Gay Couples: Appropriate And Unfit Parents

While straight parents may have “oops” babies, or “accidents”, this does not occur with homosexual parents. Most gay couples have a plan to have babies, whether chose to try and adopt, find surrogates or sperm donors, or use other methods. After having to go through such acts, gay couples tend to be more motivated, and more committed to their children than

Numerous studies have been conducted on various facets of gay relationships. Focusing on the levels of interaction, and people’s ability to love a child just like any other straight couple. When individuals who have no clue about gay marriage or even gay families start to think and question the issue it sounds like, ‘Wait, isn’t having gay parents hard on the children?’ People immediately jump to conclusions because they haven’t done research or even tried to observe the situation itself. The talk about gay adoption is becoming more relevant in the world. There is a rising amount of open same-sex couples everywhere and many of them would love to have kids, but it’s still illegal for same-sex couples to adopt children in the U.S., let alone

Are kids at a disadvantage growing up in a household with same sex parents? Do they grow up developmentally delayed, psychosocially impaired, or morally confused? Is the traditional one mother, one father custom the best way to raise our children and does the role of each parent, mother and father, truly have an impact on the way the child holistically is risen to become. These are all questions that most homosexual couples, orphanage/adoption centers, surrogate mothers, egg donors, social workers, and the general lay people think of. It is quite normal for the general public to have concerns about homosexual couples adapting or having children for it was not till recently till that United States and other countries started excepting homosexual couples as the norm. A plethora of studies and research projects have been and are continuing to be conducted by a

According to an organization called Lifelong Adoptions who are registered with the Registry of California Adoption Facilitators, “Many gay couples form relationships that are more stable than many heterosexual marriages.” (LGBT 1). Which allow the couple to be together longer and have a longer life together. The more stable relationship will be a good relationship model for the child because studies have shown the type of partner children tend to grow up having are based around the stability of their parents relationship. Again according to the organization Lifelong Adoptions who are registered with the Registry of California Adoption Facilitators, “Children of gay parents report they felt less hindered by gender stereotypes than they might have been if raised in a heterosexual household.” (LGBT 1). Being tied down to gender stereotypes and not letting a child explore their curiosity is a difficult topic to get around for most, because many people have encountered sayings like,“Boys can’t wear pink.” or “You throw like a girl.”. Without those sayings being said by the ones the children are being raised by, they feel less likely to have limitations exploring who they are and what they want to be growing

Child welfare services and the ACLU would agree that thecircumstances remain ideal for the child because having homosexual parents poses nodisadvantage to children (ACLU 2).The gay community is becoming more and more prominent in American society. Whatwas once an extremely ³closeted´ life style, is integrating itself into our everyday lives. As morerights are granted to gay and lesbian people, the more normal they are going to seem to everyoneelse. I¶m confident that my future children will grow up accepting homosexuality and that astime goes on, so will the rest of the country. So if the gay community is going to become sosignificant in our lives, shouldn¶t we grant them equal rights? If we can accept gays and lesbiansas people, partners, workers, and friends, why can¶t we accept them as good parents? When youlook at it logically, the exclusion of homosexuals as adoptive parents just doesn¶t make sense.³Love makes a family, not biology or gender,´ says gay dad Robert Calhoun about hisexperience as an adoptive father. Calhoun and his partner Clay of Avondale Estates, Georgiahave adopted two children-- four-year-old daughter Rainey and eighteen-month-old son Jimmy.Calhoun adds, ³We¶re not moms, we¶re not heterosexual, and we¶re not biological parents, [but]we¶re totally equal and just as loving as female parents, straight parents, and biological parents.´(Gandossy 1 ) The Calhouns certainly seem capable of providing just as much love and

“There is no scientific basis for concluding that lesbian mothers or gay fathers are unfit parents on the basis of their sexual orientation” (Armesto, 2002; Patterson, 2000; Tasker & Golombok, 1997). Ever since gay and lesbians have been parents people have questioned how the parents’ sexual orientation impacts child and adolescent development. Opponents of same-sex parents argue that sexual orientation has a negative impact on child development, while proponents argue that the relationship between the child and parents is what matters. National, state, and local governments are faced with the controversy surrounding same-sex parenting. People have very strong opinions on both sides of the argument. Children and adolescents who are under lesbian or gay parents have normal child development compared with children under heterosexual parents. These children develop normally socially, mentally, and academically.

Recently, research has shown that gay and lesbian parents share the parental characteristics of support, protection, and stability that children need. Sexual orientation should not be problem when adopting children. Children adopted by same-sex couples are more likely to be placed with parents who are patient, dedicated to their children, and have respect for the differences of the

Many states laws deny children in foster care, healthy, loving homes simply because of a potential parent’s sexual orientation (Gray, 2006), The catholic church as well as other organization’s oppose gay adoption based upon religious teachings, while others debate the legality of it (Gray, 2006). In today’s society, many children grow up to be emotionally stable and successful whether they have a heterosexual couple as parents or a same sex couple as parents. Gay parent adoptions are an equal right, as they are becoming more mainstream and are as equally stable as heterosexual adoptions.

Several studies have shown that couples of the same sex are more financially stable than couples of the opposite sex and the children would be psychologically better off if they were adopted. “Same sex couples had higher education levels and greater economic status than the opposite sex couples and that both parents in the same sex couple were more likely to be employed” (Rosman). In some situations, a child is better off being adopted by a same sex couple. They would be able to always provide for their child and give them a better life than what they would have had if they were not adopted and put in the foster care system. “There were no significant differences between teenagers living with same-sex parents and those living with other sex parents on self reported assessments of psychological well being, such as self esteem and anxiety; measures of school outcomes, such as grade point averages and trouble in school; or measures of family relationships,

Not a single study has found a difference (between children of gay and straight parents) that you can construe as harmful. (Dan Gilgoff, 2005) While the debate continues on whether or not to allow gay couples to adopt, the numbers of children with gay parents keeps increasing. Children with gay parents thrive and continue to do just as well as children in straight homes.

Gay parents are facing discrimination because of their sexual orientation. Twenty-two states currently allow single gays to adopt and 21 states currently allow gay and lesbian couples to adopt in the U.S. (Mallon, 2007, p. 6). The ability of gay couples to rear a child should not be denied only because they are gay. Homosexuals may be looked down upon by society, but they still are humans and have morals. These morals they possess, may influence a child more than those morals taught to a child with heterosexual parents. All over the world, children suffer in families consisting of alcoholics, drug abusers, and sexual abusers (Powell, 2007, p.1). It is not possible that these environments are safer than what would be provided by homosexual

Because, I only though about the fact that the kids will be bully or made fun at school. But, never stop to think if they could actually provide a safe home with values and love. However, I’ve been mistaken same-sex couples are equally as capable of raising children, as a heterosexual couple. Because, similar to foster care and adoption, children thrives in families which are stable and that provide permanent security. You can also argue that they also are more prepare, because they choose to have kids rather then having by accident. They are fully commit and often choose the neediest one when adopting. Their kids will grow up to be tolerant and open-minded, something that is needed in this society. There is no boundaries or right-or- wrong anymore, anyone should fulfilled their need or desire to be a parent if they really want to, because most likely these will be the ones which will provide much more care and love to their children in today’s dysfunctional society. Even though I have previously form and strong opinion on this matter. This stamens was wrong, just because a couple is from a man and a women does not mean that automatically are excellent

A study by Pediatrics on June 7, 2010 shows that children with lesbian mothers tend to have fewer social problems and academic and social expertise than children with heterosexual parents. A study operated in July 2010 shows that children with gay fathers are just as well-adjusted just as those with heterosexual parents. Research also proves that children with gay parents tend to be more healthier and have strong family bonds. Same sex couples also would not care about the typical, or what is considered normal, gender roles which can lead to a happier home for the child. More than 16,000 gay couples are raising over 22,000 adopted children and those children are no different than those raised by a straight

Since the early 1900s, homosexual people have become increasingly popular and greatly resisted. People that are homosexual face barriers placed upon them by the political system and society. Due to these challenges, homosexuals fought to have the same marital and parental rights as heterosexual people. Same-sex adoption is not prohibited in most states in the United States of America and many places worldwide. Family is not determined solely on blood relations and should be legalized in all parts of the world; because homosexual parents are just as good as heterosexual parents, if not better, and can provide an enriching second chance for many children waiting to be adopted.

Nowadays, the question of gay marriage is one of the most heated and controversial. Over the years, same-sex couples are fighting for the legal recognition for their marriages and their right as parents. Parenthood is one of the most valuable experiences in a human life. After finding a partner, it is natural for people to want to raise children. Homosexual parent are the same in ability and commitment to raised healthy children. It would be a big step for improvement in our society to provide necessary support and rights for same-sex couples and their children.