Week 8
My Impacting Boyfriends
At some point in our lives us women enter the stage where we begin to date the opposite sex. We go through this experience to find out what kind of male we may become compatible with so that eventually we can label them as a boyfriend. While going through this stage we realize there are so many categories that boyfriends can be put into. Perhaps one must experience these different attributes to choose the right mate. I can speak of at least three different boyfriends that have left a lasting impression on me.
Have you ever had a Jealous Boyfriend? The one who does not understand nor know the meaning of the word trust. Always skeptical about what you are doing or where you are going. In his eyes everyone wants his lady, not to mention he also believes that people are trying to turn his
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He suffers with self-esteem issues. While his ego gets the best of him, when you see him he shows great power and confidence. Constantly he is questioning his girlfriend’s love for him, even loyalty too. If his girlfriend does not treat him well, he will think he is the root of the problem instead of seeking a better relationship. The behaviors most common in the Insecure Boyfriend include worrying about how long his girlfriend takes to return his phone calls, text or voicemails. Privacy is not given by the Insecure Boyfriend.
Always willing to discuss how to maintain a valuable relationship is the Reasonable Boyfriend. He always makes sure that he and his mate are comfortable. He admits his wrong without becoming defensive, abusive or irrationally angry. Usually the Reasonable Boyfriend is not fully emotionally available as the others I mentioned. The Jealous and Insecure Boyfriend tend to love hard and is blinded by that. Compromising is one of the greatest assets of the Reasonable Boyfriend. Sounds too good to be true but very hard to
The three prototypes explored are avoidant, anxious-ambivalent, and secure attachments which describes how partners will behave in close relationships and how caring and supportive each individual is within their relationship. Avoidant attached individuals are withdrawn from relationships and untrustworthy of others. Anxious-Ambivalent individuals worry often about their partner’s needs being fulfilled as well as theirs and analyze if they’re moving too fast in the relationship when compared to their partner. Secured individuals are completely trustworthy of their partner and confident in their feelings and
The majority of the time the person who is left longing for more than just a casual hookup is the female. Women, by nature, are more likely to become more emotionally attached, especially when it comes to sexual activities. However, most of the time, girls will be willing to play along with the game of hooking up. Perhaps, in hopes, that it will someday lead to something more. But, if and when it doesn’t, they can be left emotionally distraught. Girls will become attached to the person they are with and grow to have a sincere care for them. However, when it comes to picking a mate, boys are not as particular about the girl. A study, Age and gender differences in mate selection criteria for various involvement levels found that “men should be equally as selective as women with respect to long-term mates, but less selective than woman with respect to short-term mates criteria (Kenrick).” Boys are less likely to think about all aspects of girl when planning on hooking up with her, unlike girls. They are not as particular because they are just looking for
that you can’t keep as you must be able to gain there trust, and any break of consistency may
Especially when it comes to his friends
I can relate to this article because I was in a relationship with someone for almost eight years. Tannen mentions, “everyone knows that as a relationship becomes long-term, its terms change. But men and women often differ in how they expect them to change.” This is a highly accurate statement. I have experienced this within my past relationship.
Some people know jealousy as "green envy." Some people just know it as plain old jealousy, but everyone knows jealousy and the pain it can cause. Jealousy is a nasty emotion, causing nice people to act mean, calm people to act rash, and even the steadiest of tempers to rise. It lashes out with harsh actions and words, hurting many innocent victims. Jealousy causes people to act in abnormal ways, devious ways of hatred and deception, ways that most people would not normally act. Ultimately, jealousy is caused by a certain insecurity that a person has. This insecurity comes from not having what you desire, allowing you to be jealous of those who have it. Three main things that cause insecurity
A healthy relationship requires consistency and stability. According to Dr. John Gottman, a leading researcher in couple issues, “healthy couples have a 5 to 1 ratio of positive to negative behaviors. Unregulated couples have a much lower ratio of positive to negative behaviors.”
“Trust: belief that someone or something is reliable, good, honest, effective, etc.” (Merriam- Webster Dictionary). Distrust in a relationship occurs when the trust between two people is diminished. Distrust can have many negative affects on a person including: trust issues, anxiety, suspicion, fear of opening up, etc. Symptoms of distrust can depend on the severity of the distrust in the
I had an ex-boyfriend that I let him do whatever he wanted to do with me such as control me, he also didn't like me hanging out with my friends and not even my cousins. Let's call
Being jealous is the feeling envious of someone’s achievements or advantages. In A Separate Peace by John Knowles, the character Gene Forrester is very jealous of his best friend Finny. From the beginning of the book Gene always admits he is jealous of him, but Phineas never seems to notice how Gene is feeling. It is hard to admit jealousy but the way Knowles does it helps us realize that jealousy is a normal part of life.
I have experience a personal situation where I felt jealousy as an emotional reaction towards my current partner. I felt jealousy when I saw my boyfriend in campus having lunch with a girl who I did not know. Concluding on what I was watching my boyfriend was cheating on me with that girl. I was surprised because my partner fail to communicate what was going on in the situation I was witnessing. I was jealous to see my boyfriend with another girl participating in an intriguing conversation, I felt like I was being replaced by this stranger. As I tried to seek clarity
a person will do wild things when they are jealous because they don't know how to react to the feelings that they have because they don't necessarily understand the feelings that are inside of them. “ Beware of jealousy, my lord! It's a green-eyed monster that makes fun of the victims it devours” Jealousy can make a person do plenty of things that they may regret because they don't realize that they are doing instead things because they're jealous. most people
First, when people have their own perspective of relationship on how they should be maintained compared to how society or different cultures depict relationships. Because the five factors of personal attraction affect friendships and relationships because have a major impact on how we all deal with each other on different levels. When dating and in imamate relationships and friendships there has to be different attractions that keep us connected or disconnected from one another. First you are attracted to them by Proximity which means when you feeling close to someone, there is also familiarity, when you are attracted to someone that you see often then you also have to have a similar attraction to someone which is called, similarity is somethings that you have with people like others who are like them. Also there is Physical appearance, when you like someone looks, reciprocity, you are also more attracted to people that are like them. “There are five important factors that initiate and predict interpersonal attractions: proximity, familiarity, similarity, physical appearance and reciprocity in liking” (Clarke, 1952). When searching for a friendship and romantic relationship these are the five factors that would necessary when searching for a healthy friendship or relationship. When dealing with society and different cultures sometimes our opinion about the right friendship and relationships.
In a relationship, we have to know what we can, and cannot live without. Being in a relationship means nothing, no one is perfect and in a relationship, there
and doesn 't listen to her. He doesn 't like communcating with females and his perception of her is that she is just an