The attempt to do an intervention with Katie is fraught with ups and downs. Sharon, in the pre-intervention meeting is raked across the coals by the interventionist for projecting her own issues onto Katie. Katie’s susceptibility and learned behavior can be traced back to her mother, and too, the abandonment of her children-a poignant fact that Sharon and Katie are both aware of. Perhaps Katie is able to see through her mother’s attempt to make herself feel better, rather than deal with Katie’s situation, perhaps Katie just is beyond other’s opinions of her choices carrying any importance to her.
Believing that she is taking part in a documentary about users, she is at times okay with the cameras, and at others is cursing at them and telling them to go away and get out of her house. Prior to the intervention she disappears for three days while the producers scramble to find her, and the family tries to figure out if they will even be able to offer the intervention, or if it is simply too late for her to be saved.
There did seem to me, to be an air of giving up, as far as the family was concerned. Perhaps years of Katie’s antics, or shame from years of not acting themselves, have hardened most of the family towards this situation. It was bizarre to watch, often seeming to me as the rhetoric and feelings
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She reluctantly agrees to go to the hotel for this meeting they propose, likely aware of what is actually transpiring. At the hotel Katie listens to the family members while seemingly unaffected, staring off into space and presenting an indifferent air to them all, including her son Brian. To the viewer, it seemed as though she was more embarrassed than remorseful. She agrees to treatment (probably to escape the situation in the hotel room) and upon return to her house escapes out the back door, refusing to
On the eve of Katie's wedding, she brings up the dress again. She is calmly told that she was adopted and is not of Amish blood. Katie seems to be okay until the next day, at her
The family entered into therapy by believing that Claudia was their entire problem and that her actions alone were the root of their problem. As noted before, she was just the perceived problem. And in order for the parents to see that Claudia was only the perceived problem the therapists reversed the blame that the parents had projected on to their daughter. I believe this technique was most striking. Through the art of helping the family to view their situation differently, the therapists initiated change allowing the family to step outside their norm and see that their failure in marriage was affecting their parenting abilities. The therapists then gave Claudia meaning in reducing her feeling of failure and at the same time proposed the more serious problem that the parents had slowly began drifting away from each other.
She also talks about how she meant to be unimportant to the families so that she can to be treated as guest. Eventually when the author and her team get used to within the families they were studying, they have literally got the real life scenarios and
Ben and Katie use benevolent lies to avoid tension or conflict with their children so they wouldn’t know that they weren’t really together and how bad the relationship really was
Her story is the only story in the novel from a child’s point of view. She continuously conveys throughout the novel the psychological and emotional stress resulting from her past experiences. A similar story to Sharon is any story from the children in Syria. In LA Times, Syria’s Ravaged Children, it is explained how children suffer each and every day. Ultimately, Susan lost her childhood due to her traumatic experiences. Sadly, this is true for the children of Syria. Many of them cannot go outside and play, or go to school due to the dangerous circumstances in the country. In the article, Williams’ states, “once the war is over, the world will be confronted with a generation of children who lost their childhood” (2013). Unfortunately, this is all too common in countries of war. Not many people think about the effect wars have on children; however, it is something that the world should start
A couple of year goes and Robert and Ana noticed that it was something different with Katie, she could go around and be shaking, just like that time they found her in the bedroom. Everyone had told them that it was just a nightmare but
Lori and Jeannette are left to find their mother a teaching job, and wake her up, get her out of bed, and force her to go to school; all things that a parent usually does for a child. As soon as her teaching job does not work out, Rose Mary blames her children for forcing her to get a job while they don’t work at all. This is a prime example of instrumental parentification, because Rose Mary expects her young children to contribute income to the family although it is her responsibility as her children’s caretaker to do so herself. Similar to Rose Mary, many parents in today’s society place unrealistic amounts of adult responsibility on their young children, which can lead to harmful consequences later in life. Parentified children begin to experience an
She wanted to be a role model for her children and at the same time, she wanted to become friend with them. Helen valued education, and she wanted Julie to go to college and have a successful life. However, after she found out that Julie had secretly being together with Tod, the poor, unambitious man. She was disappointed, betrayed, sad. Julie moved out of Helen’s home. Later, when Helen found out that Julie and her husband Tod had nowhere to live, she let them move in with her. She is a permissive parent, yet, she cares about her children, provides them as much support as she can. Helen stayed calm when Gary told her he wanted to live with his dad for a while. I can see her heart was bleeding when she heard her son’s words. She gave Gary his father’s phone number anyway, and Gary talked to his dad over the phone and figured out the cruel fact that his dad didn’t care for them anymore. Helen wanted to comfort Gary but he refused to talk. I felt Helen’s guilt and desperation at that moment. After she broke into Gary’s room and found out that Gary was carrying the bag that contains pornography, she immediately asked Tod’s help to talk to Gary. She had a chance to talk to Tod and had learned that Tod came from a broken family. She had a better idea of who Tod was and his help to Gary gained Helen’s respect. Helen supported Tod and helped her daughter Julie overcame the tough situation in marriage. Helen
In order to ensure positive conflict resolution in the future, Katie and Ben must first learn to trade their defensiveness for healthy and effective listening and communication styles. They must learn to accept responsibility for their feelings and emotions and express them verbally to one another instead of sweeping the problem “under a rug.” They must learn to be open and candid with one another with the assurance that the other will be attentive to their concerns, thoughts, and emotions. They first can start by defining their needs by deciding what they want and need out of the relationship. Then they need to share their needs with each other without anger fueling the conversation. Rather than applying blame in a situation they should
She stays in her home and never comes out. The town is filled with hear say gossip and the townspeople only know what they hear about her. Nothing is understood until the sickening truth is found out about her. It is all just one big mystery to them until her bedroom is unlocked.
They turned her into the church and Leah ended up getting sent to Florida by the church. They sent her there for what they call "reprogramming." This cost Leah $300,000 and she had to send a note to Katie and apologize for the way she acted at the wedding. The source close to Tom Cruise shared how he feels about it all.
When Katie was a child she should have been taught by her parents how to be caring to others, but this proves that due to Katie not holding a strong relationship with her parents, she does not understand that it is in rude for a woman not to show compassion to her friends. Being caring to other is an important part of being a good friend. When a friends is put into a hurtful situation it is the responsibility as a decent person to show compassion for the given situation. Katie’s lack of compassion for Arthur’s loss is why O’Malley chose to not bring him back till the end of the book. So that Katie could feel how it felt to lose a friend because of her choices.
In conclusion, this all shows that Katie is wasting the rest of her life
Although Katie’s childhood was an unimaginable struggle, she claims that her family was incredibly important to her. At times, it seemed like the only “stable” thing her life. But in contrast, her family was always causing problems. Katie occasionally wishes she was raised in a different way, but in retrospect, she’s glad she went through everything she did. Without struggling and learning from her parent’s mistakes, she feels she wouldn’t be who she is today; a strong and determined woman. Now, Katie wants to concentrate all her attention on herself rather than focusing on her family. Katie does not want to follow her family’s footsteps, due to the fact that it robbed her of her childhood. Since she feels like she already “raised” a family,
During the July 4th celebration, Katie and Kristen found themselves fast asleep while Kevin was close to attacking them. Jo came to Katie in a dream and told her that Kevin had found her. Katie woke up alert and found her dream was true. Katie attempted to send Kevin away, in his intoxicated state. However, he ended up burning down Alex’s store and house.