“Conflict itself is not dangerous to intimate relationships; it is the manner in which the conflict is handled…” I would like to start with this line that I found through the lecture in Human Sexuality Diversity in contemporary America - chapter 8. The reason is because it simply amazed me how much true this line has between its words. Coming from a divorced and conflict family, I grew up believing conflict between couples was something normal and had no solution nonetheless screaming or hurting (physical, emotional, or psychological) each other. I liked the idea of understanding how different a relationship can be and how all relationships suffer from conflict, though, how this book mentions “The ways in which couples deal with conflict, reflects
After the 19th century European history, we merge into American history. There was close to no studies done up until Post World War II. There was some encouraging growth for gay life that was very much apparent in Greenwich and Harlem in the 1920’s and this is also when the community adopted the pink and black triangle. The war allowed for gay men and lesbian women to insert themselves into the war efforts without being constantly chastised. There were efforts to work towards gaining more acknowledgement of this community. One of whom that led for this justice in the 1950’s was Senator Joseph McCarthy with his investigation of homosexuals in government positions. His investigation is what led up to the first politically inclined demand for
One thing that is a part of every person’s life on every day of every week of every month of every year is conflict. Conflict is something that people, no matter how they strive, cannot escape from. Whether the conflict on a certain day is on a large scale or it is a miniscule bump in the road, it can be said that there will always be conflict. When people encounter conflict, the sole thing on their minds is to devise a way to be rid of it. The way that a person responds to whatever conflict they are faced with is what determines success or failure. If a person meets the conflict head on and with a positive attitude, then it is almost certain to end in success. If a person meets the conflict with a negative attitude and tries to avoid it, then
Tocqueville saw America’s problems and knew it would lead to our current state. Tocqueville stated that democracy would lead to individualism and materialism. Today, Americans are apathetic towards many things. Instead of attempting to understand a subject, they don’t want to deal with it. When issues emerge, Americans want the government to take charge and end the debate by passing a law. For example, sexual orientation has been a widely-debated issue. There are two main sides: pro-LGBTQIA+ and those against LGBTQIA+. Those who are against LGBTQIA want the government to step in and make it illegal. But think about how ridiculous it is to outlaw something that is so personal. Sexual orientation does not affect others. People do not bleed every time they meet someone who is gay. Still, they want to control other people’s lives and who they choose to love. Government has taken a bigger role that the founding fathers were against. Government was only supposed to protect and provide for the people. Today, it has a much bigger role in individual’s personal lives. It is taking on the issues of sexual orientation, gender, which bathroom a transgender must use, and much more. These issues are social issues that the government should not be involved in. There is so much more that needs the attention of government officials. For example, the education system, healthcare, tax reform, war, and more. The power we have given government can lead to a tyranny. The more power given to the
Throughout the years many schools have been caught paying their athletes money when they are not allowed to. The National Collegiate Athletic Association, or the NCAA, makes billions of dollars every year because of the popularity of their sports.When the school has a successful season they are making millions of dollars and as a result, some schools are breaking the rules and they are trying to pay players and recruits to entice them to come to their school so they can make even more money. This has lead to a corrupt system and has many people asking whether it would be better to just pay college athletes or not.
A relationship is defined as a way in which two or more concepts, objects, or people are connected, or the state of being connected. “Mariam Webstar 11/01/16” Webstar also states that a relationship can also be a romantic or sexual friendship between two people. In many states under public view, a relationship is supposed to between a man and a woman, however, the era of a relationship being between a man and a woman is over. Now a days, the publics eye has ben more accepting of homosexuality in America. A recent article posted on www. Gallup.com, stated “Over the last few decades, landmark legal cases, medical discoveries, and movies and TV shows have done much to increase acceptance toward homosexuality in American culture {.}”
We blame ourselves, and then we start to question our likability, and we wonder why we don't have that fantasy group of friends that everybody else in the world must have. Conflict is a process in which people disagree over significant issues, thereby creating friction (Lulofs & Cahn, 2000). This is not a simple occurrence, but there needs to be various factors included for it to be considered a conflict. Both parties must have opposing interests, thoughts, perceptions, and feelings, and they must then recognize the existence of different points of view (Lulofs & Cahn, 2000). In addition, the disagreement is not just a one time event but something that continuously occurs. Though it can be destructive it can also be beneficial, for example a relationship with little to no conflict leads to complacency but a relationship with too much conflict can lead to dysfunctional behaviors by both
The article concludes that conflict will arise in relationships and that men and women typically handle conflict in different ways. Furthermore, it examines the various approaches each gender takes when dealing with conflict. For example, females are taught at an early age to discuss issues, “value relationships”, and be adaptive when confronting conflict (Wood, p. 212). Males , on the other hand, are socialized to not talk about conflict, be more aggressive, and try to fix
In conclusion, interpersonal conflicts arise often during times of miscommuniction or the lack of transparency in relationships. In order to maintain healthy relationships, couple should practice more positive relationship maintenance behaviors like creating a safe place to offer advice and practice conflict management to resolve their interpersonal conflicts. It is how each party handles the situation that can determine if the relationship can overcome conflicts and be able to maintain the relationship or if the challenges are too damaging and will hinder the growth of the
When I think about diversity in the world I too think about diversity when it comes to sexual orientation. Sometimes I think -- How is sexual identity developed? What influences who we become sexually? Why is there such diversity in sexual orientation? To be quite frank, there are no correct or incorrect answers to these questions. The idea of sexual orientation and behavior is a very complex one. What was true in the past is certainly different than the norm today. When I researched the various psychological theories and methodologies of measuring one’s sexuality, naturally I came across the work of Dr. Alfred Kinsey, the creator of the Kinsey scale.
Conflicts occur in our relationship when we find dissimilarities in our opinion. It is very natural that disagreements come to the relationships, and conflicts occur. There are no interpersonal relationships without conflicts (Wood 230). Conflicts may also come in romantic relationships. Now, what is romantic relationship? As Wood says, self-concept, proximity, and similarity are the three main things which have greatest influences on initial attraction. Personal identity is the first thing to observe, then comes the proximity. When people can give time to each other, they may find similarities between them, and those similarities may lead
Is the day coming when business owners in America will have the ability to refuse to serve someone with whom they disagree? Imagine seeing a sign that says “We Don’t Serve Gays” in the window of a coffee shop. Most people would voice their outrage; they would demand an explanation of the owner, wondering what could have spurred the idea for such a discriminatory sign. Should the owner keep his or her sign up only because homosexuality is against their moral beliefs?
Whether you believe it or not, every single person excluding no one is born with a sexual orientation. Most may have grown up in a family where you just knew that a man was supposed to be with a woman, and no one questioned it because it was “normal”. Then we have some people in society who were adopted by families all a crossed the world who found themselves in a home where the parents were of the same sex. We find again that we asked no questions because it was “normal”. Americans find themselves in quite the debacle these days because of prejudice. We find all sorts of Americans being prejudice whether you are a homosexual, bisexual, or heterosexual. All the negative attitudes based on sexual orientation have seemed too taken over
I think that conflicts that are resolved with equal effort and commitment tend to help relationships grow stronger and last longer. For example, if my boyfriend and I got into an argument and equally communicated with one another and resolved the issue as soon as possible, this would result in a growth in our relationship. Now if my boyfriend and I got into an argument and refused to talk about and work out the problem, this would result in bigger problems and larger decisions need to be made regarding the relationship itself. Conflicts are not always classified as bad conflicts. If conflicts are constantly occurring throughout a relationship and there is not equal effort being put in on both sides of the relationship to resolve these issues, then this is no longer improving or building a relationship. This is when I believe that the two need to figure out if their relationship is worth their while. Bad conflicts are those that are not dealt with equally between the two involved and their intentions are not to overcome and build a stronger relationship. Good conflicts are those that are worked out equally and help build the relationship as time moves on. The chapter provides ways to approach a conflict and how to handle it. There are five ways people generally handle conflicts: avoidance, accommodation, competition, reactivity, or
In this assignment I interviewed two homosexual Iranians that moved to Norway because of the persecution in their home country. To be attracted to the same sex in Iran is considered an illness, and many people find themselves helpless regarding to get information about it. If you go to your family or friends for support, they will say that your have a sickness, since they have never heard about this either. The only thing that the government does to help these people is providing them with the opportunity of a sex change. If they object they will be executed. In Norway homosexuality is open, and people are educated about different sexual orientation from the primary school, there is also a telephone support system for people that have
Beaton, Norris, and Pratt (2003) support this by claiming that unresolved issues do not necessarily cause tension in the family. “From our perspective, conflict refers to those issues in relationships that couples overtly verbally or nonverbally express continually” (Beaton, Norris, & Pratt, 2003, p. 144). Although they focus on intergenerational communications within the family, they point out that unresolved issues concerning intergenerational differences can create problems in marital relationships. So it is more important to focus on reasons why individuals choose to create continuous conflict, and why it is so important to impose personal opinions and beliefs on other people. Understanding what determines human behavior is the only way to understand why