I have always loved working with children. My first job was at Ellison Youth Inc. summer camp and I was a counselor. I interacted with campers between the ages of six through ten. Based on the managers observed she offered me a position during the school year with the after school program. Any environment I’m in I always seem to gravitate towards children and this is when I learned that working with children was my passion. Prior to this time I had no idea this was my passion I knew I just knew I enjoyed working with kids. There was always a sense of self-gratification. So when I found out I was pregnant I was in for a treat. I was always with other people’s children and now I was going to have one that will be here with me every second of the day. I was not able to give this one back; this child will not be with me for a small duration of time this child will be with me forever. I knew I had to make sure my child will be well-rounded. Meaning that he or she will have compassion for others, create and maintaining an academic foundation and possessing values. I had to make …show more content…
So it was important for me to identify and maintain the things that I thought were best to reach my goal of raising my child successfully. I decided that will implement a schedule, be firm on the expectations and acknowledge behaviors that will result in consequences. I had to be fair, remembering when I was young and not having an opportunity to express my feelings and have a say in what was more desirable for me. I made a conscious decision earlier on that I will not put stress of that nature onto my child. Finally, my parenting style will establish a safe boundary between being firm and friendly. I believe that firm communication can exist without screaming profusely and making any child feel as if there inferior to the world. I believe that you do not have to break down some before you will actually build them
As summarized, different types of parenting, personalities, and reinforcement/punishment influence the way that a child develops, but the general solution to having the best parenting technique is to remain in the middle, or to implement a bit of all in the development of the
My parenting style is shown through the many different decisions I made throughout my child’s development. When making certain decisions I asked myself how I was going to assess the situation. How was I going to make the decision where it would benefit me and my child in the future? I would describe my parenting style as very disciplined, however, laid back during certain situations. When there was a problem I made the decision to address the problem with my child. For example, at 18 months, Leo started saying the word “no” and started to refuse help. I made the decision to let him choose between two choices which are both options that I want him to do. This allowed my child to become an active part in making choices during a certain situation. At three years old, Leo was being pushed around in school and was lacking leadership abilities. I made the decision to arrange play dates with other kids and praised Leo for sharing and communicating appropriately with the other children. During adolescence, Leo’s self-esteem was pretty high,
Alternative ways of discipline on children include; directing a child with positive instructions and commands rather than negative ones. Every parent should learn to set rules for their children from a positive approach to the situation unless in cases where it is very necessary that they use the negative figures of speech. Parents and caregivers should also allow their children to express their negative feelings and emotions such as anger and disappointment. They should then empathize with them and ask to help them in any way but at the same time stand a firm ground if the child is in the wrong. It is also important that as a parent, they have to remain as specific as possible in telling their children what they want or don’t want them to
First is for the person raising the child to be a nurturing parent. All children and people really want to know that they are special, loved and are capable of pursuing their dreams. Second is to help someone, whether their a friend, relative or neighbor. I haven’t experienced it first hand, but I’ve seen how difficult being a parent can be. Offering help to someone who needs it could make all the difference
Meanwhile, it would be difficult to not mention the joy I am afforded because of my love for childcare. Whether expressed verbally or by gifts like drawings, I deeply value the sense of appreciation I receive from the children. Ultimately, I seek to provide them with an example to emulate and as a result, I play an significant role in the
If I was able to pursue one passion for the rest of my life, it would be to work as a pediatric physical therapist. My passion for medicine led me to this profession in 6th grade, when I was able to go to a STEM trip hosted by medical students and get a feel for what physical therapy was. I immediately fell in love with the profession and the different tools they used to perform the necessary treatment for their patient’s recovery. Furthermore, the reason for my interest in specializing in children is due to my love for working with children. I grew up with a mother who was a babysitter and by the age of 10, I would help her babysit the children. I also began to work with children at my church, by the age of 11 creating social events such
Throughout raising my daughter I tried my best to facilitate independence within reason. I allowed her to make as many decisions as possible so that she could flourish and become who she chose to be. I balanced discipline with warmth. For example, when my daughter first started driving she hit another car I knew that this was a scary mistake she did lose her driving privilege for a short amount of time and had to save up the money to pay the insurance. I feel that the repercussion taught her to be more careful without making her fearful of driving. Another example of my authoritative parenting would be when I question the group of friends Nameste would keep I allowed her to use her own judgment and I would only step in when necessary. Even when my daughter was younger I would allow her to determine if someone else could hold her my goal with this is allowing her to establish that she had some control of her life (Manis 2014). This style forges a strong bond between child and parent. It also allows and encourages autonomy of the child. Corrective moments are used for teaching and helping the child to understand why something is right or wrong. The child is encouraged to express their thoughts, feelings, and desires. By allowing the child to voice their opinion and to take it into consideration the child feels more secure and independent in their life (Berk & Meyers p. 393,
I would love to say that this style of parenting has helped my family and me in so many ways. Both of my children are honor roll students, excelling above their peers; it has even granted my oldest a spot in the National Beta Club. Not only do they excel in school, but they are also honestly the best children any parent could wish for; they are so full of life, respect, and wiliness to help in any way they possibly can. I can wholeheartedly say this is because negative punishment is the best, nurturing way to teach children right from wrong all while being respectful of their feelings. Communication is essential as an adult, so it comes as no surprise if we teach children from a young age, they can become successful
Baby-sitting is the experience that a lot of here have in common. A lot of the times, we don’t realize how much of an impact baby-sitting can have on our outlook on life. As a young girl, I always knew that I wanted to work with children. As I grew older and progressed more in my career working with adults with intellectual and developmental disabilities, I realized that it was it was time to make that flip and work with children with intellectual and developmental disabilities. My cousin is in the process of opening a shelter for battered children, and once I obtain my degree, I plan to go work for her. Dealing with children can sometimes be overwhelming, but I feel that with everything we’re going to learn in this class, we’ll do just fine
I will explain why I have chosen the path of teaching, besides the obvious love that I have for children. I started my career out in nursing before I had children of my own. I have been a stay-at-home mom for almost 10 years; my son is 13 and my daughter is 9. I just turned 40 and I've reached a point in life that I am ready to get back into the working field. I have so many people ask me why I am not going back into nursing. I loved caring for the sick, as well as being involved with the families throughout the entire patient care process. I could never and would never be a pediatric nurse of any kind. I love kids too much. That's something that takes a special person and that's just not me. Over the last 2-3 years, I have worked
I know children need positive male figures and part of me still wants to push through the struggle and work with them. However, because of the constant struggle I have been experiencing and the fact I have so many other interests, that I could see myself moving away from working with children as my primary vocation. Maybe I just work with older kids, I don’t know. I am not sure what all of this will look like and I think it is going to take some time for me to figure it out, but I’m okay with
It is impossible for child psychologists to come up with a universal parenting guide, because the parents must change their family process to fit their child’s personality. What works for one child might not work for another child, because each child is unique and has their own personality characteristics. For example, Runco mentions how some children strive under competition, whereas other children capitulate under pressure (Runco, 2014, p. 152). It is also important for parents to adjust their styles and activities to fit the child. One way of doing this would be to expose their children to activities and experiences that match their personality. Parents reactions to how their child behaves must also be adjusted to fit the child’s needs.
While looking for employment after the birth of my youngest child, I wanted a position that will allow me to blossom in my beloved career field of Child Development. My love and caring for children dates back to my early age, when I was always the one taking my role of “Big Sister” very seriously. As I grew older and it was time to decide on a career, I entertained the Medical Field because of its lucrativeness but that didn’t feel natural at all. I liked science and nursing did made feel like I was making an impact into people’s lives but I was slowly but surely becoming unhappy. That’s when I had an honest talk with myself and searched within myself what made me so happy when I was a kid - and there it was, taking care of my younger siblings.
It’s okay to have rules and expectations, but they shouldn’t be introduced in ways that the child will feel controlled, or insecure which could lead to explosive behavior (Greening, Stoppelbein, & Luebbe, 2010). The rules and expectations should be more flexible and provide room for the child to implement their own ideas and allow them to make their own mistakes because there will be a point in life where they will need to make their own judgment without the help of others. However, this does not mean that rules should be so relaxed that the child is basically the one running the house. In other words, each side should be asking: “What does the parent/child expect and/or need of me?”, and “Where is our middle ground?” Communication shouldn’t exist solely for mitigation or arguments when something is going wrong. It should exist for the sake of developing a lasting bond so as to create a space where the persons involved feel safe, and not judged; a place where they can always fall back on when they have strayed a little too far (Hickman, Bartholomae, & McKenry, 2000). As much as we think parents are the wiser, and the more reliable because of experience, they are learning from the child just as much as the child is learning from the parent, and therefore, are also in need of a space (Pinquart & Silbereisen, 2004). Both sides are in need of gaining
My approach to parenting is to stay open-minded and flexible as possible. I see my child as an individual: a person whose voice is valid and important; this does not mean I go easy when it comes to disciplining her. She is well aware of the boundaries within our relationship. She can talk to me about any and everything at any time. I make time regardless of the situation, even if it means setting a time to address a concern. My parenting style emerged from deep, inner self-reflection and the need to change inherited, dysfunctional dynamics from my own upbringing. This year my daughter turns 18, and I’m beginning to see the results of my efforts.