Forgiveness In Susan Aglukark's O Siem

People are taught to “forgive and forget” in order to be happy, afterall living with a grudge can being a serious damper in ones life.

In FYS we were taught many ways to live in the world through the stories we read, speeches we listen to, and the projects we did. In the book, Ordinary Grace, by William Kent Krueger, The Chosen, by Chaim Potok, and Destiny of The Republic, by Candice Millard, I saw a few prominent themes of how one should live. In these three books I learned about the author 's voice through their writings. I saw how one should live their life. In these books the authors shared common themes through their writings. The authors showed how to live life with forgiveness and live life with faith. Krueger and Potok both showed me through their novels how to forgive someone and they did this by showing that there is a bigger picture in

Throughout the novel of Out of the Dust written by Karen Hesse, Billie Jo and her father illustrate how forgiveness is needed to be human, especially after Ma died. In the early days of Ma's death, Billie Jo and her father went through a rough time of depression and Billie Jo needed to forgive her father. Billie Jo could not forgive her father for leaving the destructive pail on the counter and going to the bar when his family needed him most. Billie Jo and her father began to part ways because they "[could] [not] soothe each other... [they] do[not] know how to talk anymore" (Hesse 1047).

For one to have true closure, one must forgive. In John Grisham’s Bleachers, people from the town of Messina are intertwined in a web of forgiveness with each other. Some characters are asking for forgiveness and others are wondering whether to or to not forgive. One may ask how a football player could forgive his coach for hitting him and breaking his nose or how a woman could forgive the man that broke her heart. Another may ask how a mother and father could ever forgive the man who caused the death of their son. It comes down to one thing. When one has the strength and courage to accept what has happened and forgive, there can be closure.

Forgiveness is important when ending a feud. When people forgive each other, they realize that it provides more happiness than hatred does. In the short story, “The Interlopers” by Saki, Georg and Ulrich have a change of heart after a three generation feud.

Forgiveness is a powerful word, of which has a powerful impact. But what does forgiveness mean? To what does one owe to be forgiven? Forgiveness is a process that oneself must teach to achieve. The book Left to Tell by Immaculée Ilibagiza exemplifies forgiveness and gives us as readers a new perspective.

Forgiveness is letting go of all the negative feelings toward another. In The Glass Castle, Jeanette Walls show countless times that she doesn’t hold her parents accountable for the countless things that they have done. There are moments where her parents made her feel dreadful, but in the end, she finds a way to forgive them. Sammy Rangel, the founder of Formers Anonymous, stated, “We do not have to be victims of our own stories...but interestingly enough stories are a way out [our suffering]. We hold the power to change our story.” Walls overlooked all of the heinous actions her

In John Grisham’s Bleachers, many of the characters are seeking forgiveness; forgiveness from Coach Rake, themselves, past relationships, or from teammates. Everybody wants to be forgiven, they do not want to live their entire lives and not be forgiven by someone. If one asks for forgiveness, they will have a better chance of being forgiven than one who does not ask. In the letter from Eddie Rake that was read at his funeral, he admitted his two regrets, “Only two regrets in thirty-four years...

When it comes to righting a wrong, someone should always choose the correct way of doing so. However the question is, is redemption the right way or is revenge the key to righting a wrong? If someone wants to fix a wrong the correct way that even after many years, there is still peace, tranquility, and progress. Then redemption is the best permanent way to righting a wrong rather than revenge that only gives false satisfaction in the moment.

Forgiveness is very important throughout life. If people don't forgive, they are going to be stuck in the past always remembering about the mistake that person did. Forgiving someone can make yourself feel better because you know you forgave that person and there's no negativity between you and that person.

Forgiveness can be tough to tackle. Whether it be forgiving a friend, a family member, or something that happened in the past, it is extremely difficult to move on without forgiveness. The process of forgiveness can grow easier with age. Although for some, the process of forgiving never becomes easier. They live their whole lives feeling bad for themselves instead of forgiving the actions of the past and moving forward with their lives. The sooner one learns to forgive, the easier it will be to move on. In the novel The Kite Runner by Khaled Hosseini, Amir and Soraya both struggle with forgiving events from the past.

For most people, our first thought when we have been hurt by someone is to either get revenge or receive the worst punishment they can get for their offense. Instead of our first thought is to get back at the person what if we learn why they caused the harm they did, learn to forgive them, help them to not cause the harm to someone else. The United States criminal justice system focuses on just punishing the offender which does not help the victim or the offender, also known as retributive justice. Sometime during the 1970's a new system started to evolve called restorative justice. Restorative Justice is a criminal justice system focus attention on the rehabilitation of offenders through reuniting with victims and the community.

Throughout life everyone has been in a situation where they were offended or they have offended someone else. Therefore, forgiving someone is therapeutic for the victim, and the offended. However, when someone is wronged, justice is what they seek. On the contrary, when people feel pain from being wronged, they experience an “injustice gap.” Worthington defines “injustice gap” as, “the difference between the way the person would like a transgression to be resolved, and the way things are perceived to be currently” (Worthington Jr, 2005, pg. 121).

Forgiveness have important medicinal effect on health. Researchers and study have shown that people who forgive have less chances of health issues like heart attack and brain tumor. “People who hold tolerance views of human nature and don’t seem to nurse grieveness unduly tend to have blood pressures in the normal range” (Callwood, J. 2007, p. 153). Writer in the above findings tells her readers the medicinal effect of tolerance. She beautifully explains the positive effect of forgiveness in contrast with unforgiveness where her contrasting finding says “Unforgiving people, some studies show, are three times more likely to have heart diseases as people who don’t carry grudges”(Callwood, J. 2007, p.153). Writer here is addressed to people who cannot or do not forgive and tells them how harmful holding grudges are to their health. She beautifully explains the finding by telling first the negative effect of not forgiving in comparison to

Reconciliation is stated as “restoration of a state of peace to the relationship, where the entities are at least not harming each other, and can begin to be trusted not to do so in future, which means that revenge is foregone as an option” (Santa-Barbara, 174). This definition is a starting point in understanding reconciliation but does not address the spirit of forgiveness involved. It is important to recognize harms that others have done but it becomes necessary to portray these in a positive and understanding manner. This supplies the persecutor with an image that is not so negative and “monster-like” but also provides for the victim acknowledgement that there has been harm done. For reconciliation to take place, all parties involved