off to gymnastics class. In this part of the story it’s almost as if his secret is out because his parents discover his different moods in sexual identity and they try to lessen these by sending him to this more “manly” gymnastics class. His father was very into sports and was hoping for a son that would take part in sports as well. The more his father reminisced on sports the more the boy thought that he was nothing but a disappointment to his father. Cooper proceeds to explain his fixation
Understanding the concept of racial identity and flexibility is imperative in order to see the gray areas of life that help avoid the hardships that humans like McBride encountered. But sometimes different minorities and white Americans tend to believe that by clinging on to the dominant race one may move ahead. Not only does this promote racial supremacy, but clinging on to the idea of a dominant race also promotes anti-miscegenation. Racial supremacy is the belief that race is responsible for the differences in human character and that a specific race is superior to others. This belief alone is bad, however, paired with anti-miscegenation which is a law from McBride’s time period that prohibits interracial relations or marriage, it has a synergistic effect which can be seen throughout his experiences growing up as a black Jewish boy with a white mother. In the 1960s it was bad enough being an African-American because of the amount of judgment that was received for one’s skin tone, but even worse because of those who believed in white supremacy. Naturally, McBride has many questions for his mother in regards to his identity and who he belongs to or should classify himself with. This, in turn, causes a gap between McBride and his mother. A clear example can be seen when McBride
Each and every person on this Earth today has an identity. Over the years, each individual creates their identity through past experiences, family, race, and many other factors. Race, which continues to cause problems in today’s world, places individuals into certain categories. Based on their race, people are designated to be part of a larger, or group identity instead of being viewed as a person with a unique identity. Throughout Richard Wright’s Black Boy, Richard is on a search for his true identity. Throughout Black Boy, one can see that Richard’s racial background assigns him with a certain identity or a certain way in which some
As a young female, born in Jamaica, W.I with dark skin, transitioning to America was a challenge, especially because I spoke a broken form of English known as Patois. I am also an able bodied, working class, heterosexual woman who is a Christian from the Church of God 7th Day sect. These factors which are critical to my identity, plays an important role on how am I perceived in society on a personal, cultural and structural level. The characteristics described above can also have an effect on my position within the society, which can lead to either an abundance or a lack of access to resources. They have affected my access to resources within society on a personal, cultural and cultural level.
black man fights against, constantly trying to identify himself. At the same time, black men have found approaches to detach from this narrow minded image that society has created for them including; sports, education and family. The black male struggles to gain his own identity because there is already a firm image created for them that the white man visualizes the black male and the expectations of the black male. However, it isn’t just the society that plays a role in the development of the black males identity, there is also the consideration of how black males are brought up or raised in their current lifestyle situations. For example, athletes,
In exploring the problem of identity in Black literature we find no simple or definite explanation. Nevertheless, it is generally accepted that it is rooted in the reality of the discriminatory social system in America with its historic origins in the institution of slavery. One can discern that this slavery system imposes a double burden on the Negro through severe social and economic inequalities and through the heavy psychological consequences suffered by the Negro who is forced to play an inferior role, 1 the latter relates to the low self-estimate, feeling of helplessness and basic identity conflict. Thus, in some form or the other, every Negro American is confronted with the
In the story “Desi Hoop Dreams” a character named Mustafa expresses relational and intersectional dimensions. The story compares and contrasts identities of different cultures within the Atlanta basketball society. Race, class, gender, and ethnicity are all demonstrated through different ways in the eyes of Mustafa. Mustafa’s ideas about himself and others give examples of what South Asian American life is like in the United States. We see the relational and intersectional identities in the story when Mustafa is playing basketball, going to clubs, and eating at Waffle House with his friends.