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Grief And Trauma

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Introduction:
I have learned a lot in the Intro to Abuse course, including how I respond to traumatic events; how abuse affects attachment and how my caregivers affected my self-esteem; my resiliency as well as the skills, traits and professionalism necessary to work effectively with abused children. I will use this knowledge to develop a better understanding of myself and to become a better Child and Youth Care practitioner.
Grief and Trauma:
This course has taught me how I respond to traumatic events. For example, this past summer, I was demoted without warning from a job in which I was extremely invested in and passionate about. On day three of my job, I was suddenly transferred involuntarily from my position working with children with special …show more content…

As a young child, my parents unintentionally negatively impacted my self-esteem in a variety of different ways. Due to my undiagnosed learning disability, I often misinterpreted or failed to understand rules and instructions without my parents realizing it. I would frequently get in trouble because I broke a rule or failed to do what my parents wanted me to without even knowing it. My parents thought that I was just being difficult so they would yell at me or punish me and because I had no idea what I had done wrong, I felt like I was a bad kid because I was always getting in trouble. I would also misinterpret what my parents were trying to say a lot of the time, which was also often damaging to my self-esteem. For example, when I scored my first goal playing hockey I was so excited and proud of myself and thought my parents would be too, since they would always tell our family if one of my siblings scored. However, my dad told me that “he did not care if I scored a goal” and I interpreted it to mean that he did not care about me or that I scored and only cared if my siblings did, but what he meant was that he was proud of me whether I scored or not as long as I was doing my best. My parents also damaged my self-esteem by belittling me or shaming me when they got frustrated because I was not doing what they wanted. For example, my parents would say things like, “why can’t you be more like your sister, she can put her seat belt on, why can’t you?”. This led me to feel like there was something wrong with me and that I wasn’t good enough. It also caused me to start comparing myself to my siblings, which made me feel inadequate because it seemed like no matter how hard I tried, I could never measure up to what they could do. However, once my parents discovered that I had a learning disability that caused me to misinterpret nonverbal, social and complicated verbal cues, they did their best to

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